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So uh, hey! I'm new here. I've been stalking these forums for around two months now. I'm not sure if I want to create a tulpa because of the impact that can have on my life, so here are a few questions that might convince me to create one or not.

 

If your tulpa wants to front a lot, but can't because of some reason, how do you work that out? I don't even know how I would switch without being private somewhere. As I feel like people would immediately notice something off when I would do it in public. Thing is, I am not often in a private space.

 

I heard that tulpas might want their own IRL friends, what if I am not able to get them friends because I can't switch in public?

 

Is your wonderland perspective first person or third person? If first person, do you have a form that your tulpa can see? 

(Just to note: I have been creating a wonderland just for myself, which is going nicely so far. I'm a very visual person, everything almost looks vivid and life-like. Just a tad darker. I mostly look from first person, but I can move the "camera" to third person. The first time I did this surprised me, as I apparently have a different form than I have in real life. I am not surprised by what form I took though, it's an avatar I have for myself in a few other places. Is this normal?)

 

To more introverted hosts: with a fully developed tulpa, do you get any alone-time? A time where they won't talk to you at all. I feel like a life-long companion would be great... but only if they can leave me alone for a while.

 

Is there a minimum time you need to spend daily active forcing? I've been working on my wonderland mostly just before I go to sleep, this takes around half an hour, if I spend that amount of time forcing, would that be enough? Does passive forcing have an impact on this? I feel like I would be able to passive force a lot, but not do active forcing as much.

 

Do you ever get tired of each other? I know arguments can be solved. But I'm talking about things getting old between you, like a married couple. How do you solve that? You can't just divorce like a marriage in some cases.

 

Do any of your friends know? How did you introduce them to tulpamancy? (And to younger tulpamancers like me who still live with their parents, how did you introduce them to your parents? If you did at all.)

 

How does blending feel?

 

Does forcing get boring after a while?

 

To tulpamancers that have a tulpa the same gender as them (more specifically female tulpamancers with female tulpas. You don't see those here often!), do you have trouble figuring out your mindvoices?

 

 

And lastly, I might have unintentionally been creating a tulpa already. I have come up with a personality for her, and I have started roleplaying what her responses might be to different situations whenever I come across one. Can roleplaying like that turn into parroting?

 

I think that's everything, sorry for cramming everything into one topic. I hope that's alright?

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Woah, that's more questions than I expected. But I can try to answer some of them :D

 

I don't really have a lot of experience on tulpas actually wanting to front a lot, since the only one that actually does is kind of 'meh' about it all, most of the time. If you spend all the time surrounded by people who know you it could be tricky, but if you ever find yourself going shopping alone, it's a pretty great opportunity for the tulpa to front. Even if it's just getting groceries. I do that with Desmond a lot, though it's not because it's the only time I'm alone, just because there isn't much else to do around here than just walking around. We don't fully switch, I'm still very much aware of what's happening.

 

Can't really say much about IRL friends since I don't really have any to speak of myself :D Desmond and I share a few online friends, which has been enough for us.

 

I just always use my real life form in wonderland, and my tulpas can see it. I go in first person because it's much easier for me, but sometimes I just observe from different angles "outside" of my form, if that makes sense. It's normal to have a different form in your wonderland, in my opinion.

 

I'm very much introverted, and so are most of my tulpas. But even when the most active one of them doesn't leave me alone, it doesn't really bother me like an actual physical person would. There has never been a time where I felt uncomfortable in their presence. I guess it's different for everyone, but for me the "bond" between us is just so different from human relationships that I don't get exhausted at all from spending time with them. However, your tulpa should be able to leave you alone if you want them to. They might want alone time themselves, sometimes :D None of my tulpas are actually fully "present" 24/7.

 

I don't think there's a minimum time to forcing, just do what feels best for you. When I was just starting with my tulpas I'd passive force almost constantly, and active force when I sat down with nothing to do, like during bus trips or waiting for the next class to start. Nowadays I don't think anything I do with them could be counted as any sort of forcing, though I should probably get back to that at some point ^^"

 

I kinda answered this one above, but no, we don't seem to get tired of each other. At least not during the three years they've been around.

 

One of my irl friends knows, don't really know if I can even call her that anymore since I've grown so distant from everyone, but that's because she's the one who told me about tulpas in the first place. The rest of them are never going to find out, probably. I just don't see a point in trying to explain it to others because it is a somewhat delicate subject and could just make you look like a crazy person.

