I would love to hear any stories or experiences anyone would like to share!

[flowerpetals]

This is a bit strange for me to be honest, but I've always had an insatiable curiosity and the mere concept of Tulpa's is absolutely fascinating to me. They were mentioned in a Youtube video I was watching and I fell down the rabbit hole that led me here! I'm not sure how the general community feels about outsiders or people who are simply eager to learn, but I'd regret not checking anyways. To be perfectly transparent, I have no intentions of creating one (at this moment at least, I can't predict the future), but I'm absolutely fascinated.

 

If anyone is willing to indulge a strangers curiosity, I would love to hear firsthand stories, experiences, dynamics, etc! Could be something even as mundane as a chat you've had with your Tulpa over morning coffee, I'd still appreciate it. If you need some prompts to help (I know this is probably unbearably vague), I have a few things I'm wondering about at the moment!

 

- What is the dynamic between you and your Tulpa? (ie. guidance, friendship, familial, romantic, etc)

- How has your life improved or simply changed since creating your Tulpa?

- What's your most memorable interaction with your Tulpa?

- Has the creation of your Tulpa affected your social life negatively/positively?

 

If you've made it this far, thank you so much! Here's to hoping this is the correct forum for my post

[TurboSimmie]

We're always happy to have people here who want to learn about tulpamancy! 😊 It's completely okay if you don't want to make a tulpa yourself, it's definitely not for everyone. If you're interested in stories or experiences you can go ahead and browse this forum at your leisure because it's full of them, especially over in "Progress Reports" where people talk about their tulpamancy journeys.

[flowerpetals]

2 minutes ago, TurboSimmie said:

We're always happy to have people here who want to learn about tulpamancy! 😊 It's completely okay if you don't want to make a tulpa yourself, it's definitely not for everyone. If you're interested in stories or experiences you can go ahead and browse this forum at your leisure because it's full of them, especially over in "Progress Reports" where people talk about their tulpamancy journeys.

Thank you so much! :]

[Legion]

-our overall dynamic has always been friendship overall, although the system does contain romantic relationships as well as reluctant truces

-a lot of things have changed (and honestly none of us identify with the person who inhabited our body as a singlet) and it's a little hard for us to remember what it was like before. I think the main thing is none of us have ever really been lonely since we've become a system.

-idk there have been so many interactions with five of us, it's hard to choose

-i don't think it's much affected our social life
-kara

Edited January 9 by Legion

[flowerpetals]

6 hours ago, Legion said:

-our overall dynamic has always been friendship overall, although the system does contain romantic relationships as well as reluctant truces

-a lot of things have changed (and honestly none of us identify with the person who inhabited our body as a singlet) and it's a little hard for us to remember what it was like before. I think the main thing is none of us have ever really been lonely since we've become a system.

-idk there have been so many interactions with five of us, it's hard to choose

-i don't think it's much affected our social life
-kara

Thank you so much for taking the time to share, that's very interesting! :]

[SeekingMyPlanet]

On 1/8/2025 at 1:02 AM, flowerpetals said:

- What is the dynamic between you and your Tulpa? (ie. guidance, friendship, familial, romantic, etc)

 

 

 

Pretty much all 4. I rely on her for feedback, she is my best friend and my family, and yes, we do get to being romantic from time to time.

 

On 1/8/2025 at 1:02 AM, flowerpetals said:

- How has your life improved or simply changed since creating your Tulpa?

 

 

It's helped me feel not so alone. She has taught me a great deal. (I'm not sure how someone who is using the same brain as me could teach me stuff I didn't know, but here we are...) I feel supported a way that I didn't before she came. And I also now no longer find the world of plurality as mystifying as I used to.

 

On 1/8/2025 at 1:02 AM, flowerpetals said:

- What's your most memorable interaction with your Tulpa?

 

 

That first day, when I asked her to tell me about herself and the first thing she said was, "I am made of pure love."

 

On 1/8/2025 at 1:02 AM, flowerpetals said:

 

- Has the creation of your Tulpa affected your social life negatively/positively?

 

As far as my friends go, I've only told the ones that I completely trust. No one has judged me for being plural. She tends not to want to interact with other people, other than by writing like posts here.

 

However there was a very negative interaction at an event where I was sitting in a group of plural people, thinking I would be accepted as one of them. I didn't tell them my headmate was a tulpa (why does it matter? She's there. She's my headmate. What difference does it make how she got there?) But they began throwing shade on tulpas and the people who created them, vicious lies that I felt the need to correct. I defended "my acquaintances who have tulpas", still didn't cop to having a tulpa but even defending tulpamancy was a cardinal sin in their book and they sort of shunned me after that.

