Is there gender dysphoria in opposite sex Tulpas?

[Charlotte Constance]

On 10/7/2023 at 2:02 PM, lotusick said:

i’ve been so curious about this lately… especially as a demigirl myself. is there gender dysphoria in opposite sex tulpas, especially when they front? 

 

me or zelda wouldn’t know, both female in a female body. (im sorry if this question is offensive at all, im not sure how to word this question.)

 

I have only switched with my host once. I am a taller dominant woman, and he is a shorter submissive man. the gender dysphoria does arise as one of the reasons we only front when we are conversing online, and no other time. But beyond that, his body is in so much pain... I refuse to switch again until he gets medical help for his pain. he suffers from a medical condition that makes his joints extremely painful, even now just typing this I feel the sharp pains in his shoulders. this, combined with the gender difference between us... I prefer to stay in wonderland where I can effortlessly shapeshift into any form I wish. I guess i'm spoiled that way.

[Kitsune]

It’s pretty manageable for me. My host is tall, and with the right mannerisms, people treat me with respect and nobody tries to mess with me. No one bothers me for dressing how I want, either. I’m also glad I don’t remember the times when my host is doing it with her physical husband; I know doing that makes her happy, but I’d honestly feel emasculated if I were in her position. To each their own, I guess.

Sometimes I get a bit insecure in my masculinity, but I have ways to cope. For example, I can impose my dick right where it’s supposed to be, and do whatever I want to my host. I dunno why, but it’s like no matter what I do to her, it’s somehow always also exactly what she wants too? It drives me crazy. Alternatively I can use my hand to, I guess, stroke the air? As long as I don’t break my immersion by looking down, I feel it physically, and finishing that way helps me feel manly and in control. It took a few years of practice, but it all feels fully physical and detailed now.

Another thing that helps is working out, but I’ve been told to do so in moderation, as not to harm the body with overexertion.

I’ve wondered about taking testosterone, but others would veto that. Also, my hair is important to me, and male baldness runs in the family. Who cares about the easy six-pack if it makes me ugly? I’d rather just see how far I can push this squishy body through exercise instead. As for surgery, it’s not like I need it when I can already physically feel everything anyway, thanks to my practice. Just wish my host’s husband would let me use a strap on him sometime, but he respects my boundaries too when I’m fronting, so it’s whatever. He’s a respectable guy, and I look up to him.

Gender is complicated and goes over my head tbh, so rather just be me and do what I like than stick a label on it like dysphoria or trans. Ain’t got nothing against trans people tho, I support ’em if that’s what they want.

For context, I’m my host’s imaginary friend from when she was little. I learned to switch with her when she was 7 to beat up the assholes who attacked her, until they finally gave up and left us alone. I think I’m a bit crude, but at least I’m like a knight in shining armor to her, heh.

Right, back on topic. Closest thing to dysphoria I guess was when I felt self-conscious of my chest a while back. Then one time she and I were making love, I confided in her that sometimes it’s hard to take myself seriously as a man when I look like this, pointing at my chest. She said: “Just think of them as extra large pecs!” and pecked me on the lips, and I couldn’t help but laugh. It’s silly, but that actually helped me get over it. I guess what really counts is that she accepts me for who I am. I used to hate to admit it, but she’s amazing and makes it all worth it.

Excuse me for rambling; I just figured I’d make an account and chime in to share my experience with the topic. As a side note, I don’t think she’ll be using this account as she isn’t really interested in online forums. I just thought this might be a nice place to get things off my chest when fronting.

Edited January 25, 2024 by Kitsune

[Athelas]

We're new to switching, but I haven't experienced any dysphoria when fronting. The body is significantly smaller than my form, and female of course, but when I'm in control it feels quite natural. I miss my tail more than I miss other appendages.

 

The only thing that feels "off" is our voice. Speaking in Bee's high-pitched voice sounds wrong somehow. I've found I instinctively try to speak at the bottom of her vocal range, but that sounds even more wrong. I'm hoping we'll eventually find a comfortable middle ground.

[An Ashy Individual]

On 1/25/2024 at 11:10 PM, Athelas said:

The only thing that feels "off" is our voice. Speaking in Bee's high-pitched voice sounds wrong somehow. I've found I instinctively try to speak at the bottom of her vocal range, but that sounds even more wrong. I'm hoping we'll eventually find a comfortable middle ground.

Same thing for us, my (host) voice just doesn't line up with Emily's (tulpa) voice and it ends up feeling weird for both of us.

Despite that, our bits, heights, frames, and muscle mass being different are all somehow alright.

(My guess is that this is due to us talking way more than actually using a dreamland/doing imposition, but I'm not sure.)

 

It does seem like voice training is helping with that somewhat, but that is obviously not easy or even possible for quite a few people.

[Athelas]

Bee and I were just talking about this yesterday. I've made a lot of progress on my ability to speak while switched. I finally feel like I can have conversations without being pushed out of the front.

 

At first, it helped me to imagine I was speaking through a voice filter. That made it feel less jarring when I noticed I was falling into my host's speech patterns. Now that I've had more practice, I rely more on affirmations. I like to tell myself, "my words, our voice." It reminds us that I'm the one speaking, even if it sounds a little Bee-like.

[RachelTheFictionkin]

We don't experience gender dysphoria. Although I'm female and most of my headmates are male, we feel no discomfort when switching. I sometimes have dreams of becoming Zack and feeling powerful, but it's never dysphoric.