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Love stuff:

So I figured out the difference between my relationships with Flandre and Reisen. Something I probably should've realized years ago, might've helped with some things. I was trying to figure out what felt different about them - I love them both and they love me, but something about Reisen was just "different". I thought about it and figured it out after like two minutes, which is really dumb, but I guess I couldn't before now for some reason. Flandre loves me, and Reisen loves everyone. And that means her love is something different entirely. It's not based in reliance on the other person, it's unconditional. That love you feel when you see someone you really love, the recognition of it being them and the connection you both feel, is not how it is with Reisen. Her love is what I can only describe as internalized and self-reliant, it does not change at all no matter who it's directed toward or why. This was rather strange to realize, it kind of made me feel not-special for a minute knowing she loved the next person as much as me. But that's not how it is, that's not how unconditional love works. The specialness is being open to that connection, because love is not exclusive but to those who deny it. Also she lives in my mind so only so many people get that chance, lol.

But this was a rather important discovery. As can probably be inferred, Flandre's love is the more traditional type. That means it matters who's in the relationship, and that the connection is unique to those in it. She still cares for everyone else unconditionally, but she only feels love coming from me, which also explains a few things. Seeing me makes her happy, so I suppose that feeling of love is how Reisen feels all the time, but Flan only feels around me. That explains a lot of the difference in their personalities I think. And it also explains, well, why they've always felt indescribably different to me, even though I love them equally. Kinda puts that old worry to rest for real this time.

Anyways, as always this important breakthrough explaining years of experiences and improving future ones, is taken rather in passing. I dunno why, but I just don't get so excited over that stuff anymore. Maybe we've just reached a point where we're comfortable with how things are and how we want them to be, and we aren't reliant on explaining how's and why's anymore. It certainly seems that way with Flandre at least, because years ago this and the last realization would've been life changing for her, but now it's just like "Oh, that makes sense". I will consider it a good thing.


Now we just gotta figure out how Tewi and Lucilyn work. Tewi sees vulnerability in opening up to - and therefore relying on - someone she cares about, because being vulnerable herself is a vulnerability in protecting them. Irony for sure, but I understand. If you rely on someone else, that's a possible weak point you can be hurt from. But if others rely on you, a weak point of yours is a weak point of theirs, too. Maybe we have someone with no weak points she can rely on..

