Ugh I know how you feel. I can get the visualization down pat, but trying to get him into the real world... I get frustrated, and his reactions don't help sometimes. He sometimes is amused by it or is frustrated as well... he rarely offers to sit quiet while I think. But it's like I have different places I see him better, and not from a wonderland. I see him easier in the corner of my room or on my bed... leaving against the kitchen counter or sitting next to me in the chair... I just can't see him in places outside of home or in other rooms. It's just confusing to me.