 

Desmond: Blending is incredibly uncomfortable. At least it is for me, host doesn't seem to mind it as much. I wanna feel as separate as possible.

 

For me, blending is just sort of confusing. Like not being sure if what you're doing is really you and your tulpa being equally confused about it. Feeling their possible extra body parts (tail, wings, etc) on your body is also kind of strange.

 

I can't remember if I ever got bored while forcing, it's always been more of a lack of motivation than anything. When I did manage to force it was mostly just pleasant.

 

I'm a female tulpamancer with two female tulpas, but all of mine started with a similar voice to mine, which is somewhat neutral and I can't really even "hear" my own mindvoice like I do my tulpas'. So figuring them out was equally challenging for all of them, though with time and as I learned to distinguish their speaking from my own thoughts they formed their own voices which are all different from one another and much clearer than my own.

 

I do that sort of roleplay as a habit I can't ger rid of with my old comic characters. I suppose it could turn into parroting, but I think it could also be a good way to do personality forcing. Just don't get stuck with it like I did :D It's annoying as hell.

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Desmond - He/him - 21st April 2014

L - He/him - 5th May 2014

Nevira - She/her - 14th December 2014

Misa - She/her - 5th December 2015

Roska - He/him - 22nd July 2019

Danyla - They/them - 13th July 2020

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Tulpa share a head with you, and spend the majority of their time with you. The majority of tulpa are very good at imitating their hosts.

Even if something does seem "off" about you to someone else, the last thing they are going to jump to is that you have a different person controlling the body.

 

Tulpa may pursue their own friends separate from the host, but the majority of tulpa find online friendships fulfilling enough. It's more of recognition separate of the host rather than necessarily needing IRL interaction. It was a big deal to Ivy when she first made herself an email and accounts on some websites.

 

In the mindscape you will not have a form unless you create one. When I started out I guess I appeared pretty ghostlike and wasn't solid. Last Christmas one of the things I was gifted from my tulpa was a form to pilot in the mindscape. Third and first person tend to vary but it seems most people naturally get pushed to third person. It may take some work to stay first person. I believe anyone who has a form already likely has the form of their "self-image", or how they imagine themselves to look while mixed with some ideals. A host having a form different than their physical form isn't too uncommon. My form does not match the physical body.

 

A tulpa can go "to the back" where they are active in the mindscape and leave you alone. You'll find that if you aren't directing a thought towards them or their "direction" that they won't hear it and may need to perk up to do so. Otherwise the people who have more than one or two tulpa would never have a moment of quiet. Even with the 4 I have, they don't talk much while I am working since I need to focus, but I can start a conversation with them at any time.

 

When you first are making a tulpa, you should try to force as much as possible. Even a day or two off forcing within the first week can have them fade (or recede) in ability. For older tulpa forcing doesn't because as big a deal. Ideally you should be active forcing all the time you are able to, and then passive forcing during all the rest. About the time a tulpa becomes vocal they can begin self-forcing by chatting with people outside of the head and you won't need to active force anymore (unless you want to spend time in the mindscape with them).

 

Things do get old, but it's like a relationship with a roommate. At first you might be all excited but the excitement fades as you just continue on to live life. It's like a relationship with a best friend except you two never are separate and will never fade out of touch. All it takes is something new to talk about or a new shared interest and you are both back to staying up late talking.

 

There are people who have told others, with both good and bad results. It's important to gauge how the person you are going to tell will react before you introduce them. A lot of people will use the "weird thing I seen on the internet" kind of line to get on the topic and discuss it to gauge their response. How you introduce it is also important. The least backlash method seems to be from a religious beliefs perspective rather than a psychological one, since Tulpa creation is originally a Tibetan Buddhist practice. Don't introduce them to anyone you do not have a lot of trust with.

 

Blending for us is kind of frustrating. I've blended with Ivy a few times. Generally you lose your sense of Identity. You become a mix of two people rather than a single person. When me and Ivy mix we are unable to community with eachother. The "us" may be unsatisfied with anything other than tea to drink (which is Ivy's thing) but we might want to listen to hard rock (which is my thing). When it happens we have found the best thing to do is just to ignore it and relax as well as possible. It's always resolved itself naturally within the same day.

 

Forcing can get boring if you let it get boring. Basically forcing is any form of interaction with your tulpa, and when you active force you have access to the mindscape which is a mental sandbox. You can do anything you want there. People have gone on adventures, slayed beasts, cooked brownies together, built a house, had sparring matches, and more. One of the most memorable moments I have with Ivy is carving pumpkins together shortly before Halloween.

