whats the order of stuff

[puppy_dog]

I have had my tulpa (Mint) for 3 weeks and she is good at talking and i had lots of questions and i did not want to look for them all.

 

first on is should I try lots of stuff at once or work on one thing for me mostly every thing at once works but I kind of want a list of stuff to do in order so I don't have Mint stressed out with it being hard to do to much stuff at once

 

second is me and Mint are in love and I don't really know if it is to soon and I don't want to harm my tulpa

 

I have tried possession and I cant get it to work and I don't really under stand it

 

I want to try and make sure I know this stuff so if I make another tulpa then she or he will not have any problems 

 

 

[TurboSimmie]

The annoying but true answer is that there is no one set order for how to do things. Even having a list of things to in tulpamancy is hard because nothing is "required". Some people never find a need to switch, while others may never desire imposition. To some people a wonderland is very important and key, to others it's unnecessary or unwanted.

 

Having said all that, I think narration and simple visualization are two great places to start. Talk to Mint all the time about anything and everything. Try to visualize her form in as much detail as you can, sense her presence, try to use all your senses. That's a good foundation to start on.

 

24 minutes ago, puppy_dog said:

second is me and Mint are in love and I don't really know if it is to soon and I don't want to harm my tulpa

 

Honey I fell in love with my host within the first month, so I relate to this. Phil and I made a deal with each other too keep things PG-rated for a full year so that my development wouldn't be negatively effected. I don't think it's necessarily wrong to have a romantic relationship early on, but you should keep her development as a person as your main priority. Let her figure out who she wants to be and let things evolve from there.

 

27 minutes ago, puppy_dog said:

I have tried possession and I cant get it to work and I don't really under stand it

 

If you're only three weeks in it would be a little surprising if you could get possession to work. For the first three or four months the most I could do was twitch Phil's arm a bit, and it took almost six months for me to possess his voice. I find it's helpful to train possession through proxying. To give an example of how it worked for us: Early on Phil would proxy for me when typing. I'd tell him what I wanted him to type for me and he'd do it, but over time I found that a direct connection had formed and I was beginning to use his hands on my own without even realizing it! So it basically starts as a three step process: 1) Mint wants to do X. 2) You do X for Mint. 3) X happens. Eventually you will find you no longer need to be the middleman and Mint will have established a direct connection!

 

32 minutes ago, puppy_dog said:

I want to try and make sure I know this stuff so if I make another tulpa then she or he will not have any problems 

 

It's always good to have a tulpa well-developed before starting another one. Many people create lots of tulpas in a very short time, and I often worry that they don't all get adequate time or resources. I imagine it will be easier the second time. But best to stick with just Mint for a good long while first!

[Formicidae]

Possession, Switching, Imposition etc. are all skills that are usually considered advanced and aren't at all essential. This isn't to say that you can't work on them now, but I've had a tulpa for three years and despite not learning a single one of these skills we've had a great time and have developed in other directions that are more suited to our personal needs at a slow pace.

 

I would recommend slowing down and focusing on the basics such as personality development, visualization and bonding, but I also get it if you want to move quickly even if it isn't needed. In that case, I would suggest that you think and discuss with Mint what directions you want to grow in, what reasons you have for having a tulpa and what you can do to develop in that direction. Then, you'll be able to decide for yourself what skills to learn.

 

This doesn't just apply to the named skills that you're thinking of, but also to more individualized approaches you could take. For example, when I made Ren I primarily wanted someone to discuss things with and to help me better order and control my thoughts, and so most of our interactions focused around that. Now, that is the form that she fits, both in personality and in the ability that she has earned.

 

Tulpamancy is a mental exercise. Everyone's mind works differently, with different patterns of thinking and ways of looking at the world. Even the named skills differ a lot by person, and the countless unnamed ones do so even more. I would warn you that whatever you do, you can't approach tulpamancy as if it is absolute. Every mind works differently and if you understand your own and do things in a way that works for you then you'll have a much easier time of it. Read guides and advice, but always remember that just because it works for someone else doesn't mean that it will work for you. Don't be afraid to do something different if you think it will work better or to give up on a guide that isn't giving you results.