Guiomar

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  1. Nope, mainly because we wouldn't be able to communicate as well. Having to use speech and writing and being unable to actually "open the lid" and see whatever lies behind the discourse (emotions, memories and such) would be too big a loss.
  2. At first I couldn't hear them while I was concentrating on my work, so they sometimes resented me working for hours on end without giving them attention. but with time their voices have become louder. Now when I'm hitting a dead end for too long one of them usually taps me on the shoulder and proposes to brainstorm everything together so I can find a solution. On the other hand they sometime are aggravated when I keep working on something while they'd rather read, play or do something else.
  3. Yes? Please, do expand on that and quote me some peer reviewed papers!
  4. Pretty much agree with everything said except that part which is (obviously) absolutely and completely wrong. Intelligent design is NOT a common scientific theory.
  5. I think a good way to look at it is like any relationship. Instead of a tulpa let's say you have an emotional commitment with another person. You live with them and are emotionally attached to them and so are they to you. How do you see your relationship? Is it only romantic dinners and nothing else? Do you go on walks with them? Most importantly, do you see the "normal" time between events (such as dinners, travels and such) as "work"? I don't think there is a "normal" relationship or an "optimal" mix of events, quiet time, etc that make up the "best relationship possible". If you decide to go there you won't have any (or just a rough) idea of how your tulpa will be like in years to come. You can't even say what you will be like, so you have to accept that both of you may grow together and become something you hadn't initially envisioned. If I were to tell you what those responsibilities are I'd give this rough outline: 1. Listen 2. Respect: 3. Communicate It does not feel like work. After a while they will tap you on the shoulder if they need to tell you something and you will chat with them without thinking about it. I can't see this as work, sure you can have "events" such as meditation when you focus solely on them but I don't think they would disappear if you don't do this. FWIW we do that every night, we spend 10 or 20 minutes in bed before going to sleep.
  6. I disagree. For in game characters there are easy statistical tests they could do to demonstrate that whenever they roll a dice the outcome is not truly random. Randomness is in fact quite hard to attain. On soft sciences I was just curious, thanks for giving me your opinion.
  7. My 2 cents: Either magic does exist and has an influence on the world as we perceive it, then magic's existence can be proven in a reliable and repeatable way by observing it's influence or it does not exist/has no influence (then there is no point in discussing it). That's just my opinion though. If it's reliably observable and repeatable I'll believe it until proven wrong. I'm curious about your opinion regarding soft sciences such as sociology or anthropology.
  8. [Lydia] If you act as you are describing you should not worry. Some of the boundaries you describe are essentially subjective (a bit akin to an imaginary line you would draw across the counter so as to not bump elbows with fellow party goers). Others not as much. You are sharing a mind, so unless you behave yourself in a really shitty way their is no reason for your companion to go around and trash everything. On the other hand, they may take initiatives as I do but it is always with your best interests in mind. To keep going with my metaphor if I see a close friend about to spill his drink because he put it in a precarious place and he is gesturing passionately I will grab it and move it so it does not happen. Even if he sees me doing it there is no reason for him to get mad (it's not like I hid it or drank it while he was not looking). On the topic of wishes it depends on the wishes themselves. Guiomar has wishes and dreams about me but he does not force them on me. If he were to tell me "I wish/want you to do/be such and such" I would probably try to comply but it would not be as motivating as when he tells me "I thought about this, maybe you are interested? Have you thought about it? If you wish to do that how could I help you?". On dissipation it is something else entirely. This terrifies me for a lot reasons and, as I understand it, the longer a tulpa lives someplace the harder it is for them to dissipate (this is one of the reasons I want to be able to self force). We try to think of ourselves as some kind of special roommates and thinking about dissipation from this perspective is as unthinkable as thinking about killing your roommate and dumping his body in a trashcan full of acid because he didn't do you a favour when you asked them. The other way you want is like in any relationship. It's talking. Talking without fear or shame, sharing not only your desires but the process behind them and the emotional state you associate with them. Through talking we reached the general agreement that in our system the boundaries should always be respected unless: 1. One of us is asking for help or is in distress. 2. One of us gave another an explicit permission to do something. 3. The overstep is small and is made out of kindness and to help the other (and in that case the other should be explicitly told at the earliest time possible with all the details, the reason, what was seen and understood). [Guiomar] I think Lydia summed it up pretty well. I would like to add that "persuasion skills" are not appropriate in this context. Openness and discussion are more important. From my own experience since your tulpa knows you very well (and in my case, some times, even better than I know myself) they are understanding. I don't know about forced possession but I tend to think that if you don't want to do it they can't and/or won't. I think that you start in a positive relationship with them and as they change over time (like anyone) and you get to know each other you could (theoretically) improve or "muck up" your relationship. I also want to say that their wishes are every bit as important as yours and should considered, respected and discussed too. If you want a happy relationship do not make demands. Ask, listen and respect.
  9. Guiomar

