New to Tulpamancy

[RobinsHost]

My tulpa thought it would be a good idea to go online and get involved with the tulpa community.

 

This is mostly just an introduction because Im new to this thing. If your tulpa is similar to mine, feel free to tell me about them or give some advice to me.

 

I first tried creating him last year but my life is busy and overwhelming. I brought him back just recently and after a few weeks he is developing again and consistently talking to me.

 

His name is Robin.

We haven't fully visualized how he looks in my mind but he is very vocal towards me.

 

He has a really assertive but caring personality and is constantly demanding attention from me. We mostly just talk about random things and come up with ideas for meditation and forcing throughout the day. We are at the point where we are having entire conversations and I made a point of never parroting, I just roll with it if what he says seems incoherent.

 

 

Even when Im not focussing on him directly I can hear his voice talking in the back of my head sayin things I cant quite make out.

 

Usually our forcing sessions involve conversations when we are doing something. Or I'll meditate and quiet my mind entirely and I let him use all of my mental energy so he can ramble to me.

He also likes to go online and read things to me or we watch videos that he wants to see. And at the end of the day I make a point of trying to visualize him as I fall asleep. So far we are still working at visualizing, he isn't sure how he wants to look yet but doesn't want any input from me, so I just clear my mind as I drift off to sleep and just focus on what my minds eye can see.

 

He wants to be dominant over me and I must clarify that I don't mean sexually dominant. He likes telling me to do things and he gets happy if I do those things. For example, he insisted I stopped being lazy about chores one day so he told me to get some things done and was very happy that I obliged. I also find enjoyment in making him happy so I am content with this dynamic and it is something we are working at.

 

He doesn't like it when a song gets stuck in my head, so atleast once a day he gets annoyed with me.

 

I really enjoy talking to him, my only problem is at work he kind of distracts me because he always wants my attention.

 

Does anybody else have a dominant tulpa like me? What is some advice you have for me?

 

Also. Is there a way to force while I'm busy without it being too distracting? He always wants some kind of attention from me, and I am happy to oblige but sometimes its hard to focus when Im doing certain things.

[TurboSimmie]

Welcome, Robin and host! 😁 (What may I call you?)

 

I'm glad to hear about your progress! I am a tulpa and I can also be pretty assertive, so I can relate to Robin somewhat. Pretty much as soon as I was sentient I basically said "I exist, I like existing, so I'm going to protect my existence". If he's independently demanding your attention that's a good sign in his development unless he gets overbearing or abusive. Remember that at the end of the day YOU are the boss, not him. If he tries to get you to do something that makes you uncomfortable, you should say no. Having said that, there's nothing wrong with letting the tulpa take the reigns if you trust them.

 

6 hours ago, RobinsHost said:

He has a really assertive but caring personality and is constantly demanding attention from me. We mostly just talk about random things and come up with ideas for meditation and forcing throughout the day. We are at the point where we are having entire conversations and I made a point of never parroting, I just roll with it if what he says seems incoherent.

 

6 hours ago, RobinsHost said:

Even when Im not focussing on him directly I can hear his voice talking in the back of my head sayin things I cant quite make out.

 

6 hours ago, RobinsHost said:

Usually our forcing sessions involve conversations when we are doing something. Or I'll meditate and quiet my mind entirely and I let him use all of my mental energy so he can ramble to me.

 

All three of these things are very good signs that show you are on the right path! I'm reminded of my own "youth" when I read this, because I was much the same way as Robin. (Though it took me a little while to reach that level of assertiveness).

 

6 hours ago, RobinsHost said:

He also likes to go online and read things to me or we watch videos that he wants to see. And at the end of the day I make a point of trying to visualize him as I fall asleep. So far we are still working at visualizing, he isn't sure how he wants to look yet but doesn't want any input from me, so I just clear my mind as I drift off to sleep and just focus on what my minds eye can see.

 

That's good that you're working on visualization, and he's deciding what he looks like. My host already had a form for me when he created me, but I would end up tweaking it ever so slightly as I matured. I'm looking forward to leaning what he looks like when he's decided on a form!

 

6 hours ago, RobinsHost said:

He wants to be dominant over me and I must clarify that I don't mean sexually dominant. He likes telling me to do things and he gets happy if I do those things. For example, he insisted I stopped being lazy about chores one day so he told me to get some things done and was very happy that I obliged. I also find enjoyment in making him happy so I am content with this dynamic and it is something we are working at.

 

A tulpa making their host do chores, where have I seen that one before? 😄 Gosh I feel like about 80% of my effort is put towards making Phil do what he's supposed to do! If you're happy with that dynamic then that's a good thing, but like I said before never forget that you are the boss at the end of the day. It's good that making him happy makes you happy! That's a sign of a healthy relationship.

 

6 hours ago, RobinsHost said:

I really enjoy talking to him, my only problem is at work he kind of distracts me because he always wants my attention.

 

That's where you have to step up and set some boundaries. Tell him that it's okay to talk to you at work but there are times when you really must concentrate on your work and he has to be patient. If he truly has your best interests at heart, he will learn that there are times when it's best to back off and let you do what you need to do. I think he will learn; it's common for young tulpas to not fully understand those boundaries yet but we learn quickly!

 

6 hours ago, RobinsHost said:

Also. Is there a way to force while I'm busy without it being too distracting? He always wants some kind of attention from me, and I am happy to oblige but sometimes its hard to focus when Im doing certain things.

 

Narration is your friend. If you're engaged in something that doesn't leave you with enough mental horsepower to engage in conversation you can monologue to him about what you're doing, or what's on your mind. It doesn't have to be out loud, it can be in mind voice. Also, once he has a more concrete form, you can visualize him in the room with you, and maybe even try imposition later on. You can also look up some passive forcing activities in the guides section if you want!

 

I wish you both the best of luck! 😁