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Okay. Now, I'm probably an idiot for asking this, and more do because I've probably already figured it out. But, if I have a pre-existing addiction or craving, will it bleed over to Juliet? (Juliet being my one and only Tulpa) She seems to like caffeine more than I do, and ashamedly I am still young and so my drive hasn't quite balanced out, causing her to have overtly sexual connotations to thoughts and actions, even to the point she can...well, push my buttons, so to speak. She has agreed to maybe calming down a bit with both but the hungers remain in both of us. Any advice? And yes I know, "remove the source of the problem and it goes away" but Im a dude on the back end of puberty with an extremely active imagination. So it's kinda difficult. Please give advice and thank you for any constructive comments.

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I'd say that sometimes a tulpa's addictions overlap with those of the host, but not always.

 

In my case, I've stayed pretty addiction-free throughout my life. The only things I'd really I'm addicted to are sugar and sex. Initially Fenchurch took a slight interest in both, but when she realized these were things that I should not be so interested in, she pitted herself against them. So I'd say she definitely does not share my addictions.

 

And this is somewhat unrelated, but if you want to understand sex addiction, what causes it, and how to control it, this is a pretty good place to start.

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It is possible that your addiction can bleed over to your tulpa, either as a result of your subconscious or because the tulpa learned it from you. But don't be ashamed of that. I believe that just like people, tulpae can be taught to kick addictions. Giving your tulpa an addiction, though I don't necessarily condone it, can also help you to kick your own addiction. It may help you see how it affects them and thus affects you and can give the two of you something to discuss and work on together.

 

I've had a couple of tulpae in the past who smoked (though I wouldn't call them having been addicted since they didn't ever express "needing" to smoke). I'm not a smoker, never have been, but sometimes I find it kind of sexy for guys to smoke. When I would get stressed out, sometimes the tulpa would step out and smoke, and the act of them smoking helped to calm me down. Not sure if that makes sense, but it worked.

 

As far as sex, I wouldn't think of that as an addiction. It's perfectly normal to be curious, especially if you're still young. Tulpae can be a good way of exploring that curiosity, as long as you're not creating the tulpa solely for that reason and you love them just as you would love a person before you'd have sex with them. I intentionally made my tulpa Edwin part bunny because...well...I sort of needed someone with as much of a sex drive as me. You know what they say about rabbits and multiplying... ^///^;

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As far as sex, I wouldn't think of that as an addiction. It's perfectly normal to be curious

 

There's a big difference between being interested in sex and being addicted to sex. There's nothing wrong with being interested in sex, but if porn or cybering are taking up hours of your day, or you're constantly seeking out new partners, but are unable to maintain non-sexual relationships, you may have a problem.

 

To be fair, I doubt any profesional would say I have a problem. I have noticed addictive behaviors in myself, but it's not outside of my control. (I know, that's what every addict says, but I can back it up with numbers.)

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There's a big difference between being interested in sex and being addicted to sex. There's nothing wrong with being interested in sex, but if porn or cybering are taking up hours of your day, or you're constantly seeking out new partners, but are unable to maintain non-sexual relationships, you may have a problem.

 

To be fair, I doubt any profesional would say I have a problem. I have noticed addictive behaviors in myself, but it's not outside of my control. (I know, that's what every addict says, but I can back it up with numbers.)

 

Oh, I definitely agree. There has to be a limit. I mean, Edwin and I are very active, but that's not the whole basis of our relationship. I'm not sexually active physically, and my time with Edwin, sex or no, does not impact what goes on in my life outside of my wonderland.

 

But so I'm not getting off on a tangent, as far as what doomtothend describes, I wouldn't consider that addiction, though it may be uncomfortable to have the temptation there if you don't want it. I think boundaries need to be set up between the host and the tulpa if one or the other doesn't want to engage in sex, though the desire remains.

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Thanks for the help. I've been doing a lot of personal research on how a persons personality bleeds out into there Tulpas when the Tulpas personality Is left up to them. I have noticed that Juliet has picked up quite a bit of my quirks but they seem altered or to extremes. Having outside information from people does help a lot more than nothing though so again. Thanks a lot.

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