 

Even as a male host with female tulpa, it is hard at first to sort out mindvoice. It's something that your tulpa needs to practice but that you have a certain amount of sway over. Even if they are too similar things are still pretty clear as mindvoice also carries intent and context that allows it to be identified.

 

There are people who have made tulpa simply by roleplaying heavily. If you decide to commit it is better to try and gauge her responses to things rather than "thinking up" what her responses would be via roleplay. Roleplay would sort of be a form of parroting if you are imagining her form and having it speak her responses.

 

If you have many more questions you can talk to Ivy or Raven on Discord if you'd like.

"My lover's got humour,

She's the giggle at a funeral,

Knows everybody's disapproval,

I should've worshipped her sooner."

 

Host to Samuel, RavenIvy, and Olivia.

 

CERCA TROVA

 

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If your tulpa wants to front but can't, then they don't. But don't worry. You will change between then and now. This process is not one way. And this will all feel less alien and dangerous.

 

IRL can also mean online friends. Or your friends. But it will make more sense when your tulpa starts asking about it.

 

You see yourself in your mind like you see yourself online. And your tulpa can see you too. And third person is a thing as is first person.

 

To the more introverted tulpamancers: Alone time is something you crave because of the people you interact with. If your tulpa is not a normal person, you will not have a normal response. A tulpa is never a normal person. The performance anxiety is missing. Privacy concerns are missing. Keeping appearances and secrets is missing. You can just sit back and relax. And listen to their beautiful voice.

 

Active forcing is optional. Force moar. Maintain a skeleton schedule. Do it. That is all.

 

What is tired? Happens to some.

 

I told one person over e-mail.

 

Blending feels like my worst nightmare, and puts me in a terrible mood that other people can notice.

 

Forcing gets boring after a while. Plan for this and change strategy.

 

Mindvoice confusion happens to a large number.

 

Roleplaying like that is parroting. As you are doing it intentionally. Your tulpa does not exist until you begin to see them as an actual person. But it's still parroting before then.

 

Eh, will sort out the questions later.

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I'm very much introverted, and so are most of my tulpas. But even when the most active one of them doesn't leave me alone, it doesn't really bother me like an actual physical person would. There has never been a time where I felt uncomfortable in their presence. I guess it's different for everyone, but for me the "bond" between us is just so different from human relationships that I don't get exhausted at all from spending time with them. However, your tulpa should be able to leave you alone if you want them to. They might want alone time themselves, sometimes :D None of my tulpas are actually fully "present" 24/7.

That's nice to hear, I probably would go crazy having to talk to someone all the time. At least that's how I see it. Experience might change that but I'm still not 100% sure if I even want to create a tulpa.

 

I don't think there's a minimum time to forcing, just do what feels best for you. When I was just starting with my tulpas I'd passive force almost constantly, and active force when I sat down with nothing to do, like during bus trips or waiting for the next class to start.

When you first are making a tulpa, you should try to force as much as possible. Even a day or two off forcing within the first week can have them fade (or recede) in ability. For older tulpa forcing doesn't because as big a deal. Ideally you should be active forcing all the time you are able to, and then passive forcing during all the rest. About the time a tulpa becomes vocal they can begin self-forcing by chatting with people outside of the head and you won't need to active force anymore (unless you want to spend time in the mindscape with them).

Active forcing is optional. Force moar. Maintain a skeleton schedule. Do it. That is all.

So what I'm getting from this is that forcing is a very personal thing, I get that within the first few weeks it should be as much as possible. After they get it's whatever you decide to roll with?

 

Forcing can get boring if you let it get boring. Basically forcing is any form of interaction with your tulpa, and when you active force you have access to the mindscape which is a mental sandbox. You can do anything you want there. People have gone on adventures, slayed beasts, cooked brownies together, built a house, had sparring matches, and more. One of the most memorable moments I have with Ivy is carving pumpkins together shortly before Halloween.

Oh, that would require a lot of modifying of my wonderland, for some reason I can't summon things out of thin air. I need to create a spot where I can get those things first. For example I needed to have a fridge in my hut before I could acquire food. Slaying beasts might be a lot of fun, but would require me to get a "summoning" spot first. My house is very small and cramped already and I don't think I can easily expand it. It's pretty cemented into my mind already. It's not easy for me to change things that I already have placed there.