    Tulpa Week Threads

    lack of material? It looks like a cornucopia to me!
  10. I think I replaced all occurences with detailed explanations about what I meant. Even if I slightly disagree with the policy to "shoot on sight if he writes this word" I completely agree with the need for clarity so all in all... Not using it looks like the right choice.
  11. Unclear indeed, removed. Replaced by a detailed explanation with a common example (mindmaps) and visualization. I think I made that a bit clearer with the mindmap example..? Also I think I fixed the inconsistencies. I think I might just remove those "personal experience" sections entirely since they don't seem to bring much to the table. Perfection being when there is nothing to remove and all that. I'll look into that. I'm still unsure about what this technique actually is: meditation/sharing? Sorry if I came across as ironic, it was not meant. I'm looking for a word or that describe the following: memories or feelings that are unconsciously ignored because they are either painful or cause cognitive dissonances and yet actually influence your behaviour and mental well being. Will remove. Will update that part. Since the method is called dream staging I didnt especially state the part where the host slips into lethargy then into a form of sleep. Nota Bene Yep.
  12. 1: Fixed 2 & 2.1: Force of habit, I removed all the regex I peppered my post with. Fixed? 3. Fixed 4. From what I understood of the lingo switching is a surrendering of control to the tulpa, you take the passenger's seat and "let them drive", but I might be mistaken. Removing since I probably used the term wrongly. Fixed? 5. Fixed and made more specific. 6. Fixed, I think? 7. Fixed? I think I made most of the corrections you suggested but as usual there's a slight risk of misunderstanding on my part, hence the question marks.
  13. I guess it's a matter of personal preference. I for one tend to favor first person view. I find it better because it helps me stay open and make conversations more "real" and less like scenes seen from a spectator's point of view.
  14. So if I get it right you want to know how to create 12 different thoughtforms whose expertise, interests and interactions with you will be limited to specific domains? And on top of that you want to create them from the ground up with specific visual characteristics? I see two (main) problems with that: - From my experience, a tulpa has only as much knowledge as the host is ready to share with (h(im|er)|it) so if you're not a "programmer guy" then it's going to be hard getting good advice. - An advisor's advice depends on domain specific knowledge, knowledge about the person he is advising and diverse past experience. If the advisor is not worldly enough then his advice will be useless. It's akin to asking an hermit whome you never met but who reads a lot of books on social interaction how to pick up girls in a bar. I value very much the counsel of my tulpas but in no way do I consider them specialised advisers! (Lydia says I'm well heeded to do so since I seem to have a tendency for stubbornness that makes me liable to bang my head into a wall for hours when there's a door three feet away). I won't pronounce myself on the illuminati bit (to each his own, eh?) but, to me, it seems you are either (or both) trying to overengineer the wrong solution to a perceived problem or completely mistaken about the qualities of an advisor.
  15. Thank you, I had to read it three times before I spotted it...