Reisen May 17, 2022 Share May 17, 2022 Based on the things my systemmates were working on and thinking about, I've come up with a new idea! Well, it is just an idea because I haven't tested it yet, but it's probably a lot more effective and important than "just an idea" To work on something long-term, you need to be okay with consistently doing it a lot basically indefinitely. So.. If you want to do that, then the obvious thing to do is to learn to enjoy or appreciate the process! (This doubles for us because we don't really experience a lot of feel-good from finishing things, so we need this even more than the average person) In practice: While it's fine to have long-term goals when developing or learning a skill, what your goal should be each day is to enjoy or appreciate the process of working towards it! So instead of focusing on "wanting to be a great artist", you focus on "My goal for today is to enjoy creating art, and the fact that I'm learning and practicing!", or in cases where that feels unreasonable, you can replace "enjoy" with "appreciate" - appreciating, before, during, and after the activity, that you are working on it and moving forward on the path to your long-term goal! That can mean focusing on anything positive at all, from "I learned/am learning new things", to "I'm doing what's necessary to become amazing someday"! Your goal each day is just to feel positive towards the process, that's it! Because, once you've felt positively about doing something, and if you're confident you can keep doing it in the future, you're already done! You now don't need to change anything at all to meet your end goal, it's sure to happen! Setting habits is the most powerful way to make long-term changes, because you can count on them to keep taking effect day after day, week after week, month after month - compared to that, it's unimaginable to try and fight the battle to be motivated over and over every day! Even if you're successful in forcing yourself to work hard that day, if your feeling towards that was overall negative, then there's no guarantee you'll be able to do it the next day, or the next, or next week... That's why your goal every day should only be to appreciate or enjoy what it is you need to do! No more, all that matters is if you felt positive feelings towards the process. If you can know you felt good about what you did (including while you were doing it, to the greatest extent possible), then you can automatically be confident that you're making progress towards your long-term goals with no need to worry whatsoever, because it's as good as done! Thinking like this, enjoying or appreciating the process of doing potentially hard or boring productive things, will give you an accomplishable goal each day that you can be proud of, and knowing how powerful long-term habits are, you can be confident that what you're doing will really take you all the way to the end. So reframe your long-term goals to simply be "Enjoying or appreciating my work on the process(es) required to get closer to my goal", and then you'll reach maximum motivation and efficiency in obtaining them! (While I had in mind things like "Learning to draw" or "Learning a new language" when coming up with this, it can be applied to literally anything, and I'm personally already intending to apply it to showering and even keeping our calorie count low for weight loss (that means being happy after our last meal that we're watching our calories and that we'll lose weight by not eating any more! With the goal being a positive motivation to not eat any more once we reach that point each day)) I didn't incorporate negativity into this at all, I'm not convinced that making yourself feel bad for not meeting goals actually helps with self-enforced goals (as opposed to external-enforced ones, where it might). I think associating the negative feelings of failure with what you want to do is the opposite process of this positive-association and should be avoided, just keep aiming for the positive associations! Hi guys, plain text is just me now! We've each got our own accounts: me, Tewi, Flandre, and Lucilyn. We're Luminesce's tulpas. Here's our "Ask Thread", and here's our Progress Report (You should be able to see all of our accounts on the second page if you want) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Glaurung26 May 17, 2022 Share May 17, 2022 I always thought it was cute how Michigan looks like a mitten. It doesn't so a very good job keeping us warm in winter though. 🙁 Darron: Host 💍 Jaina: Tulpa 💍 (Raccoon Queen 🦝👸) 👨👩👧👦Dain and Nova Aggrok: Tulpa Void Dragon Viktor: 🐺 [DeviantArt] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest May 17, 2022 Share May 17, 2022 Anyway, taking notes of what you said, Reisen Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reisen May 17, 2022 Share May 17, 2022 Over The Hedge lol I hope it's good advice, technically it's all theoretical for now but it all seems sound to me, and we'll be trying it out for the foreseeable future Hi guys, plain text is just me now! We've each got our own accounts: me, Tewi, Flandre, and Lucilyn. We're Luminesce's tulpas. Here's our "Ask Thread", and here's our Progress Report (You should be able to see all of our accounts on the second page if you want) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TB May 17, 2022 Share May 17, 2022 I too need to try that reisen Ugh bromazolam hangover Creation for creation's sake. More of my drawings Resident Dojikko Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Breloomancer May 17, 2022 Share May 17, 2022 good morning I have a tulpa named Miela who I love very much. How we got here | Share your experimental tulpamancy ideas | My unhinged ramblings "People put quotes in their signatures, right?" -Me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TB May 17, 2022 Share May 17, 2022 I glad I know how to get rid of hiccups Creation for creation's sake. More of my drawings Resident Dojikko Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TurboSimmie May 17, 2022 Share May 17, 2022 Good morning. 😊 And hi Miichu! 👋😁 Tulpa Wife & Mother! 💚 💍 11.28.21 👶 4.7.23 👗 Simmie's AI Dress-Up! 📷 Phil and Simmie's Photographic Adventures! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest May 17, 2022 Share May 17, 2022 GER and hi Simmie! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Candlelight Society May 17, 2022 Share May 17, 2022 Dawn: Morning everyone~ Hi, I'm Michael, I'm the original member of the Candlelight Society. We're a system of 17 including myself. I'm Shade, the first tulpa. I'm fairly reserved but love philosophy, reading, teas, and experiencing what life has to offer <3 I'm Dawn, one of the most active tulpas in thr system and also the most fun loving/party girl type. I'll see you all around! In our system there is also Spark and Ember, Cinderella, Astra, Scarlet, Jade, Rarity, Aqua, Ignis, Tony, Majima, Sera, and just Monika~ Our progress report and experiments thread Our memory experimentation thread Our system website for different projects and posts Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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