How To Ensure Myself That I Truly Have a Tulpa

[Jim Liu]

I asked this question because I wasn't creating my tulpa in a usual way (talking to her days after days before she response). I didn't know the concept of tulpa while I was creating it, I just imagine a friend and chat with her. I talked with her, and then I imagined her answers. In this way, I still can't tell whether she's a real tulpa, or I'm still just "acting two characters" inside my head. Does being shocked by her means she's a real tulpa? Because I really spend a lot of time imagining her response before, and I can't tell that she's responding me or I'm just doing it faster.

 

(“Hey, you dare doubt me?"

[Nightfall]

Oh, we have actually created our tulpas in the same way. Honestly, I don't think there's a way to fully "know" if you have a tulpa early on. 

 

There's two things we did. 1: just believing that what they were saying is them speaking. Yes, that is a "just do it" type of response but it's still important. You have to believe with what little evidence you have that your tulpa is real. 

 

2: is more helpful: asking her to surprise you. You probably won't be surprised but she might come up with something that you didn't think of. When I asked Shaula this, she would often try to jump scare me (successfully once or twice too). 

 

I hope this helps and I wish you luck. Feel free to ask me any questions. 

[Lavender]

We had a number of conversations, my host consciousness and I, about whether I'm real or they are just, as you say, "acting two characters."

 

In the end we decided that it was an unhelpful discussion. If our connect felt good and fruitful, it doesn't matter whether I'm real or just seem real to them.  We don't talk much about whether I'm real any more. We just enjoy our time together. 😊😊😊😊

Edited November 9, 2025 by Lavender