ringgggg January 23, 2023 Share January 23, 2023 I'm starting to sound like a broken record now, I'm sorry, but, dude, do stuff D-prime is shrinking as we speak. Official LOTPW leaderboard Our imposition progress report Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ice909 January 23, 2023 Share January 23, 2023 ^^^^^^^^^ Hey there, the name's Bryan. In system Re:Body(In order of the rainbow): Sean, Esper, Blinky, Compact, Janey, Kyle, Gwen'd, Gwen, Emily, Rollin, Waynin, Trease, Layy, Justin, Chloe, Zachery, and Elliot. I've been here a while. Much longer than I thought I'd be. Our system was founded October 2nd, 2018. In early 2020, we decided that due to our systems exponential growth, we'd limit who would be active. Now, every month, we do a check to see who wishes to be in dormancy and who wishes to be active. Currently, for the month of April, 2023, we've got myself(Bryan), Janey(Co-host), Emily, Layy, Chloe, and Esper(sub-rep). After over 2 long years, we can finally switch :) Bryan is currently swapped in as host, Esper is sub-rep. "There used to be 7 wonders of the world, but now there's 8, as everyone wonders how much of a fool you are." Ice909#0065 -- Always down for a chat https://discord.gg/89qN59SbRp Plural safe-space Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Breloomancer January 23, 2023 Share January 23, 2023 1 hour ago, Miri said: I dislike this world so much so it's an external issue, an issue with the world, rather than an internal one, with yourself? is it that you don't want to live, or that you don't want to live in this world? what is it that you hate about the world? you mentioned that you feel like you have no control in your life, and that you have problems with social relationships, but are those your main problems, that if they were resolved, you would be fine, or is there more to it than that? 50 minutes ago, Miri said: I've been definitely stepping out of my comfort zone for a while, and wanted to do so even more. Whatever, sorry for this edgy mood, tomorrow when I wake up I'll regret everything I said here today don't apologize for being unhappy, or for talking about being unhappy! there is no shame in having negative feelings. and people who pretend like everything is fine all the time are kind of unbearable I have a tulpa named Miela who I love very much. How we got here | Share your experimental tulpamancy ideas | My unhinged ramblings "People put quotes in their signatures, right?" -Me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ringgggg January 23, 2023 Share January 23, 2023 (edited) Thanks for adding on, Bre :) Edited January 23, 2023 by ringgggg D-prime is shrinking as we speak. Official LOTPW leaderboard Our imposition progress report Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ice909 January 23, 2023 Share January 23, 2023 14 minutes ago, Breloomancer said: don't apologize for being unhappy, or for talking about being unhappy! there is no shame in having negative feelings. and people who pretend like everything is fine all the time are kind of unbearable ^ Hey there, the name's Bryan. In system Re:Body(In order of the rainbow): Sean, Esper, Blinky, Compact, Janey, Kyle, Gwen'd, Gwen, Emily, Rollin, Waynin, Trease, Layy, Justin, Chloe, Zachery, and Elliot. I've been here a while. Much longer than I thought I'd be. Our system was founded October 2nd, 2018. In early 2020, we decided that due to our systems exponential growth, we'd limit who would be active. Now, every month, we do a check to see who wishes to be in dormancy and who wishes to be active. Currently, for the month of April, 2023, we've got myself(Bryan), Janey(Co-host), Emily, Layy, Chloe, and Esper(sub-rep). After over 2 long years, we can finally switch :) Bryan is currently swapped in as host, Esper is sub-rep. "There used to be 7 wonders of the world, but now there's 8, as everyone wonders how much of a fool you are." Ice909#0065 -- Always down for a chat https://discord.gg/89qN59SbRp Plural safe-space Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luminesce January 23, 2023 Share January 23, 2023 (edited) @Miri There is countless bad in this world (and always has been, all the way back in time to just "Cute animals everywhere are being eaten by predators ):") that no human could ever hope to do much about on their own, and stressing out about it tends to be an effect of consuming news/media telling you about bad things (which is a strong trend since at this point nothing matters to news deliverers but engagement & money, certainly not conveying important-to-know things), so generally the main solution to this problem is to bring your scope of the world back down towards what's relevant to your actual life. You can't take on the entire world, but you can maybe take on the community around you, you know? If you limit the scope of what you concern yourself with & consider problems you want to fix, you'll feel more in control because you'll be in more control and will see actual results. As a humanitarian, I had to learn how to very cleanly control who and what I do and don't worry about. Drawing those lines is what allows me to help people all the time and be aware of problems without getting stressed out and overwhelmed. If I was distraught over all the problems in the world I knew about, I would shut down (like I did in my early teens, actually). But knowing that the maximum difference I can make is the maximum difference I can make makes me feel better about only worrying about and tackling what I feel capable of helping with. It's a difficult but incredibly important skill to develop for people who tend to take on all the world's problems. Though again, social media use (especially places with world news like facebook and twitter, or even reddit if you browse the wrong subreddits) tends to exacerbate this problem in the entire general public and leads to unnecessary apathy and stress. You might not do that stuff at all though, since you clearly developed some problems