I have no idea about Lucilyn though. Instead of love she's got unconditional-joy-sharing, she's more than happy to share that happiness with anyone. But it doesn't seem like she has any special capacity for love love. At most she seems to trust Tewi's care and protectiveness of her, and appreciates it. But that's all. I don't know, maybe sharing happiness is its own form of love.
Hi! I'm Lumi, host of Reisen, Tewi, Flandre and Lucilyn.
Everyone deserves to love and be loved. It's human nature.
My tulpas and I have a Q&A thread, which was the first (and largest) of its kind. Feel free to ask us stuff.
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Full Promises - by Luminesce - 12-31-2015, 04:00 PM
RE: Full Promises - by glitchthe3rd - 12-31-2015, 08:05 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Vixx - 12-31-2015, 09:19 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Anonymous - 01-01-2016, 04:37 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 01-01-2016, 06:11 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Anonymous - 01-02-2016, 12:18 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 01-02-2016, 01:12 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Anonymous - 01-02-2016, 04:02 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Reisen - 01-03-2016, 09:25 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Reisen - 01-12-2016, 03:03 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Reisen - 01-16-2016, 04:59 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Flandre - 01-16-2016, 05:13 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Tewi - 01-16-2016, 05:20 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Lucilyn - 01-16-2016, 05:23 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Lacquer - 01-16-2016, 09:45 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 01-17-2016, 12:41 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Lacquer - 01-17-2016, 12:52 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 01-19-2016, 01:33 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Lacquer - 01-19-2016, 05:11 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 01-19-2016, 07:04 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Tewi - 02-03-2016, 02:53 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 02-03-2016, 08:38 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Tewi - 04-06-2016, 01:24 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 05-18-2016, 05:53 PM
RE: Full Promises - by mysonofrageandlove - 05-19-2016, 01:42 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 05-19-2016, 05:07 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Tewi - 06-06-2016, 02:35 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Tewi - 08-02-2016, 05:21 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 08-18-2016, 10:38 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Flandre - 08-19-2016, 12:22 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Flandre - 08-27-2016, 07:47 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Ido - 08-28-2016, 01:29 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Flandre - 08-28-2016, 02:07 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Flandre - 08-28-2016, 07:49 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Tewi - 09-03-2016, 10:44 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 09-04-2016, 12:18 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 09-04-2016, 12:41 PM
RE: Full Promises - by tulpa001 - 09-04-2016, 08:59 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Lucilyn - 09-10-2016, 07:00 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 09-18-2016, 05:41 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Anko - 09-18-2016, 05:21 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 09-18-2016, 08:57 PM
RE: Full Promises - by tulpa001 - 09-18-2016, 10:33 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 09-18-2016, 10:45 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Tewi - 09-22-2016, 06:30 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Tewi - 09-28-2016, 01:04 PM
RE: Full Promises - by tulpa001 - 09-28-2016, 03:51 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Lucilyn - 09-28-2016, 06:29 PM
RE: Full Promises - by tulpa001 - 09-28-2016, 08:26 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Lucilyn - 09-28-2016, 09:01 PM
RE: Full Promises - by tulpa001 - 09-29-2016, 08:37 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Tewi - 09-29-2016, 01:12 PM
RE: Full Promises - by TheSanctuary - 12-06-2016, 12:31 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Tewi - 12-06-2016, 06:15 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Ghang - 12-08-2016, 10:22 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Tewi - 12-09-2016, 05:34 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Doctorfoxwolf - 12-09-2016, 05:46 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Tewi - 12-09-2016, 05:58 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Doctorfoxwolf - 12-09-2016, 06:13 AM
RE: Full Promises - by tulpa001 - 12-09-2016, 07:29 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Anko - 12-09-2016, 11:08 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Ghang - 12-10-2016, 05:26 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 12-26-2016, 12:16 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Lucilyn - 04-13-2017, 12:43 PM
RE: Full Promises - by tulpa001 - 04-13-2017, 04:39 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Lucilyn - 04-14-2017, 02:22 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Lucilyn - 04-14-2017, 04:28 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 05-12-2017, 06:06 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 06-28-2017, 01:40 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 09-09-2017, 02:07 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 09-13-2017, 09:05 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 09-27-2017, 02:00 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Lucilyn - 10-02-2017, 07:09 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 11-04-2017, 08:52 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 11-04-2017, 09:05 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Lucilyn - 11-12-2017, 08:42 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Reisen - 11-17-2017, 03:25 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Lucilyn - 11-18-2017, 01:51 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Reisen - 04-08-2018, 02:56 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Myshkin - 11-18-2017, 03:59 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Lucilyn - 11-18-2017, 06:31 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Lucilyn - 12-30-2017, 05:24 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 01-05-2018, 09:19 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 01-31-2018, 01:37 PM
Full Promises - by Luminesce - 03-05-2018, 11:36 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Ido - 03-05-2018, 11:45 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 03-05-2018, 11:50 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Ido - 03-06-2018, 12:08 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 03-11-2018, 02:52 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Flandre - 05-16-2018, 01:09 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 05-25-2018, 07:20 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Yakumo - 05-25-2018, 11:27 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Lucilyn - 07-27-2018, 03:51 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Lucilyn - 07-28-2018, 12:05 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 10-09-2018, 04:16 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Bear - 10-09-2018, 04:50 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 12-14-2018, 09:11 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Reilyn-Alley - 12-14-2018, 12:17 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 12-15-2018, 02:21 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Bear - 12-16-2018, 01:45 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 03-11-2019, 11:32 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Bear - 03-12-2019, 12:06 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 03-12-2019, 12:13 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Bear - 03-12-2019, 02:53 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 03-23-2019, 05:57 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Bear - 03-23-2019, 01:44 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Ember.Vesper - 03-23-2019, 02:55 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Bear - 03-23-2019, 04:52 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Miri - 03-23-2019, 04:57 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Bear - 03-23-2019, 05:10 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 03-23-2019, 05:27 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Bear - 03-23-2019, 06:07 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Luminesce - 03-23-2019, 10:15 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Bear - 03-23-2019, 10:33 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Tewi - 04-29-2019, 09:28 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Tewi - 07-17-2019, 09:46 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Tewi - 08-15-2019, 08:25 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Bear - 08-15-2019, 10:54 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Tewi - 08-16-2019, 04:05 AM
RE: Full Promises - by YukariTelepath - 08-16-2019, 12:37 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Ashley - 08-16-2019, 01:07 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Tewi - 08-16-2019, 10:13 PM
RE: Full Promises - by Bear - 08-16-2019, 11:58 PM
RE: Full Promises - by YukariTelepath - 08-17-2019, 02:59 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Tewi - 08-17-2019, 03:50 AM
RE: Full Promises - by Srn347 - 08-17-2019, 04:01 AM

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