Abyssys' progress thread

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Edited February 10 by Abyssys

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3 hours ago, Polarsys said:

It is honestly interesting to have someone who loves you a second time after their initial fantasy of you was destroyed. Makes me think "what value do they still see in me?" And that's a point for me to learn from, as someone who doesn't see themselves very highly.

 

It's so interesting how they can see you as a different person entirely, as if you were to ask two different friends how they feel about the same restaurant. I think that amount of exterior worldview can make you really see yourself in a whole new light.

 

Keep up the darn good work researching, @Polarsys. Tell Yae I said Happy Birthday.

[Abyssys]

On 12/23/2022 at 8:59 PM, ringgggg said:

 

It's so interesting how they can see you as a different person entirely, as if you were to ask two different friends how they feel about the same restaurant. I think that amount of exterior worldview can make you really see yourself in a whole new light.

 

Keep up the darn good work researching, @Polarsys. Tell Yae I said Happy Birthday.

 

Mhm, it's what really fascinates me from having headmates. They really have their own will, feelings and thoughts. I get to know a different independent opinion really like having a buddy in the same head.

Thanks, and Yae said thanks too.

 

Thanks for the bday greeting ring! ^^

[Abyssys]

Hi, I'm back, I guess. (Don't mind our possibly breaking English, it's hard enough trying to think clearly & structure any of this to be something comprehensible)

 

Omen & divination says that 🧡 should really, and I mean REALLY learn to share resources (ie. activity time, general thought space) and be more generous, treat more fairly.

And we're just generally trying to tackle that, which involves using our metaphorical magnifying glass and handle these small but significant bumps, considering that our brain is like our old inline skate - it MUST run on smooth surfaces. Too many tiny bumps will make it function sub-optimally, if it can run at all.

So... there's things like:

• The specific way that I can bother 🧡: DON'T ask for big asks (do work, let a takeover, think complex things in general). It involves too much thinking and just create more problems than solving it. Instead, simpler asks ("notice me", "I'm here", "talk to me") should work better. Things should flow further afterwards.
• Controlling overindulgence: Divination pointed that out, and we know it to be a major problem already. We've set timers to limit usage of Youtube & Discord, their biggest time sink. Its actual usage is complex, since using the apps doesn't equal they aren't doing something productive; usually an errand. But we'll have to keep an eye on the limiter still being on every day, even if it's been disabled for a day due to whatever special circumstances there may be.
• Soft switches are easy, but learn Possession for a deeper persistent control: ...well, it's just as it says on the tin.
• Chat to each other for real organic experiences. Don't just feel & assume.
• Personal Dreams - Personalized roles?: This is still a vague idea. So, since 🧡's energy is super focused on personal interests, and it isn't like they're that unimportant nor useful, then I wondered if they can specialize in thinking about that area so that they can maximize their specialization, while other things are handled by someone else. The question is, who? On what exactly? This is gonna be the long thought, so I'll make a new line.

While 🧡's focuses are obvious, what are the others'? And who can fulfill the obligations? It's not a guarantee that what we want & what should be done can meet together. Sometimes - most of the time, the best you can have is "who can tolerate fulfilling obligations the most?".

But anyway, hmm...
 

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Just did a flash meeting to conclude who can be what role. In short, Chores will mainly be done by 💚, Errands person is 💙, Legal people are 💜 & 💛, Leadership person is me (🤍).

 ❤️ and 🧡 can do whatever they need, under constraints.

"How about our personal needs though?" Well that can still be expressed, just as we go. I'm sure it'll happen naturally. I don't think this'll sound like it makes any sense to outsiders - or more accurately, it's likely to get misunderstood. But by heart, I know what I meant. I'm just noting this for, well, progress log.
Like it's not like we're gonna solidly stick to the roles or anything, it's more flexible than that. It's just nice to have a go-to structure to follow.

This reminds me of the complexity of ADHD+Autism; wanting order but also wanting novelty...

Anyway, that's that. I think I'm quite satisfied now, let me summarize the big points we need to keep in mind:

1. Ask, don't assume.
2. Fall back onto the assigned roles.
3. [[Heart-shaped Object]]
4. Practice possession more.

 

Alright that's all, we gotta go and we gotta eat to hopefully banish this headache urrrgh see yas & good luck to future me

Edited February 25 by Abyssys