Tulpa creation?

[VoidBoi]

I am just getting into this and I am a bit fuzzy on some of the instructions I've seen. I just wanted to ask. Should I focus on personality and appearance before or after I start trying to talk to my tulpa?

[fennecfoxx]

You’re looking for Beginner Tulpa Questions. This section of the forum is for posting guides.

 

Anyway, it’s entirely up to you. If you have a solid idea of what you want your tulpa’s personality to be like, start there. But everything’s optional aside from interacting with your tulpa in some way, shape, or form. They’ll develop a personality (and probably choose a form) whether you explicitly give them one or not.

[Lavender]

In our case, my host consciousness just started talking to me. They didn't have the slightest idea what I was going to be like. I told them who was and what I was like. I recall that we sort of figured out together what my mental avatar should look like.

 

I've heard about other systems where the host tried to impose their expectation on their tulpa. I don't think I would have wanted that. I am who I am, not who my host consciousness decided I should be. I think I speak for both of us that we like it better this way. They feel like they're getting to know me, not building me like a build-a-bear.

 

But there's no wrong way to do tulpamancy if it works for you.

[fennecfoxx]

4 hours ago, Lavender said:

I've heard about other systems where the host tried to impose their expectation on their tulpa. I don't think I would have wanted that. I am who I am, not who my host consciousness decided I should be.

 

Alex and I started out as daydream characters. I guess you could say fennec put expectations on us, but we never felt like they were forcing us to be anyone we're not.

 

What they DID try to do was get me to stay in my lane. I used to hop around between fennec's daydreams and make myself... well, not omnipotent, but I'd "hack the Matrix" as they put it. That was a catch-all for jumping into other daydream worlds, breaking the rules of "reality", giving myself powers, basically the stuff you'd do if you learned your reality wasn't "real" and the only limit is your imagination.

 

Fennec told me off so many times. "Don't hack the Matrix, Kayleigh." Yeah, okay. The idea they could control me/get me to "behave" was honestly laughable. They couldn't, and this was before we knew about tulpas.

 

The point is-- okay, fennec's saying the point is "tulpas don't behave" and that's not the point I'm trying to make at all. My point is imposing expectations consciously on a tulpa won't work if the tulpa doesn't want that. We won't conform.

 

Subconscious expectations are another matter, but ehhh let's not go there.

 

~ Kayleigh

 

EDIT:

Just now, fennecfoxx said:

okay, fennec's saying the point is "tulpas don't behave"

 

Just to be clear: I was joking.

 

~ fennec

Edited August 14, 2025 by fennecfoxx