from your actual direct life experience. But you talk about "the world" so much - you're not going to make any progress dealing with the close-to-home problems when your scope is still "the world". Be aware of the maximum (reasonably achievable) level of impact you can actually have through your efforts right now, and only truly worry about things within that realm. When you're having thoughts of suicide and struggling to establish a living for yourself, that realm is pretty much just yourself plus whoever you interact with in your daily life. For now, that's how big of a space you should be worried about influencing. Mine is similar, except obviously I go out of my way to seek out people to help (directly) too, like on this forum. And another step up from there is doing things to help people you even aren't in direct contact with, like donating money or contributing to services that help people, and then even further is wide-reaching stuff like being a politician or whatever such things. But you should only take on what you're currently capable of providing, and for you, that's currently for yourself + people you directly interact with. So try not to worry about people outside of that range yet until you feel ready to do so! (I personally am waiting to get some strong career skills established, and plan to make a lot of money but continue living a minimalist lifestyle and using that money to help people who it'll make the biggest difference for, but until I get there I can't let their struggles be my struggles as I'm not in a place to help them yet) Also your therapist continues to strike me as rather unprofessional. So keep in mind they're just a fellow human who happens to have some education, but don't get too hung up on every thing they do or say, since they don't seem good enough to do that. Just treat them like a (flawed, like everyone else) person who is trying to help you Edited January 23, 2023 by Luminesce Hi! I'm Lumi, host of Reisen, Tewi, Flandre and Lucilyn. Everyone deserves to love and be loved. It's human nature. My tulpas and I have a Q&A thread, which was the first (and largest) of its kind. Feel free to ask us about tulpamancy stuff there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ice909 January 23, 2023 Share January 23, 2023 agreed Hey there, the name's Bryan. In system Re:Body(In order of the rainbow): Sean, Esper, Blinky, Compact, Janey, Kyle, Gwen'd, Gwen, Emily, Rollin, Waynin, Trease, Layy, Justin, Chloe, Zachery, and Elliot. I've been here a while. Much longer than I thought I'd be. Our system was founded October 2nd, 2018. In early 2020, we decided that due to our systems exponential growth, we'd limit who would be active. Now, every month, we do a check to see who wishes to be in dormancy and who wishes to be active. Currently, for the month of April, 2023, we've got myself(Bryan), Janey(Co-host), Emily, Layy, Chloe, and Esper(sub-rep). After over 2 long years, we can finally switch :) Bryan is currently swapped in as host, Esper is sub-rep. "There used to be 7 wonders of the world, but now there's 8, as everyone wonders how much of a fool you are." Ice909#0065 -- Always down for a chat https://discord.gg/89qN59SbRp Plural safe-space Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TB January 23, 2023 Share January 23, 2023 I hope the best of luck and happiness for you miri. I don't know what advice I can give. I finally moved myself in I think I got everything. Time to go to Walmart and buy stuff for the house like I need a microwave. Before that time to eat Mexican Creation for creation's sake. More of my drawings Resident Dojikko Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ringgggg January 23, 2023 Share January 23, 2023 Celebration dinner D-prime is shrinking as we speak. Official LOTPW leaderboard Our imposition progress report Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luminesce January 23, 2023 Share January 23, 2023 (edited) There's definitely some kind of list of priorities you need to make finally moving into your own place. I mean, well, there's just a lot. Now you have to have a certain amount of unspendable money each month, plus you have to account for your groceries and all. You cannot let tons of bad habits follow you to your new independent life, so going over your various fresh starts is really important too. And then prioritizing (even setting boundaries for) how you spend your time, as part of creating new productive habits. Though your sleep problem and your job killing your back are two big things you haven't dealt with quite yet, and those will get in the way of establishing some new habits/schedules. Next thing for you after you're settled is to find a better job, I think (unless getting transport is necessary first - but is there no public transportation nearby?), since I'd order your priorities of what problems to address in your life as "Stop working the job that's causing you a lot of physical pain -> try to start lowering the number of different medications you take (work with doctors for this ofc) -> get a sleep study done and figure out how to stop sleeping >10 hours a day" But again congrats, and good luck with all of the new but hopefully small troubles that come with living on your own for the first time. Sorting all of them out is your immediate priority of course. I recommend again Google and Youtube searching for anything you don't know how to do. Youtube videos covering questions that everyone has to deal with are surprisingly available, so I wouldn't count out Youtube for random things like "how to pay taxes/bills" and such tbh Edited January 23, 2023 by Luminesce Hi! I'm Lumi, host of Reisen, Tewi, Flandre and Lucilyn. Everyone deserves to love and be loved. It's human nature. My tulpas and I have a Q&A thread, which was the first (and largest) of its kind. Feel free to ask us about tulpamancy stuff there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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