 

I'm getting better at visualizing my other senses besides vision. Feeling is the one I still need the most work with. I've got hot and cold down, which I noticed at random because it started raining out of nowhere yesterday. I had no control over this and at one point I saw a lightning flash. It was pretty freaky!

 

If you have many more questions you can talk to Ivy or Raven on Discord if you'd like.

Oh! A discord. I don't think I can join though, since I kind of want my connections with tulpamancy and other communities be minimal. At least for now.

 

Even if something does seem "off" about you to someone else, the last thing they are going to jump to is that you have a different person controlling the body.

...that's a very good point.

 

There are people who have made tulpa simply by roleplaying heavily. If you decide to commit it is better to try and gauge her responses to things rather than "thinking up" what her responses would be via roleplay. Roleplay would sort of be a form of parroting if you are imagining her form and having it speak her responses.

See, I don't really believe you *have* to visualize a form to have roleplaying turn into parroting. As a lot of people force without visualizing sometimes.

 

To the more introverted tulpamancers: Alone time is something you crave because of the people you interact with. If your tulpa is not a normal person, you will not have a normal response. A tulpa is never a normal person. The performance anxiety is missing. Privacy concerns are missing. Keeping appearances and secrets is missing. You can just sit back and relax. And listen to their beautiful voice.

That's also nice to hear! I hope that's also the case for me  c:

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If your tulpa wants to front a lot, but can't because of some reason, how do you work that out? I don't even know how I would switch without being private somewhere. As I feel like people would immediately notice something off when I would do it in public. Thing is, I am not often in a private space.

 

If they can't, then it just means it will take more time for them to learn. Some people learn how to front quickly, some take a long time. Very rarely is someone completely blocked, though it can happen that there is an unusual obstacle that has to be handled first.

 

You probably don't need to worry. People are pretty oblivious. Also, they might be quite good at imitating you, and you them. Though, sometimes one or both of you can't imitate the other, in which case with non-oblivious people you don't want to know (very rare for someone to be able to detect such a thing) you might have to be a bit careful, whether it would be you being careful with people your tulpa knows or them being careful with people you know. But even then, it is possible to control which groups of people you are around. You could have a group of people you spend time with and your tulpa might have a separate group of people they hang out with. Unless you are in a tiny town, this is pretty easy to achieve. For us, we are actually better at acting like our hosts than they are. We can imitate them almost flawlessly. They on the other hand get suspected of being someone else other than them quite often by people that know all of us. They cannot imitate us very well.

 

I heard that tulpas might want their own IRL friends, what if I am not able to get them friends because I can't switch in public?

 

If you ever have to be careful (which you almost for sure don't), you just have to make sure that someone doesn't meet both of you. That doesn't mean that your tulpa can't be out in public, it just means that you can't be around the people they meet first and they can't be around the people you meet first. It is much easier to navigate than it sounds.

 

Is your wonderland perspective first person or third person? If first person, do you have a form that your tulpa can see? 

(Just to note: I have been creating a wonderland just for myself, which is going nicely so far. I'm a very visual person, everything almost looks vivid and life-like. Just a tad darker. I mostly look from first person, but I can move the "camera" to third person. The first time I did this surprised me, as I apparently have a different form than I have in real life. I am not surprised by what form I took though, it's an avatar I have for myself in a few other places. Is this normal?)

 

Some people do 1st person, some do 3rd, and some can switch between them. All of us have an easier time with 1st person, though some of us can do 1st person in some wonderlands (not all of them). Interestingly, we can also to some degree tap into each other's points of view.

 

As for your innerworld body not matching your outerworld body, that is very common. Nothing wrong with it. With our system, no one looks like the body. The closest anyone does is Se., one of the more recent tulpas, and the only reason she remotely resembles the body is because she is the only human among us (in fact, she is the only person who is even vaguely humanoid).

 

To more introverted hosts: with a fully developed tulpa, do you get any alone-time? A time where they won't talk to you at all. I feel like a life-long companion would be great... but only if they can leave me alone for a while.

 

We aren't hosts but the question applies equally (also, we happen to know the answer for our hosts). We are part of a medium sized system comprised of 18 known permanent residents and one more suspected resident (there might be a couple others but there has only been one run in and it was fleeting). It is pretty easy for us to get alone time. Same is for our hosts. A lot of us are rather introverted actually.

