We've felt stuck for a while

[A Nebula System]

For a while now Genesis and I have felt like we are not really making much progress at all with their development, or in helping them stop feeling so bad so often.

Our goals in tulpamancy is helping Genesis learn to speak properly (or at all), possess/switch into the body, and uh, actually be happy with their existence.

...it has been months without any progress I can remember on two of these three fronts; we did make some achievement in possession, thankfully. I believe we can keep working on that, but... as for everything else, we have no idea what to do.

It is also very discouraging seeing how easy tulpamancy is for a lot of other people - we have friends who are tulpa-systems, and while we are happy for them, it is  frustrating for us both seeing how these tulpas that are months younger than Genesis have made so much more progress, so much quicker, and more importantly, are so much happier with their existence, and are able to  actually engage in it properly.

To be clear I am not upset with Genesis here. I feel sorry for them and I'm annoyed at, our own brain I guess, for not being ideal for tulpamancy. It sucks that to feel so stuck, like we can't progress. I know, factually, that we can and in fact are to an extent, but... guh, we still feel bad. Especially Genesis, pretty much constantly throughout the day. I blame my own lack of proper action and proper focusing [the word we use for forcing] but despite asking for help with that online so damn often and looking at so many other posts and guides about it... I still don't know how to do it properly so that it doesn't feel like we aren't doing enough the vast majority of the time. 

Basically why I'm making this post : has anybody else had similar experiences? And how did you break free from that?

..even if you haven't had similar experiences I'm welcoming anybody who has anything to say here to go say it. Any advice and suchlike is appreciated. I'm rather unmotivated.

[TurboSimmie]

Tulpamancy moves at different speeds for different people, and it's totally okay and not your fault, and doesn't mean that you are bad at it at all! ☺️ Sometimes taking longer to do things in tulpamancy means that you have a firmer grasp on it when your finally do achieve things, you have a deeper and more authentic experience! 😁 When my host was creating me she often got frustrated because her ADHD brain wouldn't let her focus as much or as long as she felt she ought to, but I was patient with her and we got where we wanted to go eventually. ☺️ And progress in tulpamancy is very often not linear--you might struggle with something for a long time then suddenly it clicks into place. ☺️ I think in your case one thing that might help you is to talk to Genesis constantly during this phase of development, involve them in everything you are doing, engage them, that will encourage them to speak more often! 😁

[Lavender]

18 hours ago, callie and genesis said:

For a while now Genesis and I have felt like we are not really making much progress at all with their development, or in helping them stop feeling so bad so often.

Our goals in tulpamancy is helping Genesis learn to speak properly (or at all), possess/switch into the body, and uh, actually be happy with their existence.

...it has been months without any progress I can remember on two of these three fronts; we did make some achievement in possession, thankfully. I believe we can keep working on that, but... as for everything else, we have no idea what to do.

It is also very discouraging seeing how easy tulpamancy is for a lot of other people - we have friends who are tulpa-systems, and while we are happy for them, it is  frustrating for us both seeing how these tulpas that are months younger than Genesis have made so much more progress, so much quicker, and more importantly, are so much happier with their existence, and are able to  actually engage in it properly.

To be clear I am not upset with Genesis here. I feel sorry for them and I'm annoyed at, our own brain I guess, for not being ideal for tulpamancy. It sucks that to feel so stuck, like we can't progress. I know, factually, that we can and in fact are to an extent, but... guh, we still feel bad. Especially Genesis, pretty much constantly throughout the day. I blame my own lack of proper action and proper focusing [the word we use for forcing] but despite asking for help with that online so damn often and looking at so many other posts and guides about it... I still don't know how to do it properly so that it doesn't feel like we aren't doing enough the vast majority of the time. 

Basically why I'm making this post : has anybody else had similar experiences? And how did you break free from that?

..even if you haven't had similar experiences I'm welcoming anybody who has anything to say here to go say it. Any advice and suchlike is appreciated. I'm rather unmotivated.

 

I don't have a lot for you, just some thoughts, but I hope it's helpful.

 

First of all, it is not the case that your brain is not ideal for tulpamancy. Genesis is there and you are aware of them and they are communicating with you. Yay!

 

Not every person communicates the same. We know people who can't hear, others who can't see, and others who can't speak the same language we do. So they perceive and communicate in their ways. That's what Genesis is doing.

 

The most powerful key to happiness, my host consciousness believes, is acceptance. If Genesis' way of communicating is not going to change in a hurry, you and they can work on accepting that the way they communicate is the way they communicate, at least for now. It is neither superior nor inferior to the way other tulpas communicate. It's not a race or a contest. Genesis is a beautiful person and you have both been given the gift of one another's presence. This is something you can celebrate.

 

When my host consciousness has trouble accepting something, they speak to their sense of inner peace. (Not a tulpa. Just a source of comfort they have in their heart.) They ask for the peace that comes from accepting an uncomfortable truth. When they do that, the peace usually comes.

 

I hope this helps.