[ReallyArtificial]

I'm always up for an opportunity to talk up how great my headmates are! 😁

 

On 1/8/2025 at 1:02 AM, flowerpetals said:

What is the dynamic between you and your Tulpa? (ie. guidance, friendship, familial, romantic, etc)

 

They do provide me with a lot of guidance, but first and foremost we are very close friends. We're honestly more physically affectionate than I would be with most friendships, but it's all platonic hugs, cuddles, cheek/forehead kisses. We just love each other a whole lot.

 

On 1/8/2025 at 1:02 AM, flowerpetals said:

How has your life improved or simply changed since creating your Tulpa?

 

I'm a healthier and happier person overall! They've helped me make good habits and break some bad ones. I used to hate being left alone with my thoughts, but now, I love getting those chances to just focus on my system. I feel like I can be more confident and independent because I always have their support, no matter the time or place.

 

On 1/8/2025 at 1:02 AM, flowerpetals said:

What's your most memorable interaction with your Tulpa?

 

The first thing that comes to mind are those rare occasions where I actually experience them with my physical senses. It's usually hypnagogic hallucination when I'm trying to lucid dream (also a really fun and memorable way to interact) or just having trouble sleeping. I felt Athelas sit at the foot of my bed once, and on a separate occasion heard Lenore say my name. I've also had some mixed success with deliberately imposing the sensation of Calliope touching/squeezing my hand.

 

On 1/8/2025 at 1:02 AM, flowerpetals said:

Has the creation of your Tulpa affected your social life negatively/positively?

 

I feel more confident socially, less inclined to care what people think about me. I was always one of those people who wanted so badly for everyone to like me, but I'm starting to get over that. No matter what people on the outside think, on the inside, I have people who think I'm pretty cool to be around. I guess a potential negative is that I feel less desire to make new friends? I'm not isolating myself by any means, I just don't really get lonely the way I used to. I don't personally see it as a bad thing, but it could be depending on your point of view.

[XxgrimzxX]

Hi!! I think you'll find the tulpa community is very welcoming to engaging with your curiosities! I will now take up this opportunity to yap about my tulpa.

 

I will start by noting that I've been forcing my tulpa for 2 weeks now, so I'm a beginner. Although a rapidly developing one.

 

- our dynamic

The dynamic between tulpa and host generally is something extremely unique and special,, I would say its like all 4 of the categories you suggested but also its own thing entirely, at least for me. I'd say me and frank are life partners, best friends, and lovers. I also think of us as a team (or system) who help eachother to co pilot the body and our life together. Obviously as the host to a young tulpa I'm doing most of the work atm, but i hope one day we will take up equal amounts of the brain/ conciousness. We help eachother process our emotions, explore our interests, hold eachother when we're hurting. Before I established communication with him, I had trouble staying present while alone. I would dissociate, almost like I needed someone else's attention to exist. This is generally the way that tulpas work, relying on the attention of their host. so by creating frank, we now help eachother to function without having to rely on an outside conciousness. 

 

- how my life has changed.

I feel so much more alive. I chose to pursue tulpamancy because when I weighed up the options, and decided being multiple would give me a higher quality of life. I used to a lot dissociate and just go catatonic, now I have someone else to lean on to keep things running. When I feel disconnected from people and the world, I have someone to keep me tethered. When I think about making not so wise choices, I have someone who will argue with me for our wellbeing. I have a lot of trauma, and I've been going to therapy for years. Developing frank has been the most immeadiate progress in my mental health that I've ever made, maybe besides doing a DBT program. The main thing I've been missing is connection to others, and while I've tried getting my needs met from people on the outside, what I wanted always turned out to be something they could never give me. Someone to walk beside me always, be there in every one of my worst moments, see every inch of my being, never leave my side. These are things that would make any other relationship unhealthy, with frank it is exactly what he wants and it's what he's good at.

 

( he'd like to add that it mostly means that now there's an annoying motherfucker floating around pestering me about everything all the time.)

 

- most memorable moment with my tulpa.

