[General] Relationship stuff
#1
Soo my family, friends, and even my tulpa Sarah have been trying to get me to get a new girlfriend. Sarah and a few of my friends are the only ones that know I'm actually trying. Sarah has been pushing me for months to make dating accounts on different websites. I finally gave into this a few weeks ago.

The main reason no one wants to date me is because I'm saving myself for marriage for multiple reasons and no I won't change my mind on this. I'm not super religious and don't think sex is bad, it's just something I want to save till I'm married

I go out try to meet new people and all kinds of stuff but all it does is discourage me even more when I do find someone that would then when they find out I'm saving myself I just get friendzoned at that point. Everyone around me wants me to keep trying but I don't know what else I can try in my position. Since I deleted my accounts there's been a lot of tension in my relationship with Sarah.

I guess there's a few things I could use advice on. How can I relieve some of the tension between Sarah? Also if anyone has any ideas on how I could go about finding someone that would be okay with not having sex in a relationship I would love to hear them. Thanks.
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#2
Well, if you use any sort of service where you can write something about yourself first, be up front about the marriage thing. At the very least it might show people you're interested in a real relationship I guess. Alternatively you can work on a relationship first, and then when the subject of sex comes up you can say you'd be more comfortable with waiting until you knew you guys would be for sure together. Plainly stating marriage might be.. I don't know, intimidating? But you can say you want the first person you have sex with to be someone you really care about and who cares about you, so you won't do it while still just dating.

Yeah, it might be weird to say that up-front. But I'm not very experienced with conventional dating, I imagine if you go as far as to use a dating service sex is expected sooner than if it was just someone you had gotten to know over time in real life. But there's still a ton of people and places to look for online, so again, while it might bother a lot of people you could get lucky and find someone who sees it as a sign of commitment or something.


This is preettty not related to tulpas, but I guess it's fine. Just note topics should be relatively tulpa-related in the future. You can tell this isn't a tulpa-related topic based on my answer really.
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Everyone deserves to love and be loved. It's human nature.
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#3
Well, you're supposed to post on the right dating site. I think e-harmony is the "I want marriage" one?

I do not know for sure what accounts you are referring to. Possibly ask Sarah what she wants in a partner, and why she wants to get married.
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#4
I feel like you need to reread his post. I think you were tricked into thinking his post was relevant to tulpamancy by skimming it. And I believe the accounts he mentioned were dating site accounts, but I could be wrong.
Hi! I'm Lumi, host of Reisen, Tewi, Flandre and Lucilyn.
Everyone deserves to love and be loved. It's human nature.
My tulpas and I have a Q&A thread, which was the first (and largest) of its kind. Feel free to ask us stuff.
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#5
I don't think I was tricked. Another mod already moved this thread to questions and answers. So It's not really my place to say otherwise.

But in any plural system, dating is essentially a multi-party affair.
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#6
Oh, "trying to get me to get a new girlfriend" and "ask why she wants you to get married" was too far of a stretch for me to realize that's what you were replying to.

I mean I guess you can talk to your tulpa about this..? But it seems like it's entirely on you and your tulpa is already on board, so.
Hi! I'm Lumi, host of Reisen, Tewi, Flandre and Lucilyn.
Everyone deserves to love and be loved. It's human nature.
My tulpas and I have a Q&A thread, which was the first (and largest) of its kind. Feel free to ask us stuff.
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