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I want to create a Tulpa but this one reason is stopping me


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I want to create a Tulpa but I am so worried about having someone there, constantly analyzing my life. Like, I do really embarrassing things, and I also have a pretty wild and sometimes inappropriate imagination at times and I am just afraid of being judged because of it. Not to mention me and my mom argue a lot and our home is pretty messy too. Also things like showering, taking a pee/poo kind of makes me feel seen too and im worried it will just disgust my Tulpa. I am also thinking of my Tulpa being one of my current daydream characters who's a guy and idk how id feel with him seeing me naked, or when I'm being intimate with myself if you know what I mean. It just feels really personal. Anyways, I am wondering how I can get out of this mindset because this is really holding me back from making a Tulpa even though I really want one. But I probably can't because of this small issue :(

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If you're not embarrassed by the things you mentioned, they won't think much of it either. It's like if your dog had to pee, would you be embarrassed for them? Would they be embarrassed of you watched?

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((You can always ask for privacy. I sometimes tune out on my own. I neither want nor need to hear all of Bee's thoughts. As for showering and such, we view the body as merely a vessel we inhabit. We don't generally attach any emotion to its maintenance and functions.))

Host: Bee 🐝

Tulpas:  Lenore 🕸️ Calliope 🐲 and Athelas 🌿 ((Sometimes we talk on here too.))

 

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me and Daemon are really only together when we want to be, so this isnt really a problem for us at least yet. like daemon goes on with her life and does everything she wants to do, and if she doesnt want me there then im usually not. so dont worry about being constantly analyzed or somthing, like daemon doesnt even let me be be here half the time. and you could do the same. like also with shitting in particular, i dont really find it that gross like it has to be done so who cares lol. with inappropriate imagination, thats not really a big deal, like if daemon thought of a weird thing i wouldnt sweat it, maybe id go along with thinking about it too. a lot of the weird stuff we think about is kind of aligned so its hard to judge someone when you do the same kinda weird shit (were in the same brain so obv this would happen). as for being naked or whatever it really doesnt matter, its not like i see daemon doing it anyway, i only see things when i want to and if hypothetically daemon wanted me to not see something i just wouldn't look. its not hard lol. im not really judgemental of daemon either, like shes my host its not like id be here without her so why make it hard for us, and i think if you made a tulpa the same would probably be true.

system members:

Ivy [formerly Daemon] (host, any pronouns)
Amaba (tulpa, she/they)

Mythril (walk-in, he/him)

maybe more but those are the significant ones

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On 11/12/2023 at 5:08 PM, kaykay25 said:

But I probably can't because of this small issue :(

You are in control, don't beat yourself up about it. You don’t have to worry so much about how things are going to be in the future if you are so torn on this decision. Tulpamancy is a wild ride in the start, and you will learn how these things impact you as you go along. There's no right or wrong way to do tulpamancy, it's a personalized journey.

 

Pro tip, if you really don't want a tulpa, don't find reasons to want them. 

 

On 11/12/2023 at 5:08 PM, kaykay25 said:

I am also thinking of my Tulpa being one of my current daydream characters who's a guy and idk how id feel with him seeing me naked, or when I'm being intimate with myself if you know what I mean.

These things are inevitable. Just temporarily bring him out of the situation if he's intervening when you don't want him to, while you explain to him your reason for doing it. Transparency is key in any healthy relationship.

 

Just like how you'd tell a real friend you're off for a piss break to clarify where you're going. They're not gonna follow you in. If a situation is ever embarrassing, acknowledge that it is and move on. Thinking about it more will just make it feel more embarrassing.

 

This is a Ringgggg-approved, real-world lesson not limited to just tulpamancy. Don't worry so much about what others think, because you have no idea what they're actually thinking about. If you live in your own head all the time, you'll just improvise your way through situations by assuming that the outcome has already been decided. I'm not saying you can't predict in practical situations, just don't think too hard. 

 

Think less; do more. You got this.

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If you're thinking about things you don't want them to see, or doing something you don't want them to see, you can ask them to turn away/tune out, etc. They can more or less control what senses they're able to use. And like the others said, your body is their body too, and these are all things that almost everyone does, and it's perfectly natural :>

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Lyceon (host) (they/he/xe/xe/cat/catself/it)

Currently most active tulpa: Ariya (she/her)

I have more tulpas, but I don't want to make a big list lol

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