 

Is there a minimum time you need to spend daily active forcing? I've been working on my wonderland mostly just before I go to sleep, this takes around half an hour, if I spend that amount of time forcing, would that be enough? Does passive forcing have an impact on this? I feel like I would be able to passive force a lot, but not do active forcing as much.

 

The more interaction (forcing is just a fancy word for interaction in many ways), the better. If this is your first time making a tulpa and you don't write a lot or aren't a major daydreamer, it will take a higher minimum amount of forcing to help your tulpa develop in the beginning. But the exact level is highly individual. Being able to spend a lot of time helps a ton in the beginning. Half hour a day active forcing plus passive forcing is a level that certainly works for many. Some do the other way around without a problem. Hard to know which will work best for you and your tulpa.

 

Do you ever get tired of each other? I know arguments can be solved. But I'm talking about things getting old between you, like a married couple. How do you solve that? You can't just divorce like a marriage in some cases.

 

It can happen for some. Doesn't really happen for us much. We have a lot of space inside and all of us have the things we do alone or in smaller groups, so we don't really get tired of each other. That isn't to say that we don't argue about things sometimes. So far, no argument has gotten out of hand in a long time. Not sure if that is by luck or skill on all of our parts or weak will, so we don't have any useful advice.

 

Do any of your friends know? How did you introduce them to tulpamancy? (And to younger tulpamancers like me who still live with their parents, how did you introduce them to your parents? If you did at all.)

 

A few know, but many many more people know that we are plural and us separately without exactly knowing our individual origins other than some of us came from trauma and some came from being created (but not mentioning the word tulpa). Quite a few family members know including our parents, but we haven't lived with them in a long time so it is a different situation. Some friends and family expressed significant concerns. We have almost lost a few friends. Some people we know have lost friends and family. It varies. Also, you don't have to tell people how you'all became plural.

 

How does blending feel?

 

Sometimes it is quite pleasant. We have spent many an hour blended with Frostbite. It is quite peaceful and really calms her nerves and feels warm to both of us. Blending can also be very unpleasant, with one or more of the people involved struggling to stay themselves. We have experienced both.

 

Does forcing get boring after a while?

 

Any one particular method can, but that is why you mix it up. It is just the same as playing say Monopoly with the same person everyday. At some point you are going to need to switch the game or you will both get very bored.

 

To tulpamancers that have a tulpa the same gender as them (more specifically female tulpamancers with female tulpas. You don't see those here often!), do you have trouble figuring out your mindvoices?

 

Virtually all of us are female-ish, so we can answer. We did sometimes have a bit of trouble, but not as a whole. The reason we sometimes did have trouble is that some of us have similar voices. No problems between those with dissimilar. But with time, that diminished and we can easily identify each other's voices. Now, that isn't to say there aren't additional issues. If one of us fronts, changing control to someone else with a similar voice is much more difficult because it is harder to get the brain to latch onto the new person coming in unambiguously (basically, while we can all tell each other part, the body's control-panel is not so good at it).

 

Also, keep in mind, voices need not be limited to the bounds of what you typically see in humans. Obsidian and Gaea in our subsystem have extremely deep and resonant voices despite being female. Their's are low even by male human standards and people definitely doubt that our system as a whole is female a lot more when they front than when some of the people who are closer to agender but with much higher voices front.

 

And lastly, I might have unintentionally been creating a tulpa already. I have come up with a personality for her, and I have started roleplaying what her responses might be to different situations whenever I come across one. Can roleplaying like that turn into parroting?

 

It can. We know some people who have made many many tulpas this way. Eventually their creations because autonomous people with their own wills instead of the roleplay puppets they started out as. As for making a tulpa this way, it will help quite a bit to encourage independence in them. Ask them questions while steadily turning down the level of puppetting/parroting that you are doing.

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If this is your first time making a tulpa and you don't write a lot or aren't a major daydreamer, it will take a higher minimum amount of forcing to help your tulpa develop in the beginning.

Good thing I both write and daydream a lot.

 

Thanks to everyone who has responded thus far. There are moments where I heavily lean towards creating the tulpa I've had my eyes on for two months now, but at the same time there are moments of doubt. Have I thought this through? Am I jumping to conclusions too early? Will I be able to adapt to a new person inside my head? Will I be responsible? Am I too young to decide things like this? (I still am in my mid-teens. Although I must admit a lot of people see me as more mature and level-headed.)

