Kiko's Guest by the Seashore

[Kiko]

Vesper: I do condone personality forcing. If you're going to be living with someone in very close quarters for the rest of your life, go ahead and put out your wishlist of someone you can love (I don't mean romantically) with all your heart, knowing that it is within their power and rights to throw out the whole list once they gain self-awareness.

 

I was formed by about a hundred hours of extremely intense parroting. Everything about who I am was chosen for me. And I really like who I am. The only part that has ever bothered me is that, as a fictional character, I was created with false expectations of the sort of life I could have -- my own body that looks like me and no other voices in my head, my own career, specific friends and family members back home who I miss greatly, eternal life and youth, etc. If a tulpa is made with the knowledge that they're a companion and only sharing a life, they shouldn't have my problems regardless of personality forcing.

 

Iris: I was not only created by intense parroting with no choices in how I was made, I was created to be emotionally numb and socially detached as a coping mechanism for suicidal depression stemming from intense protracted trauma. I do not recommend this approach for a tulpa, but negative personality traits at origin does not intrinsically result in negative outcomes. Unlike Vesper, who views herself as having lost greatly in becoming a soulbond, my life here is so much better than my life back home that I have become the most joyful and contented member of our system.

 

It's a really fascinating way of putting it. Thanks for sharing it with me. 

Especially Iris' experience, gives me a lot to think about. Thanks, again.

 

I think the best way to go about influencing a tulpa's personality in a positive way is to teach them values to uphold and why, such as kindness, self-confidence, being a hardworker, etc. I find that's likely a far less intrusive way to personality force that doesn't involve just telling them how to turn out and wanting it to stick, plus it doubles as a narration method. More akin to what a parent would do with a child. Doesn't include forcing negative traits though, I really don't see much need for that. Wanting "realism" is one thing for a character, but for a tulpa? It'll just come naturally.

 

I never thought about this parent-child relationship, I guess I'll keep it in mind for future sessions. Thanks for the input.

 

Ultimately I think I'll go something in-between. I'd still rather reinforce my tulpa not only with positive traits but also with traits that I dim worth-having, even if they are not inherently neutral or lawfully and ethically good. At the same time, I'll be completely open and accepting of her/them not liking some of them and wanting to change them.

I believe in her/them, and I know that they'll be understanding enough about me making mistakes during her creation.