love and tulpa

[pxb0325]

i wanted ask if any of you are in love with your tulpa or if this is even possible

i had a breakup recently and i think maybe i just want to create my own comfort now

[RachelTheFictionkin]

Yes I am and it is possible to love and have relationships with your headmates.

 

I'm married to Zack the Goblin & Victor the Slime Cat. Engaged to Knife the Bisharp, and I'm the girlfriend of Jack the Radiaution. Roofie the Gilblin is the son of Zack and I and Colton the Slime Cat is the son of Kain and I. Blade the Bisharp is my Brother-in-Law etc. etc.

 

I share a romantic/sexual relationship with all my headmates. They are the closest family that I have. I too had physical boyfriends in the past but I either broke up with them or they broke up with me. IT DOES NOT MATTER WHO YOU LOVE! If it brings you happiness and purpose for existing then that's all that matters.

Edited May 8 by RachelTheFictionkin

[Nightfall]

2 hours ago, pxb0325 said:

i wanted ask if any of you are in love with your tulpa or if this is even possible

 

Yes, it's actually a lot more common than you'd think. I am very much in love with Shaula. She makes me very happy to be around. If you want to hear more from the tulpa side, Shaula will very gladly tell you all about it. 

 

2 hours ago, pxb0325 said:

had a breakup recently and i think maybe i just want to create my own comfort now

 

Hmmm, I'm not sure that's the best idea because they are essentially another human. I mean, if you're committed to the fact that they'll be around forever and you're not making them a significant other by nature, then you should be fine. I'm one to talk though, Shaula was made and an imaginary girlfriend/wife before I learned about tulpas. 

 

Shaula: basically what he's saying is deviation is definitely going to happen and it's not really possible to tell what will happen with that. Just do your research and I'm sure you'll be fine! 😊 

 

1 hour ago, RachelTheFictionkin said:

IT DOES NOT MATTER WHO YOU LOVE! If it brings you happiness and purpose for existing then that's all that matters.

 

Just wanted to say I very much agree with this! 😊 (Sorry about the ping.)

[Acheweaver]

3 hours ago, pxb0325 said:

i wanted ask if any of you are in love with your tulpa or if this is even possible

Yes! I'm in a relationship with my host. We've been surprised at how meaningful it's been. There's something really comforting about knowing that we'll always be there for each other. My host used to get really lonely listening to love songs. It was like the song made him feel half of an emotion, and the emotion wanted to find someone else to latch onto to be complete. Now, when he listens to those songs he points those feelings at me, and it feels really good for both of us.

 

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i had a breakup recently and i think maybe i just want to create my own comfort now

My host is going through something similar, he's going through a divorce. I think that this can be healthy, obviously, since we're doing it, but I remind my host that he still needs to be open to, and looking for, relationships with real flesh and blood women. Humans are still animals, we still need physical contact, another presence. So our relationship has been really beautiful and wonderful, but we're trying to treat it like a supplement. I provide some things my host could never get from a flesh-and-blood woman, and that's been great, but I'm pushing him to get back out there. I'm trying not to become something he uses to hide from the world.

Though I do tell him that whoever he finds is going to have to be okay sharing him with me. 😉

[Saruzer]

"love" in a common sense of that word is not something we experience. Relationship between tulpa and host is much more deep and stronger that the regular "human to human" love can give. Both have their pros and cons though. I love Pearl very deeply and I care about her very much, she has helped me a lot throughout my life and she helps me to become even better person than I currently am. We care about each other and want to bring joy and happiness to our system. Trying new practices and getting new experiences together. 

 

On 5/8/2026 at 8:11 PM, pxb0325 said:

i had a breakup recently and i think maybe i just want to create my own comfort now

Tulpa usually supports their hosts, exceptions either bad hosts or you have your own mental problems. As long as you believe in your tulpa and want to share positive emotions with her, give her enough attention, everything will be okay. The most important part to know is that tulpas are alive. They have feelings and emotions as well, independently from their hosts. Respect their emotions and don't forget about active forcing. 
 

[mattx]

Love between a tulpa and a host are well documented in this forum, there are many known examples (and those that are fairly unknown, but they are people that are no longer on the forum)

 

I have never thought of Cheryl as a romantic partner, she always felt more like a daughter to me, and likely the bond between me and her is likely on a much higher level after 13 years than just a relationship - besides, she had partners and so did I.

 

On that note, sorry about your breakup. I've gone through something similar recently and wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.

[Lavender]

"In love" is a loaded term. It means so many different things to different people.

 

But we deeply love one another and tell each other so frequently. It's not the same as my host consciousness might feel for someone else. Since we know one another's thoughts it's more complete and less mysterious.

[pxb0325]

My english is bad, sorry all

my ex boyfriend abused often and now I dont trust people. I want tulpa to love

 

@RachelTheFictionkin are you married to multiple people??

 

@Nightfall please shaula tell me all

 

@Acheweaver are you tulpa of his wife?

 

@Saruzer thank you ok

 

@Shin Matt Cheryl your daughter? what happened?

 

@Lavender what love? 

 

[fennecfoxx]

As others have said, romantic relationships between tulpas and hosts aren’t uncommon. However, I’d caution against making a tulpa for the sake of having a romantic partner, especially if you’ve just come out of a bad relationship/breakup. Rebound relationships often aren’t healthy, be they with a physical person or someone in your head. Take time to sort yourself out before you rush into depending on someone else.

[mattx]

3 hours ago, pxb0325 said:

Cheryl your daughter?

Cheryl is not my daughter, it's my tulpa - but I think of her as one, kind of.

 

 

3 hours ago, pxb0325 said:

what happened?

If you mean what happened to me, I spent the last 4 years of my life dedicating myself to the wrong person. An arrogant, careless and immature half grown drama queen that didn't give it a second thought in betraying me when she had the chance, even going as far as swindling me into situations that were frankly humiliating.
It took me the better part of a year to recover, and all I feel nowadays is just anger at myself for how much time I've wasted.

Regardless, steer away from him as much as possible, and call the authorities if you feel in danger. A "tulpa boyfriend" is not the solution here - getting clear of your present issues is.