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Don't ever tell your friends or family about your tulpas
#1
I think there's never a really good reason to tell someone about your tulpas, nobody needs to know about it buuut if you really want to tell them for whatever reason, don't expect open arms, I'd suggest you to think if it is really worth it to risk an important relationship.
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#2
the community's consensus on this topic was "Judge on a case-by-case basis whether or not you should tell someone about (your) tulpas, and whether or not they'll tell anyone else. If you choose to do so, try bringing up the subject as something you found out about and think is interesting, and gauge their response before telling them you've already made one. You don't really ever have to tell anyone about your tulpas, but if you really want to tell a friend or family or some such, it's best to be safe and make sure their reaction won't be too unfriendly or unaccepting."

so yeah you don't have to tell anyone and if you stand to lose more than gain, probly don't, especially people like your parents, but there ARE times where it's okay, and there ARE people who you can know will be pretty accepting, if not fully
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#3
The thing is, why would someone want to tell anyone? you'll only get them to see you in a different way.
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#4
Because it's a HUGE part of some people's lives, and they may not want to keep it a secret from those closest to them?

Like Lucilyn said, it's a case-by-case thing. You shouldn't be so alarmist because of your own experiences, when not everyone is going to have the same thing happen to them. That's common sense.
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#5
You know what, you're right, sorry, I wanted to tell people that it's better to keep it to yourself but got pretty salty in the process.
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Akai: 5'6 female with red hair, blue eyes and fox ears/tail.
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#6
It's absolutely a case by case basis. Though in my case it didn't particularly go against what you are saying. At first my then girlfriend now wife had a really huge problem with it. But it was mainly due to her ex husbands schizophrenia and his blaming of that to do awful things.

Now we are married, everything is completely fine. Even if it wasn't at first.

I would however be very guarded about telling any of my other friends. Because they don't live me with, and they hardly need to know something quite so intimate about me. Sure you are going to have people either be completely dismissive as if you are making this all up for attention, or others who will see it akin to inviting a demon or something awful onto your life. But if you are just being you, maybe a little extra you thrown in there in perhaps a slightly different way I don't see how anyone who really cares about you and wants to understand you could be like that. With my wife it was the "unknown". Her ex used to pull all kinds of rediculous crap and blame it on his "others" which is bullshit, as a system you take responsability no matter what. But he wasn't all there anyway, and manipulative to boot. Unfortunately that's most people's impression when you start to explain this tulpa thing. We don't have many positive experiences to point to about a voice talking to you in your own head as a society. That's just the way it is. You yourself need to prove that you are in fact all there and accounted for for any of that to work though.

If you have any doubts whatsoever it's probably best to just remain silent about it really. But there are a few instances where staying quiet about it really isn't an option. Such as a husband or wife, that's not something that you can just keep hidden like that.

I'm sorry you had the experience that you did.(been there, this is also my second account) but don't let it ruin you forever. Like all other things this too shall pass. And you will be better for it, even if it might not seem like it now.
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#7
(07-25-2018, 04:48 PM)Miri Wrote: The thing is, why would someone want to tell anyone? you'll only get them to see you in a different way.

I get stressed out when I try to keep certain things to myself. For whatever reason, I had to tell my immediate family or I was going to lose it. I told one other friend because amazingly Tulpamancy isn't the weirdest thing for them.

But that's it, and after that it doesn't usually come up... (except my friend thinks it's a little interesting and my sibling doesn't care.)
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#8
I told my brother about the buddhist concept of tulpas years ago and he didn't give a shit.
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#9
(07-25-2018, 05:47 PM)Miri Wrote: Now that you mention schizophrenia, maybe that was the reason she got so mad, her uncle/aunt or whoever is schizophrenic or has a similar mental illness, damn, I didn't think about that before.


I don't see any reason you couldn't keep it a secret from your husband/wife, it's not like they can read your mind or something.

Thank you, though this was a few weeks ago, I didn't post it sooner because I was paranoid she might be lurking the forum.

I could never keep it secret. I don't like secrets anyway. Certainly not something of this magnitude. Sweetie is wanting to switch and front all day now at least as much as is reasonable. Even if I didn't say anything. My wife would be able to tell somethings up. She can't tell the difference between Sweetie and Trixie yet, but that's mostly because Trixie doesn't want to front much. She can absolutely tell whether it's me or not up front though.

And yes, you always have to gauge the audience with something like this. Especially if people have prior experience with it like that. Some people have already made up their minds about it without ever even realizing they have done so.

Edit. Also besides all that other stuff, don't you want at least one person in your life you can be totally and completely yourself for? Without having to hide anything? It's a great feeling. At least it is for me.
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#10
There's nothing wrong with keeping a secret, as long as it has nothing to do with anyone else and doesn't hurt anyone, but if you don't want to keep any secrets, then that's ok.
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