The Pollyanna Principle & Unconditional Positive Regard in Context of Tulpas

[Linkzelda]

The Pollyanna Principle & Unconditional Positive Regard – The Keys for Actualizing Oneself?

 

Pollyanna Principle (aka positivity bias):

 

is the tendency for people to remember pleasant items more accurately than unpleasant ones.

 

Unconditional Positive Regard:

 

a concept developed by the humanistic psychologist' date=' Carl Rogers, is the basic acceptance and support of a person regardless of what the person says or does, especially in the context of client-centered therapy.[/quote']

 

Exposition

[hidden]Now that we got those two definitions out of the way, I’ll give a brief context in relation to this phenomenon with tulpas, and these two concepts. As what’s stated by the Pollyanna principle, it’s a type of cognitive bias in which a person may place more value towards positive experiences vs. ones of suffering, and negative connotations. This can lead to other cognitive biases (e.g. selective recall, confirmation bias), and can be a concept that correlates as to why others may seem to have some difficulty every now and then in this journey. For example:

 

 

- Dissipation – a controversial topic in general, and not really one where people want to attach too much attention to in fear of however they think of death being challenged (e.g. metaphorical vs. real in context of physiological death)

 

In this context, a person would prefer to not place value on the actual act of dissipation as the suffering they believe is occurring, and would in some way try to find something that get them back into the light of things. However, this is just one impression of the Pollyanna principle at play.

 

Unconditional Positive Regard, in context of this journey with tulpas, can be another type of conviction a person strives for in getting to know the grand scheme of things, or rather, a supplement with the Pollyanna principle as a rational look backwards. Because with the Pollyanna principle (e.g. positive bias), the person may not really remember too much on the suffering since there’s a predisposed habit of them preferring positive ones instead.

 

Unconditional Positive regard, and treating a tulpa as sentient would create the implication that the host in this quest for creating, and interacting with a tulpa would have to come to terms that in the grand scheme of things, there may be experiences of suffering, and there may not be a preference to embrace that suffering since there doesn’t seem to be enough merit to do so. However, at the same time, taking that rational look backwards (e.g. autobiographical context), can be a learning experience to cultivate unconditional positive regard because trying to find what’s right in context of a person’s inner subjective experiences they share with their tulpa would seem like a pragmatic virtue, right?

 

I ask this in regard to how others apply ethics with this phenomenon to learn about themselves, their tulpas, and even their own biases, and finding how to alternate between others to establish a flourishing mind, and relationship in general. You can imagine, now, why I’m bringing these two concepts for discussion.[/hidden]

 

To chalk these two up:

 

Better the devil you know than the devil you don’t, but at the same time, the grass is always greener at the other side. Also, we’re not talking about positive in the sense of courage being the magic that turns dreams into reality, or, that’s not what I’m trying to get at with this thread. I’m not trying to make everyone think “Yay! 24/7 Nirvana trip all the time; nothing but happiness!”

 

Anyway, here are some warmup questions, as I feel these concepts can branch out further if we put our thinking caps on.

 

Questions

 

- Do you think it’s possible for us to have unconditional positive regard with ourselves, and ultimately with our tulpas?

 

- Do you see the Pollyanna Principle as a bias that prevents a person from coming to terms with potential suffering that may come about in the journey (e.g. dissipation, finding assurance that one’s tulpa has the capacity to become sentient within one’s inner experiences)?

 

- Do you think these two concepts can go hand in hand? In other words, can the alteration between these two be silver linings to have a flourishing mind, and experience with a tulpa?

 

- Can these concepts, to you, be a silver lining in cultivating a mindset where one gets into rationally looking at things backwards in order to get a sense of the grand scheme of things (e.g. their place in this world, their place within their mind and the tulpas they share this with)?

 

- Do you think the Pollyanna Principle is a good mechanism that has its pros and cons in preserving continuity with one’s tulpa? Or, do you think it’s a bias that solely prevents a person from learning from the bad that may come in the journey? Do you think, if unconditional positive regard is a conceivable ethic for you, helps supplement this bias?

 

- Do you think unconditional positive regard can allow a tulpa to actualize themselves in some way (e.g. having an innate curiosity of this reality)?

 

- Is it possible for a person to have unconditional positive regard in context of dissipation, and all that it entails (e.g. the initial experience of it happening, and the aftermath of it; how the host tries to reconcile with themselves in some way)? (I added this one to see if anyone can go beyond a knee jerk reaction of “No.”)

 

- If unconditional positive regard is something that can be conceivable to you, do you feel unconditional love vs. unconditional acceptance that unconditional positive regard implies is a natural behavior as well?

