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Increasing your conscious time.

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If you want to make a tulpa, you might want to be bored every once in a while.  

 

This may be pretty obvious all things considered, because people recommend meditation all the time and what I'm doing here is basically recommending that you take some time to meditate every day, but I think this is something a bit distinct from meditation as well.

 

In your day-to-day life you are almost always engaged with something that is requiring your attention, the feedback loop of action and reaction goes from your action to the object you are working on be it a person or a computer or some music and then back to you.

 

During this process a lot of people tend to get to a stage of thought where they don't really think of themselves in a third person perspective. There is no you when you are typing on a computer, or responding to what someone says, there are only your thoughts in the process of putting those thoughts into words. There is no you when you are heavily involved in a videogame, there is only the reactions you have in the moment to the game.  This is clearly a problem for tulpa, because if there is no you in the first place or if there is no real focus on observing yourself then there is not going to be much room in your thoughts for a second self to start showing up.

 

With this in mind, I think it may be beneficial to take some time out of your day to get to a point where your thoughts are largely focused on yourself. Get to a stage where you aren't doing anything but thinking and relaxing.  Don't try to clear your mind, don't try to focus your thoughts on some goal or destination, don't attempt to "go with the flow". Instead, just sit in a quiet room and be, think about whatever you want, do whatever you want, just make sure that whatever you are doing or thinking about your thoughts are focused only within your head. No TV, no music, nothing that can take your focus out of yourself.

 

In the purpose of this is not to increase your focus, or to help you think better, or to give you better brain waves.  It isn't to meditate or build a skill. It is entirely for the purpose of giving you time in which you are thinking about yourself and existing with your own thoughts rather than thinking about something in front of you or something you are interacting with.  I would guess that it would also be best not do this while laying in your bed or in a position associated with sleep, because that is how you fall asleep, and you are not trying to fall asleep.  You don't want a peaceful mind, you want an active mind without a "thing" to focus on.

 

 

I do not think this should be a time in which you only active force. That way it doesn't become something strictly associated with tulpa and you can have your tulpa existing in a context that is not purely associated with you trying to create them.  Instead, you could use the moment to do all sorts of things as a part of your daily routine. The idea would be that when you are mulling about your thoughts your tulpa will have more room to interject and get involved with your conversation, unlike when you are strongly focused on something else.

 

Additionally, it can just be fun to do.

 


 

As a side note to this post, to those who are dealing with doubt on this topic, it probably isn't a big deal if your tulpa does not respond or does not exist in the moment when you are focused on things that are not yourself. A concept of self is something that takes time and effort to develop. To have a concept that is so strong that it remains in play when you are strongly focused on an activity is probably beyond which most will ever be able to accomplish.

 

 

Don't get too antsy if your tulpa doesn't exist when you are busy, as it may well be true that you sometimes don't exist when you are busy as well.

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this is pretty perfect, simultaneously the answer to the problem and easy advice to ignore because it hits that "laziness vs consciousness"/mental effort thing, I think Tewi and maybe even Reisen have made threads vaguely about that before? but yes, sometimes (heck, frequently) we go entire days without talking to each other in our system, which is why we make sure 100% of the time to check in before going to bed at least since years ago it could get up to a week at a time really easily

 

but yeah, making a special effort to set time aside every day to interact with your tulpa (or systemmates) is a really good idea, but it (for some people) is way harder than it sounds and I'd like to acknowledge that for those people in case it helps - YES it can be hard not to sort of "zone out" all day and YES it's easy to forget and slip back into old habits (this.. applies to a lot of things), so YES it is actually hard to do for more than one day and so it does require some real effort and motivation, just don't get too demotivated when you remember you've forgot, okay? battling your own brain isn't easy


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I agree that a host being experienced with some quality "me time" would help them focus on their Tulpa, although I wonder if a new host would already be having too much "me time, especially if the reason they are drawn to Tulpamancy is because of their loneliness.

 

With Cat, one of her biggest fears is she would procrastinate talking to me and she would hurt me in the long run. As a result, she decided that she would make an effort to make sure I have at bare minimum a few minutes of time each day, even if that looks like a small "Hi, how are you feeling?". Despite being young at the time and Cat dealing with the peak of her depression, we were able to tough it out and I eventually developed enough to where I could front on my own.

 

Too much "me time" may have been the reason why Cat accidentally created me in the first place, but it also opened the door to all of her raw pain. I think it's a good idea to tell newer Tulpamancers to get a good feel for what their head is like before moving forward, especially if that 3 hours of video game time was actually a way to shield them from their own thoughts.


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I think the intended purpose here is to increase your conscious time from "none" to "some", not from "some" to "a lot"

 

if you can't find the time in your days (maybe one single day can be this busy, but..) to spend less than 2 minutes doing something (talking to your tulpa), you aren't actually trying - he didn't say how long it had to be, so I think adapting it to suit your wants as appropriate is fine, a few minutes can be enough


Hi I'm one of Lumi's tulpas! I like rain and dancing and dancing in the rain and if there's frogs there too that's bonus points.

All of my posts should be read at a hundred miles per hour because that's probably how they were written

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A minute or two isn't productive, but it was enough for me to survive and it made Cat feel okay to try and talk to me the next day.

 

It's possible our angle is a little skewed here, only because Cat didn't create me using the traditional way. The other issue is Cat was gaining self-awareness of who she was while I was developing, so it's possible just that alone made a big difference.


I'm Ranger, Gray's/Cat_ShadowGriffin's tulpa, and I love hippos! I also like cake and chatting about stuff.

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I've heard of trying to increase conscious awareness as a building block to better visualization and even lucid dreaming. It's interesting to think about conscious self-awareness practice.. But yeah, you are right I think, the more time that headmates specifically spend as themselves and not just as the generic person in charge of the body, the better. Without that distinction it might get easy for everyone to kinda blend together or get forgotten.

 

Constant self-awareness would probably also help in other areas of life, but just don't let it go too far into the selfish self-awareness when you are nitpicking over what everyone else thinks about you and what you look like and blah blah. ain't nobody got time fo' that.

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You're nearly spot on, but going out of your way from playing games, to procrastinate again inside your own thoughts. Is harmful advice. Repeating the same thoughts over and over again is an addiction like any other. Going out of your way to be bored is what I've came to understand, is very important for humans, but you have to make sure you're actually bored, you have to do things you don't want to do. My best example is to not think about what you want, but what your tulpa would want, or think about what they would do at that moment. Even not thinking at all.

 

I'd advocate that losing your self is the key to tulpamancy, and that playing video games, is more akin to sleeping, than loss of self. Every time you wake up, you're back in your old self.

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