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Olivia Eve
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Please help me. This is urgent. My wife needs her tulpa Silver. They've been together since she was very young. But when my wife met me, so did her tulpa. Only an hour ago, her tulpa took control, blocked out my wife'a ability to hear (putting her "to sleep") and told me that she loves me more than my wife does. And since I don't love the tulpa in the same way, the tulpa wants to abandon my wife. She (the tulpa) loves me so very much and I'm breaking her heart. But I love my wife. What should I do? If the tulpa leaves my wife will be devastated. She'll be so lonely when I go to work... I love my wife... but her tulpa refuses to stay if I refuse to accept her love. Her tulpa wants to take over my wife completely so that we can be together... she says she longs to hold me and feel me... I feel so bad for the tulpa. I love her, but not in that way. I'm devoted to the one I married. I need advice. Believe me, things are much more complicated than you think...

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bad place for urgent stuff that needs fast responses, go here: https://community.tulpa.info/forum-irc-chat

Hi, I'm one of Lumi's tulpas! I like rain and dancing and dancing in the rain and if there's frogs there too that's bonus points.

I think being happy and having fun makes life worth living, so spreading happiness is my number one goal!

Talk to us? https://community.tulpa.info/thread-ask-lumi-s-tulpas

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Err, probably better going to discord.

 

The tulpa is probably making empty threats if they are as old as you indicate. Leaving is not an easy process, and usually rather tragic.

 

However, tell them to be more reasonable. And be honest with your wife.

 

Oh, also, if the tulpa existed before your marriage, the statement you made may not be accurate. Especially if you learned of the tulpa's existence afterwards.

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The tulpa told me herself that she was in love with me and would leave my wife if I didn't tell her I love her the same way. Luckily, both my wife and her tulpa are sleeping right now...

My wife has had her tulpa Silver since she was a child. But only recently (a week ago) did my wife tell me about her (my wife and I have been together a year), and now that Silver is "allowed" to be known by me, and I accept her as part of the family, she has become very controlling over the past two days and keeps confessing her love and begging me to let her take full control so she and I can be together (me and Silver)...

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[Violet] Silver needs to understand a few things. Not sure how responsive she would be to you telling her such things. And you likely have already, though I am doing to put it in the way I see it just in case you haven't and that it might get through to her. Her feelings are completely legitimate and there is nothing wrong with them. But no one has the right to dictate what others should feel, and she needs to see that your feelings are completely legitimate too and that there is nothing wrong with them either. Sometimes people's feelings are incompatible, and that is just life. It is part of respecting the feelings of others. A very important part about caring about someone and loving them is respecting their feelings even when their feelings are incompatible with one's own. She talks the talk on loving you, but she needs to start walking the walk. And walking the walk can be hard and painful, but it is important for her to do just like anyone else (the same rules and morals that apply to everyone else apply to her too). Unrequited romantic love (same goes for platonic as well) is one of the hardest, but she can get through it. And she doesn't have to leave either. Does she love your wife? If so, then her current behavior is quite contrary to that (in addition to being way out of line). Again, she has to walk the walk of love. She is in a lot of pain now and it is a very real and legitimate pain, but that is no excuse to hurt others. On the leaving part, it is her right to leave, just as with any other tulpa, but it is a decision to make carefully as it may not be possible to come back. Will she be OK with the decision to leave now and the situation she created for the ones she claims to loves right before leaving (basically, to leave on such a note) 1 year from now, 10 years from now, etc.?

 

I hope your situation resolves. I don't know what else to say. I can see that this is very painful for you, and is (or at least will be when she wakes up) painful for your wife as well. Your feelings are completely legitimate in this situation.

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