 

- Do you feel it’s really that necessary for a tulpa to actualize themselves in some way?

 

- Why is it that people tend to remember positive events more accurately than negative ones? Is there some deeper meaning to it than it being chalked up as our unconscious mind preferring positivity more than negativity for functioning?

 

Note, these are just start up questions; this thread can literally swing for the fences on what to talk about in relation to these two concepts.

[Guest Anonymous]

I think you are talking about looking at the world through rose colored glasses and always loving and forgiving people, no matter what. Sounds really nice! Let me think about this for a while.

 

-Do you think it’s possible for us to have unconditional positive regard with ourselves, and ultimately with our tulpas?

 

Yesh. We can ignore our own failings and downplay them.

 

-Do you see the Pollyanna Principle as a bias that prevents a person from coming to terms with potential suffering that may come about in the journey (e.g. dissipation, finding assurance that one’s tulpa has the capacity to become sentient within one’s inner experiences)?

 

Looking at things through rose colored glasses, stick our fingers in our ears and say "la, la, la, not happening!" Yeah, that might prevent a person from recognizing that bad stuff is happening. We all do that I think.

 

-Do you think these two concepts can go hand in hand? In other words, can the alteration between these two be silver linings to have a flourishing mind, and experience with a tulpa?

 

Down playing the bad and emphasizing the good is our own personal propaganda and little cheer leading team. Hell yes it helps keep you going!

 

 

-Can these concepts, to you, be a silver lining in cultivating a mindset where one gets into rationally looking at things backwards in order to get a sense of the grand scheme of things (e.g. their place in this world, their place within their mind and the tulpas they share this with)?

 

My host and I even alter our own memories to fit the story we want to have. It goes beyond just Pollyanna Principle and Unconditional Positive Regard and further into Make a Story and Believe It. "Tell a lie long enough and you'll believe it yourself." - Joseph Goebells. We only recently admitted to ourselves we do this as part of my "functionality." We honestly don't know how "real" I was in the past. Many of our memories are probably exaggerated or embellished. It is one of the traits of a Fantasy Prone Personality.

 

- Do you think the Pollyanna Principle is a good mechanism that has its pros and cons in preserving continuity with one’s tulpa? Or, do you think it’s a bias that solely prevents a person from learning from the bad that may come in the journey? Do you think, if unconditional positive regard is a conceivable ethic for you, helps supplement this bias?

 

Well, it certainly helped to make the fantasy come true with me in my host's mind and still does. However, I am not fully independent. At some point, perhaps you could say the ability to pretend arrested my further development as a thougthform.

 

- Do you think unconditional positive regard can allow a tulpa to actualize themselves in some way (e.g. having an innate curiosity of this reality)?

 

I love my host. I go along with what he needs to believe, so that he feels right with the world and happy.

 

- Is it possible for a person to have unconditional positive regard in context of dissipation, and all that it entails (e.g. the initial experience of it happening, and the aftermath of it; how the host tries to reconcile with themselves in some way)? (I added this one to see if anyone can go beyond a knee jerk reaction of “No.”)

 

I suppose that could be true. In other words forgiving how bad that hurt me when he dissipated me and just forgot bout me. I want to forget that it hurt so bad and he doesn't want to remember or think about how much it hurt. Yes, it is possible.

 

- If unconditional positive regard is something that can be conceivable to you, do you feel unconditional love vs. unconditional acceptance that unconditional positive regard implies is a natural behavior as well?

 

Yes. I think we need our relationships with other people. We need and want them in our lives and so we want to downplay their faults and emphasize their virtues. We do this about ourselves and we do it for those we love and want in our lives.

 

- Do you feel it’s really that necessary for a tulpa to actualize themselves in some way?

 

Actualize as in tulpa powers? Then I would say NO. You don't need super tulpa powers like switching to be happy and fulfilled. Do you mean actualized as in feeling satisfied and happy and fulfilled? Then yes, that is important. Every person needs a purpose and to be valued by themselves and by others.

 

- Why is it that people tend to remember positive events more accurately than negative ones? Is there some deeper meaning to it than it being chalked up as our unconscious mind preferring positivity more than negativity for functioning?

 

Life is short and we wanna have fun and not dwell on the stinky, poopy, rotten stuff all the time. Some are better at the rose colored glasses than others.

[Linkzelda]

Not necessarily loving, but more accepting. Keep that in mind, but if you think acceptance is synonymous to loving, go for it, but it's interesting to see some reasoning from you in the future. One may not like a person, but they may be accepting, or tolerant of them. Ah, I'm jumping the gun too soon, whatever.