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Will my tulpa love me? Am I creating her for valid reasons?


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Hi!!! I'm completely new to this, so I have a few questions. I've been thinking about creating a tulpa so I can have someone to talk, to hear different opinions and points of view about everything and to help me become more social. Do you guys think I'm creating a tulpa for right reasons?? I'm afraid that once I create her she will not love me and will consider me selfish, I don't want her to feel used or to feel that she was just created to please me.

Also, lately I've had a lot of problems, they have led me to feel a lot of hate and rage, if I decide to go through this and create a tulpa, will the tulpa be affected by that hate and rage? Is there a way to separate those so my tulpa won't feel hate nor rage??

 

Thank you very much for your help!! :P

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You're doing fine in the reasons. If you treat her right and make her personality accepting of that love, she will love you.

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Hi, I am fairly new to the Tulpa community also, but it seems like you get out of a Tulpa what you put in. If you put in love you receive It, and vise-verse. I remember reading on the FAQ that Tulpa's have your best interests at heart, so that won't be problem. I would think making a Tulpa would help with the problems, Meditation is never bad it will boost self reflection which solves for a Host of existential scenarios. I am not an expert though, If you make your Tulpa happy and jpyful and loving. I don't see why It would feel contempt towards you.

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You want to create a tulpa for completely valid reasons. After all, no one creates a tulpa for selfless reasons. How could you possibly be doing it for them, if they don't even exist yet?

There is no reason to believe she wouldn't love you. Tulpas almost always tend to love their host unconditionally, despite their many flaws, and history.

 

It is fine, even if you have those negative feelings. She won't be affected by them if you don't want her to be, and you don't worry too much about it.

"If this can be avoided, it should. If it can't, then it would be better if it could be. If it happened and you're thinking back to it, try and think back further. Try not to avoid it with your mind. If any of this is possible, it may be helpful. If not, it won't be."

 

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She'll love you. No question about that.

 

Now, as for the rage, you can vent to her the same way you would vent to an understanding friend. Set that precedent early on. You being angry won't make her angry any more than it would make anyone else angry. Trust her, talk to her about what upsets you, and she may even respond to you when you least expect it!

 

Besides, venting is cathartic. You'll feel better after you've gotten it off your chest.

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You should be fine. Heck, I'm forcing my tulpa for almost the same reasons, if there's a problem with those reasons then we're both screwed.

 

With the "hate and rage" you can vent to the tulpa like you would with a friend. A friend doesn't suddenly become evil and eat your face simply because you went off on a rant about how cheerios are better than fruit loops. Half of my own forcing sessions and narrating are of my venting to the tulpa in some way.

 

Slightly off-topic and funnily coincidental, but at the moment my tulpa's placeholder name is Zoey. Small world, eh? She wishes me to say hi for her, by the way.

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I'll try and make this sound different from what everyone else is saying but:

 

If you love your tulpa, she's going to love you back. Tulpae are amazing in terms of loving and getting along with their hosts, so it will be absolutely fine.

 

And also, rage vent to her like you would to anyone, but remember that even your friends might feel bad if venting is in excess. Talk to her about other feelings as well so she can understand you. She can always hear you, even if she can't talk back.

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Stay calm friend.

 

Your tulpa will love you, or at the very least learn to love you. Call yourself the biggest selfish guy and your tulpa wil find a way around it one way or another. They find the beauty in you, even if you don't find the beauty in you.

 

You'll be FINE.

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I was talking with mine last night about this actually. I was in a bit of a mood and I somehow ended up asking if they were content with their lives and if they felt put off in any way. They pretty much said to me that without me they wouldn't even exist, so even if my initial reasons for creating them were selfish, it doesn't really matter to them because without those selfish reasons, they wouldn't be able to experience anything today.

 

So yea, just to echo a bit...Your reasons are valid.

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{Kevin (a human) says: Yes, this is more or less the reason that tulpas were started to be made in the first place.

 

Teach your tulpa compassion and you'll be fine. Pretty much they can't help but care for you. Caring for their human is pretty much an unstated inclusion in the personality of every tulpa.

 

In my experience a tulpa will help you even to the point of breaking herself if that's what it takes to aid you.}

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