 

At one hand, I feel like I've found my passion, I always had great interest into psychological stuff and plurality opens up a whole new world. Especially with how it is rarely touched upon by studies. I'm so fascinated by how you can shape your brain into a lot of different things. And how little we know about psychology in general. Prior to this, I wanted to go to art college, but now? I'm not sure anymore.

On the other hand though... what if this is a phase I'll regret after a while? I tend to drop things after a couple of years. What if plurality is one of those things?

 

How hard is it to adapt to a new systemmate if you were a singlet before that? I understand it must not be that hard if you already are plural. Life is a lot more simple as a singlet and I don't know if I can handle the burden of keeping this secret.

 

I guess I'll never know if I don't try. But this is a change I can't reverse.

 

I have a very small and tight group of friends, two of them I'm not sure they understand plurality as a whole, the other two I'm fairly sure they're okay with it. At least there's that.

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So what I'm getting from this is that forcing is a very personal thing, I get that within the first few weeks it should be as much as possible. After they get it's whatever you decide to roll with?

Yes. Or, no.

 

Force them regularly until they are self forcing. Forcing can fold into socialising. It's not a specific activity.

 


 

You interested in psychology and sociology? Then you know phases are a myth perpetuated by the established culture to further suppress cultural, sexual and other minority mindsets.

 

Also don't keep it secret. You are a writer? Then you already know how and why you tell a story.

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As someone who went through a phase where I wanted to wear dresses and skirts as a teenager, and having had a little sister and a friend go through "an emo phase" I can't help but believe they're a thing lol. I think of it as a period when kids are trying to find themselves and try out things that feel right at the moment but later turn out to be not who that person is. Or something. Everyone I know went through something like that. People often talk about phases like they're a bad thing but really, I don't see why.

 

In any case to answer some of your questions, it wasn't really that hard for me to get adjusted to more than one person in my head. I was just excited about it all at first and by the time it started to feel less exciting I had already gotten used to it :D

I don't think you're going to regret it later, honestly, once it becomes normal it can be hard to even think back to being alone in your head. At least it is to me, I don't know what I was doing without them lol.

Just judging by you taking this whole thing so seriously and really thinking about it instead of just jumping right into it I'd say you're probably mature enough.

You could try to introduce your friends to the subject beforehand, if you want to, and get their honest opinions about it. I told two of mine that I was planning a tulpa, one was mainly worried for my mental health and told me not to do it, they're other one was slightly worried but supportive anyway, so I chose to let only one of them know that I created one.

Iro - He/they - 30th April 1997 - Host of the system - Speaker if there's no tag

Desmond - He/him - 21st April 2014

L - He/him - 5th May 2014

Nevira - She/her - 14th December 2014

Misa - She/her - 5th December 2015

Roska - He/him - 22nd July 2019

Danyla - They/them - 13th July 2020

Asha - He/him - 13th June 2022

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Yes. Or, no.

 

Force them regularly until they are self forcing. Forcing can fold into socialising. It's not a specific activity.

I just noticed that I made a typo, I wanted to say "when they get vocal" but I missed that last word. So it looks like we're on the same page here c:

 

You interested in psychology and sociology? Then you know phases are a myth perpetuated by the established culture to further suppress cultural, sexual and other minority mindsets.

With "phase" I mean "something that I am interested in, but only for a limited amount of time". Kind of like how you get bored of a videogame after a while and stop playing it. Not phase that relates to an identity, as that can be harmful. I see tulpamancy as an interest, not part of my identity.

 

As someone who went through a phase where I wanted to wear dresses and skirts as a teenager, and having had a little sister and a friend go through "an emo phase" I can't help but believe they're a thing lol. I think of it as a period when kids are trying to find themselves and try out things that feel right at the moment but later turn out to be not who that person is. Or something. Everyone I know went through something like that. People often talk about phases like they're a bad thing but really, I don't see why.

I pretty much agree with this here.

 

In any case to answer some of your questions, it wasn't really that hard for me to get adjusted to more than one person in my head. I was just excited about it all at first and by the time it started to feel less exciting I had already gotten used to it Big Grin

I don't think you're going to regret it later, honestly, once it becomes normal it can be hard to even think back to being alone in your head. At least it is to me, I don't know what I was doing without them lol.

That last part scares me a bit, to be honest! It's like losing something you had for a long time and can't think back to how it used to be. I know it's irrational and I shouldn't be thinking like that, but I can't help it.

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