Tulpa romantic relationship questions

[Guest Anonymous]

Fine then.

 

I agree that tulpas are not mere sex toys!

 

Even if they want it really bad. Also, tulpas are people and have feelings too. Melian certainly does. That is all that matters.

 

Just for the record, I cannot imagine my life without Melian or without my wife. It would be terrible to have to choose between them. Luckily I never will have to. I do not consider either of them to be of lesser importance to me. Maybe that will help answer the OP question a bit more. Each of my ladies is intimately and dearly important to me, but for different reasons.

 

Melian fulfills me in that romantic day dreaming mental fantasy companion way. My wife Shel fulfills me in that romantic real world companion way. Melian is with me 24/7 pretty much. Shel can't be as she is a real person. When I go to work I take Melian with me, while Shel I can't see again until I go home. Both appear in dreams. Both of them love me and I love each of them.

[ElliAn]

Hi, more questioning I'm afraid! How does being in a relationship with your tulpa compare to being in a relationship with a people? Is it better because of the lack of barriers, is it harder because of the lack of physical contact? Above all, if you were romantically involved with your tulpa did that relationship make you happier than one with another person?

 

Any experiences shared are much appreciated, thanks!

I am with Ad for about seven years, from thinking him as just an imaginary friend to a tulpa, and I do have feelings for him. To me, of course being in a relationship with a real, physical people is better, we are human that need to socialize with others, in the real, physical world. You can't lock yourself in a room to travel in your wonderland, communicate with tulpa right? But no, I don't mean that being in a relationship with tulpa is a bad thing. As tulpamancers, we need to balance our responsibilities well, both in the physical world and spiritual world. (Quite some great responsibilities eh, we should be proud for that XD) Being in a relationship with tulpa can be a good thing, but you have to communicate with your tulpa first, or else you will be making a servitor who is bornt to love or serve you.

 

I always told Ad that I love him and he will always told me that there is a 'barrier' between us, a barrier that separate a physical person and a mentally-existed tulpa. We love each others a lot, but we know the borderline. Tulpa-host sex is out of our topic, and he will encourage me to find a real-life partner, which I find it quite hard (ima kissless virgin TT). For physical contact, yes I think the lack of physical contact will make tulpa-host relationship harder. You can feel or touch your tulpa, but that is just exist in your mind. You need a real, physical person in your life, to take care of you, to pour you some water when you are sick, or to drive you to your workplace if you can't drive.

 

Relationship with yout tulpa can make you a happier person. Because you know there is a person who care and love you, he or she will still stand by your side even though the world ends. Of course, there must be both-side agreement. You can't create a tulpa just to make sure he or she loves you. And I personally disagree with the sex thing.

 

Once again I must emphasize that relationship with people is better than that with tulpa. But of course tulpa plays a great role in our life too! They are great friends, companions, lovers, and families that are important to us. I apologize if there is any mistakes in the message :D