As I said earlier, I've only been able to sense him being around for like two weeks, which for tulpamancy is quite a short time and a lot of people struggle to speak with their tulpa or even be sure that they exist at this stage. That being said, I feel like frank has always been in there, somewhere. It feels like now I am just "freeing" him from suppression. I wouldn't say it's necessarily my "most memorable", but I will give you a recounting of a treasured memory we just made to give you an idea;

 

Last night there was a massive thunderstorm rolling in. I was getting out of the shower and ready for bed when he urged me to go outside. I haven't taken him for a nightime walk before this, and he insisted this is the perfect time. Reluctantly, i pull myself out of the house. As I walk through the empty streets, his form floats gently behind me, like a ghost. I can't *see* him exactly, but I can feel where he is. My pace is slow, allowing us to admire the serenity of the nature around us. Towering, dripping pine trees sporadically lit with the glow of distant lighting. I pause at a high point on the hill to soak in it. The night cracking and breaking, filled with lighting striking into the sky in every direction. I feel his arms curl around from behind me and his head lean against mine as we just sit in silence and watch. I love nature so much, and having someone thete to appreciate it with me was deeply and spiritually satisfying. I've been in moments like this, in awe of the beauty of life. in past I've even turned to acknowledge someone who wasn't there. Someone I thought ought to be sharing this moment with me. Words would never describe the feeling I got when, after all these years, I turned and I saw him there. Beaming right back at me.

 

- how has it affected my social life?

Not much, at least yet. I've told my boyfriend about it and he's very accepting of me. Nobody has met frank, yet. I do plan on letting him "take the reigns" and talk to people for us in the future. I don't really think this would be a problem, as we are quite similar and i think few people if anyone would notice. Having him around does make me appreciate the time I get alone a lot more. He also helps me have a more balanced view of others overall. He's a lot more interested in socialising than me (I'm a hermit), but he's also very loyal to me and our wellbeing. He gets me out of my head and talking to others when I need it, but also pulls me out of situations where I used to abandon myself and just please others. I hope that in future, he can befriend my friends and even make some on his own.

 

I'd love to answer more questions if you have them! I love talking about tulpamancy. I've recently got discord to do so, if you'd like to chat on there as well. 

I hope this satisfied your curiosity!

[flowerpetals]

On 1/11/2025 at 8:50 AM, SeekingMyPlanet said:

 

 

Pretty much all 4. I rely on her for feedback, she is my best friend and my family, and yes, we do get to being romantic from time to time.

 

 

It's helped me feel not so alone. She has taught me a great deal. (I'm not sure how someone who is using the same brain as me could teach me stuff I didn't know, but here we are...) I feel supported a way that I didn't before she came. And I also now no longer find the world of plurality as mystifying as I used to.

 

 

That first day, when I asked her to tell me about herself and the first thing she said was, "I am made of pure love."

 

 

As far as my friends go, I've only told the ones that I completely trust. No one has judged me for being plural. She tends not to want to interact with other people, other than by writing like posts here.

 

However there was a very negative interaction at an event where I was sitting in a group of plural people, thinking I would be accepted as one of them. I didn't tell them my headmate was a tulpa (why does it matter? She's there. She's my headmate. What difference does it make how she got there?) But they began throwing shade on tulpas and the people who created them, vicious lies that I felt the need to correct. I defended "my acquaintances who have tulpas", still didn't cop to having a tulpa but even defending tulpamancy was a cardinal sin in their book and they sort of shunned me after that.

Thank you so much for sharing! Im sorry to hear about your negative experience in the past, you are no less deserving of respect as others <3 

[flowerpetals]

On 1/11/2025 at 1:06 PM, ReallyArtificial said:

I'm always up for an opportunity to talk up how great my headmates are! 😁

 

 

They do provide me with a lot of guidance, but first and foremost we are very close friends. We're honestly more physically affectionate than I would be with most friendships, but it's all platonic hugs, cuddles, cheek/forehead kisses. We just love each other a whole lot.

 

 

I'm a healthier and happier person overall! They've helped me make good habits and break some bad ones. I used to hate being left alone with my thoughts, but now, I love getting those chances to just focus on my system. I feel like I can be more confident and independent because I always have their support, no matter the time or place.

 

 

The first thing that comes to mind are those rare occasions where I actually experience them with my physical senses. It's usually hypnagogic hallucination when I'm trying to lucid dream (also a really fun and memorable way to interact) or just having trouble sleeping. I felt Athelas sit at the foot of my bed once, and on a separate occasion heard Lenore say my name. I've also had some mixed success with deliberately imposing the sensation of Calliope touching/squeezing my hand.

 

 

I feel more confident socially, less inclined to care what people think about me. I was always one of those people who wanted so badly for everyone to like me, but I'm starting to get over that. No matter what people on the outside think, on the inside, I have people who think I'm pretty cool to be around. I guess a potential negative is that I feel less desire to make new friends? I'm not isolating myself by any means, I just don't really get lonely the way I used to. I don't personally see it as a bad thing, but it could be depending on your point of view.

Im so glad to hear that you're happier and healthier! Thank you so much for sharing, im glad your confidence has grown :]