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[Personality] Protectivity
#1
Hey there folks!

For the purposes of this post as I am writing from my phone Rei's thoughts are in parentheses.

I'm wondering how protective you tulpae are of your hosts. I know in my case Reilianna is super protective of me.

(That's putting it mildly... More often than not I find myself getting offended for him even if he himself was not.)

She's not lying there, the emotional bleed from when she's riled up is something that I sometimes have to be wary of as it often makes me want to lash out.

(The real reason he's asking about this, is because he thinks he is failing us due to work stress. Thinks we'll be dissapointed with him for struggling and maybe failing. I'm more upset because it looks like he's being setup to fail. Taken advantage of frequently things like that... What's bad for him is bad for us is what I mean.)

That more or less sums it up. If they could I'm sure Alena and Rei both would bust some heads on my account. I absolutely love and adore them both for it.
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#2
For the most part, we're all equally competent, so we don't worry about how things are going for whoever is fronting in that way. Just in a "Let's talk about it" sort of way. Tewi however, while still not reactive to an ongoing situation because we really are all equally competent when push comes to shove, would prefer to be the one handling a tough situation over any of us. She does a lot of things for us, but isn't "protective" in the sense she gets upset about things we're experiencing usually.

The only time any of us are that sort of protective is the rare situation where one of us is talking to someone who knows about us, and they somehow insult not the one fronting but their systemmates. This has happened literally once, I got very upset with how a member of this forum was treating and speaking about my tulpas, when the discussion had started while Lucilyn was fronting. I managed to keep my cool since I'm a stickler for following a forum/etc.'s rules and keeping the peace, but I sure wasn't "cool" on the inside. Luckily we made up a year or so later after said member had been gone for a while.

So, when it comes to everyday life, we generally let each other deal with what comes, with it being up to the fronter if they want someone else's help/to switch with them. Generally, criticisms are directed more towards me/the body, and the actions and habits we more or less share. So there's nothing much to get protective over. I'm also an extremely patient person, so without some really pointed insults towards my system, I still won't be upset. But in the rare case someone manages to really insult or otherwise mistreat just one of us (normally while they're fronting), or speaks ill of our systemmates who aren't, we certainly have strong protective feelings.


For what little information I have of your current situation, just FYI it's very possible to end up in a job where you're just set up for failure. Talk with whoever you can about whatever the problems are, but in worst case scenario (which turns into best case once it's dragged on too long), you just need to find another job. Assuming this is a work thing and not school or family/relationship related.
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#3
C is not especially protective, though my old tulpa was... That one coached me through a lot of stuff, including coming out.

But I think I'm probably more protective of C than he is of me, as he's young and looks to me as a parent.

Either way, I find that tulpae, due to the whole head-sharing thing, are typically empathetic. If they get a little too accusatory and critical, they should realize that they've hurt your feelings and find a better way to ask for change.
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#4
Very protective, but also very forgiving.
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#5
Akai is really protective when someone hurts/insults me, she can cope with it better than before, but I still hear from her things such as 'they could treat you better you know?'. I have a ''friend'', you know, that person you get along with but there's no emotional attachment whatsoever but you, for some reason, still consider them your friend, whatever, this girl has the bad habit of yelling at me if I dare to not understand something she has told me or don't take notes in class (because she has the balls to yell at me for not taking them when she's the one who should take them in the first place instead of asking someone else), each time this happens Akai asks me why don't I just tell her to go to hell or something, she insists that if it were her, she would have done it long ago, I understand why she says it, I don't think any tulpa enjoys their host being treated unfairly. 

Miri is more calmed about it, she doesn't like seeing me being treated like that either but she's not as short tempered as Akai when it comes to stuff like this.

Don't get me started on when people insult my tulpas, mother of god, that was the main reason I ended my friendship with my used-to-be best friend. She told me she was open minded about it, plot twist, she wasn't. She called Akai a demon and said Miri was gonna kill me or some shit like that, obviously they didn't take it well. Not only my tulpas, she talked shit about tulpamancy in general too, I think I took it far worse than my tulpas did, I can stand lot of things but that hit home pretty hard.
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#6
Ranger has a far more laid back personality than I do. I'm usually the one being offended and anxious about what other people say to him. He never felt the need to intervene with anything as of now.

When Cat is procrastinating, I sometimes walk her through the first few steps to where she can do the work on her own. Otherwise, I learned it's sometimes best to stand back and accept that it's her problem not mine. 

Living in a really anxious environment sometimes, I realized that I don't have to be worried about everything. I don't know what I would do if something ticked me off enough to feel the need to intervene though...
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#7
My tulpas are very protective of me and me same to them. Even the slightest thought of stress or change in emotional mood from me, they will try and comfort me and find the cause of the problem of my stress and mood swings.

My tulpas are adventurous, especially summer, they like to go on new places where I or them haven't gone before and whenever they feel a bit uneasy on the new they usually warn me to stay cautious and be alert.

I remember a time where we were invaded by a malicious entity that i accidentally created and had a hard time to get rid off. Summer went as far as to pleaded to me to ignore and forget about her and tulpamancy completely just for my safety.They are also protective amongs themselves as well. They also Lecture me about the reasons for my decision making.
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#8
Martina isn't very protective of me though that may be due to having to be particularly protected from. Regardless, when writing ideas for my tribute story for her she did came up with an antagonist tot protect 'me' from.
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