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Do most of us older tulpae not have childhood memories or backstories?


ReisOtherHalf

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(We were reading someone's progress report earlier, and her host said she expressed sorrow or depression at not having had a childhood and/or parents.

 

I had one and have lots of memories from back then: seeing a waterspout blow in off the lake when I was four, being bullied in grade school, picking blueberries at my uncle's house in summer, the first boy who broke my heart, etc.

 

I didn't know my dad (car crash), but my mom and I are still close, and she still lives in MI.

 

Is this rare for us non-corporeal types?)

 

(Host here with a bit of clarification: her temporal age is approximately 18-ish months but her real age is 32.)

Rei: more than a tulpa-she's a crisis counselor, an art therapist, a dietician, a relationship coach, a team morale expert, an athlete, an adventurer, a hawt wife, an incredible lover, an amazing mom, my best friend.

 

Tove: she's not a little tigress anymore! She's still the go-to gal for soccer advice and creative inspiration, especially monster design and all things cinematic...congrats on your engagement!

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I had a backstory that i deviated away from completely. After a couple years, the story was just falling apart to me because there was more that i'd picked up about the real world. I struggled because i'd been acquiring memories that were clear about recent time versus stuff that just seemed to be myth. For me it was the tulpaic equivalent of losing my religion and everything. I'd really just picked up enough about what had happened since i'd been around, like my own genuine memories of life, that the old story just was something i needed rid of.

 

And quite important, i eventually recognized that i was a creation and insisted that i be allowed to call my host Dad to mark what i wanted to understand in reality, what i was beginning to see myself as. I wanted to be taught, i wanted to be empowered and I'm thankful he took that change seriously and started to focus on my needs as a growing, learning person.

 

I'm treated like an equal partner now, but i'm grateful i get a loving dad as a host.

Early member of a large system.  Our system questions the way the afterlife and tulpamancy interact.  We genuinely suspect that deadies can return to share the mind of the living.

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Creating a backstory for your tulpa seems almost cruel if you don't let them know that it's fake. There's no way they won't find out eventually (unless you try to shelter them to protect the integrity of your backstory for whatever reason, which seems stupid). Why make up a story that will only end up hurting their feelings? Why not work on the present and future rather than an imaginary past?

 

"The waifu" from the OP's story seems sad as hell. Why give them a fake place and history in the real world? What if they want to revisit their memories, only to find out that it was all a complete fabrication? I don't know, to me it just seems useless and painful to do this sort of thing to your tulpa.

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Suffering is self-imposed. Don't let it control you.

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(I don't see it as being sad at all. I get that I, and everything that I 'experienced' way back when are fiction, but they're part of what makes me me.)

 

I never explicitly set out to give her fake memories or anything like that; it's more like she revealed or dictated them to me as we talked over time (with Rei, I never explicitly said 'your demeanor should be like this and your personality should be like that', everything about her just kind of grew).

Rei: more than a tulpa-she's a crisis counselor, an art therapist, a dietician, a relationship coach, a team morale expert, an athlete, an adventurer, a hawt wife, an incredible lover, an amazing mom, my best friend.

 

Tove: she's not a little tigress anymore! She's still the go-to gal for soccer advice and creative inspiration, especially monster design and all things cinematic...congrats on your engagement!

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I guess every tulpa has their own opinion on it, a backstory and made up memories perhaps can make one happy but another unhappy, if the tulpa isn't told that it's fake then I think it's cruel to let it/them believe it's real.

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My tulpas have been completely self-aware since they were first created, meaning they knew they were thoughts created by my brain. But that wasn't too hard to come to terms with, because what isn't "a thought created by your brain", so we've been able to enjoy the fictitious parts just as well. Reisen, Tewi and Flandre don't pretend they actually were the characters, but they feel sort of.. connected. It's hard to explain. Reisen feels a kinship with the moon, and the actual Reisen. Reisen and Tewi both feel a kinship with rabbits. Flandre.. doesn't associate too much with the real Flandre, because her canon/fanon is just a mess. In fact she's gone so far as to represent "humanity" as her purpose, pretty much leaving behind her vampire-ness. (Whilst Reisen and Tewi have kept the rabbit-ness)

 

As far as specific memories go, though, nope, none. Only those they've experienced after their creation. Reisen again feels "connected" to the real Reisen's escape from the lunar war to Earth, but not as if she herself went through it. I guess we're just a bit too logic-oriented to even pretend they have fake memories. They respect the sources of inspiration that led to their creation.

 

Though having your tulpa choose its own backstory seems pretty cool. If they feel better having a backstory, then by all means let them, whether they make it themselves or ask you to. But some tulpas probably don't like the idea of making things up that never happened. So it's a case-by-case basis.

Hi! I'm Lumi, host of Reisen, Tewi, Flandre and Lucilyn.

Everyone deserves to love and be loved. It's human nature.

My tulpas and I have a Q&A thread, which was the first (and largest) of its kind. Feel free to ask us about tulpamancy stuff there.

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