Confused About Bronie's Emotions

[Jim Liu]

Last night, Bronie suddenly wasn't herself. She said a lot of things like, "You're being annoying," "Why do you keep browsing tulpa websites? Are you treating me like some kind of disease? Trying to find a solution?" and "You always put your will above mine." I didn't know how to argue back, and continuing to argue would only make me seem like I was proving the third accusation right—that I don’t care about what she thinks. So I just kept my head down and listened.

After a few minutes, she said she wanted hot water. (By this, she meant that she wanted me to drink hot water so she could feel it too.) Then, she asked me to leave her alone without saying anything else.

Before bed, she finally wanted to talk. When I asked her what had happened, she stammered and said it was just a joke—that she just wanted to talk to me more. But that doesn't make sense, so I asked her this morning again. She told me that her mood had suddenly dropped and she didn’t know why. She also says that she didn't mean what she said and apologized. 

I'm confused. Whenever I ask her about it, she just keeps repeating her apology or says she doesn’t know what happened. Will tulpas get sick? I sneezed a bit yesterday, is this infecting her or something? And why is this related with emotions? 

Edited November 27, 2025 by Jim Liu

[MutationOfAtom]

Hey, Im new this too, but, yeah, my tulpa in the beginning would make small mean remarks here and there to get attention or to prove that she was there to me to fit my expectations of autonomy.  Later on she would feel really bad and apologize as well.

 

Also, since shes young, I presume,  your expectations could be affecting her and she might, go along with it to fit them even if they arent true causing confusion. Similair things happen to me, so that might be what happening to Bronie and her mood swings. So you saying the cold is affecting her would probably make you both expect changes even if there shouldn't be.

[Shaula]

Well, I unfortunately think I understand pretty well what's going on. 😅 Sometimes me and Nightfall argue about something important (usually something realistic to idea vs. practically) and I say some rather not nice things. I guess it's kinda an issue when you can always speak your mind to someone. What I'm reading seems to be roughly what I do: I say something I don't mean, realize what I said, then feel really bad about it. 

 

All I can say is just make sure you let her know that it's ok. We all have these moments and reassurance is really good for that. 😊 Hugs for both of you! (⁠っ⁠.⁠❛⁠ ⁠ᴗ⁠ ⁠❛⁠.⁠)⁠っ

 

Nightfall: she's it happens rarely and usually she's super nice. (clarifying/reassuring because she wants to help but is really not proud of those moments.) 

[bunnymustdie]

20 minutes ago, Jim Liu said:

She told me that her mood had suddenly dropped and she didn’t know why.

 

I encountered this before. My second tulpa started acting unnaturally angry over an issue and acted up about it repeatedly despite that we talked about it quite a few times, and both knew that the anger didn't make logical sense. The anger kept returning and would instigate more upset behavior in her. A technique used to clear up unresolved/undigested emotions in the subconscious completely stopped the anger, and the behavior that came with it. For reference I used the technique taught in this book.

 

If your tulpa only acted weird this once, I would not worry too much over it. Especially if she is young.

 

25 minutes ago, Jim Liu said:

"You always put your will above mine."

 

It's a good time to talk and figure this out. Are you two meant to be completely equal? Or is one meant to be dominant? Who is the one that is in charge of life and takes care of paying the bills and all the practical stuff? Should certain privileges come with being the one responsible for everyone's well being? In your system, Is the tulpa a purely mental being or some sort of occult entity created by a person who practice metaphysics? If the tulpa is meant to be metaphysical, the matter of everyone's status and relationships becomes all the more important.

 

It's ok either way to have a relationship where everyone is equal or if one person is above everyone else, but figure it out, consider the emotional and practical aspects of things, and make sure everyone knows where they stand in relation to each other. This is helpful the same way having a pre-nuptial agreement before marriage is helpful - it can potentially save a lot of headache down the road.

 

31 minutes ago, Jim Liu said:

Will tulpas get sick?

 

I think emotions in one's subconscious can influence tulpas just like how they can influence hosts. I don't know if tulpas share the exact same subconscious or if they end up having a little subconscious of their own. My own experience hinted at the latter. I've certainly seen descriptions of people detailing their tulpas being influenced by emotions in their subconscious, and acting unusually negative or unhappy. Sometimes the tulpa is influenced earlier, or more by certain subconscious emotions and they may appear to be the first person in a system to feel bad when certain subconscious issues are starting to surface.

[Jim Liu]

13 minutes ago, bunnymustdie said:

Are you two meant to be completely equal? Or is one meant to be dominant?

I'm usually the one in control. It's not that I don't want her to take over, but getting in control is challenging for her. To me, this is more about us having different roles or assignments, rather than being dominant. In fact, I've always wanted to let her try fronting or switching, but she simply can't be bothered to do it. (I'm not, it's just hard...

[bunnymustdie]

3 minutes ago, Jim Liu said:

To me, this is more about us having different roles or assignments, rather than being dominant.

 

That's cool. Perhaps "dominant" was not the best word to use, but I think you get the right idea on the matter of you two having different roles and assignments. If you do have a different role and set of responsibilities than her, then sometimes you can't pay as much attention to her as she would like, and might appear as if your priorities may sometimes come before hers. It's generally helpful for everyone to understand that dynamic and adjust their expectations accordingly.

[Jim Liu]

1 hour ago, Shaula said:

Well, I unfortunately think I understand pretty well what's going on. 😅 Sometimes me and Nightfall argue about something important (usually something realistic to idea vs. practically) and I say some rather not nice things. I guess it's kinda an issue when you can always speak your mind to someone. What I'm reading seems to be roughly what I do: I say something I don't mean, realize what I said, then feel really bad about it. 

 

All I can say is just make sure you let her know that it's ok. We all have these moments and reassurance is really good for that. 😊 Hugs for both of you! (⁠っ⁠.⁠❛⁠ ⁠ᴗ⁠ ⁠❛⁠.⁠)⁠っ

 

Nightfall: she's it happens rarely and usually she's super nice. (clarifying/reassuring because she wants to help but is really not proud of those moments.) 

Could be what's happening. Strangely, when she's having that emotional outburst, she seems more real. I've never felt her presence so strongly before.

[Shaula]

27 minutes ago, Jim Liu said:

Could be what's happening. Strangely, when she's having that emotional outburst, she seems more real. I've never felt her presence so strongly before.

 

I believe strong emotions do that. We haven't noticed a change like that but I do know we tend to stay switched in longer if we're feeling strong emotions.