Jump to content

Indecisive on everything about my tulpa


Recommended Posts

My name is Dani, and my problem is I can never just choose one thing. And this includes a tulpa. I can't decide on what form I want my tulpa to have, what personality I want them to have, anything! So, does anyone have any ways to get around this kind of thing?

Link to comment
Share on other sites

This can turn out to be a pretty deep discussion, but the short answer is to probably familiarize yourself with the concept of deviation, i.e., your tulpa being able to shift and derive from one form to the next. And if you’re having nagging doubts on whether or not you feel you’re controlling how their form should be, it could be more incentive for you to engage in some rhetoric to them, i.e., something they don’t have to respond to immediately like (take this example loosely):

 

“Hey, Eva, right now I feel like anything can happen, and there’s so many things I want to talk about with you. There’s so many forms I feel you could derive from to give some kind of base on contributing how you may want to validate yourself. These cluster of emotions are a challenge for me, and I don’t want to react to a certain idea that I may regret later on.

 

I want all the right moves in all the right circumstance to ensure that you don’t feel as if you’re being constrained. But I know that wanting to condense your selfhood in such a short period of time may very well be unrealistic, and only lead to more confusion in recollecting those attributes of your personality. So let’s make a promise together that as we’re both experimenting on traits and qualities we can be comfortable in you existing as, feel free to formulate your own concept of what it means to be you.

 

I’m saying this because I don’t have much direction to go on, and I have to start somewhere even if I may be doing something that might lead to detriments, and regret. But I know deep down, that I can’t be confused for too long on the “right” or “ideal” way to assess this other than making a stand on something, and understanding trial-and-error can be my answer in progressively finding out what I can do to contribute to your existence, and my belief that you can exist.”

 

Of course, that’s just one of many ways to talk with your tulpa without clinging onto expectations that they must respond to you verbally, or even non-verbally so quickly.

 

 

There’s no need to find qualities to make a Mary Sue tulpa, but if you feel that’s essential, then I can’t say much other than to be very careful. It may lead to events where they could be trying too hard to sustain a certain image of what you feel they should be. It’s a challenge in wanting them to be someone, and at the same time letting go of militantly making that desire a reality to us. Just look at anything you do to contribute to their selfhood as transient, and stepping stones for a more complex selfhood.

 

 

 

TL;DR:

 

Deviation; you can either absolve the concept behind it, and end up having confusion on what to do, or you use the concept as a stepping stone for progressively building upon the tulpa you plan to create while knowing that taking risks, and believing your tulpa’s existence can be sustained without being affected (significantly that is) by those intrusive thoughts. One does not simply condense the selfhood of a tulpa in such a short period of time, and it shouldn’t be a surprise why you’re mystified on why you can’t accomplish that. It’s all about communication, even if it may be a rhetorical question/statement you’re asking to a tulpa you feel may not be vocal for quite some time.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

You can just narrate for now and let them choose their own form and allow their personality to develop naturally.

I come out of hibernation once in a blue moon.

 

They/them pronouns, please. (I've been using this display name since 2012 and people won't recognize me if I change it.)

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Join the conversation

You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.

Guest
Reply to this topic...

×   Pasted as rich text.   Paste as plain text instead

  Only 75 emoji are allowed.

×   Your link has been automatically embedded.   Display as a link instead

×   Your previous content has been restored.   Clear editor

×   You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL.

  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    • No registered users viewing this page.
×
×
  • Create New...