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I am a bit confused

First of all, I would want to apologise for any mistake I could make, english is not my native language; I would also like to thanks everyone who is sacrificing his/her time to check out this thread, it means a lot.
So, I have decided to make a tulpa like a week ago.
Now I am asking myself some questions:
1. I am tulpaforcing everyday, not such a long time on session but I am trying to progress into longer sessions everytime I do it. The question here is that I do not know if I am doing it right, I am not expecting fast results, all I am doing is closing my eyes, imagining her face(I found this easier when tulpaforcing) and then explaining her the traits or I am just narrating, depends. Please give me some advice regarding this.
2. How long do I need to keep "defining" the traits? Do I need to do it everyday? I understand it is a vast process but I am a bit confused about it at times; Yes I know it is an optional step, but I do want to do it.
3. How long should I force on a session? I am not counting hours or the time spent generally, I just want to have something to aim at, since I have said that my sessions are not yet that long.

Also, I would like to say sorry if one of the questions is previously answered in another thread.
07-10-2014, 11:54 AM
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RE: I am a bit confused

Are you taking to her (in your head) throughout the day while doing other things? It doesn't matter what you talk about as long a you talk to her as much as possible. I found that passive forcing / narration sometimes gives me better results than active forcing

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07-10-2014, 01:00 PM
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RE: I am a bit confused

Hi Vlad, Welcome to tulpa.info

As long as feels comfortable for all your questions.
I spent one forcing session of about 40 min for each personality trait and I gave Co 5.
I have found that a lot of people tent to say one hour for forcing sessions is a solid number to target. But 30 to 40 min was about as long as I could sit still without getting distracted and starting to follow my own thoughts instead of focusing on my tulpa, I have gotten better.
With time you will get better at focusing and sitting still, a lot of people have trouble with that in the beginning because its not something there use to doing, just keep at it. If you catch yourself getting distracted by your thoughts get up take 5 min to take a break, get a snack or use the restroom, then get back at it. I have found doing that helps defog my mind and reinvigorates my motivation.
Some people spend a longer amount of time on personality than I did and that's fine I only spent 4-5 hours, but I was not counting hours while I did it. For Co the personality was me suggesting traits and explaining how they worked more than anything, Often a tulpa will take the traits they like out of the ones you have 'shown' them or given time develop there own personality traits.
Then again some people don't even go through the personality stage and leave everything up to there tulpa.
It all comes down to what makes you comfortable and happy, just keep an open and accepting mind and trust your tulpa.
As for your forcing sessions not much I can find to fault. Its important to just spent time with your tulpa and get use to the way they 'feel' you don't always have to focus on doing something, you could share happy memories with them, or tell them about your day or plans for the day.
Try to do some narration to your tulpa through out the day tell them about your friends, hobbies, family, the future, the past, time travel or tell them about your self and some of the other things you like.
Try to pick out a time of the day for your forcing sessions so that you will be able to do it at the same time every day. It helps to get a good routine that they can count on and expect you.
I have been getting up at 5:00-5:30 in the morning for my forcing sessions.
Also try to imagine the rest of her body during your forcing, I feel that you might not want a disembody head tulpa.

Good luck, I hope this helps.

I don't like calling her 'my' tulpa, I don't own her. She is the tulpa that lives with me in our body.
07-10-2014, 01:06 PM
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RE: I am a bit confused

(07-10-2014, 01:00 PM)SakuraSky Wrote: Are you taking to her (in your head) throughout the day while doing other things? It doesn't matter what you talk about as long a you talk to her as much as possible. I found that passive forcing / narration sometimes gives me better results than active forcing

I am usually talking to her when I am sitting in my bed, so I can concentrate a little bit better
07-10-2014, 01:16 PM
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RE: I am a bit confused

You might want to try and do it throughout the day too though, even if it's only a little at a time. The more often you can think about her and give her some kind of acknowledgement, the better. Doesn't really matter what you talk about, as long as you are talking (doesn't have to be out loud)

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