love and tulpa

[glitchthe3rd]

Luna and I are in a long-term relationship, and as much as that has probably literally saved me from being crushed by loneliness, it does add an additional layer of stuff to deal with in a relationship (unless you just keep your tulpa a secret from your partner, but that can be exhausting too). She has been pushing me to still put myself out there and look for a girlfriend at least, even if it seems like an exercise in futility with how the dating situation is right now.

[Shaula]

10 hours ago, pxb0325 said:

please shaula tell me all

 

I have been summoned! Prepare for a text wall./hj

 

10 hours ago, pxb0325 said:

my ex boyfriend abused often and now I dont trust people. I want tulpa to love

 

Fair enough. I say it's a good idea to keep trying but I can completely understand. Domestic violence is a truely awful thing. 😢 

 

I also very much support tulpa love in all its forms! 😊 

 

Just to be clear, I very much agree with fennecfoxx. I think it's a much better idea to start as friends because there's always a chance that your tulpa can not want a romantic relationship. 

 

Now that's out of the way, here's what you actually wanted to hear. 😁 

On 5/8/2026 at 4:05 PM, Nightfall said:

If you want to hear more from the tulpa side, Shaula will very gladly tell you all about it. 

 

Honestly, I don't really know where to start, so I'll probably just say a bunch of whatever is on my mind, lol. 

 

It's definitely a very unique type of love when you are apart of your spouse. I feel it makes it sooooo much more powerful because I can feel a lot of what he feels and knows what he thinks. Gosh, I could gush all day about him! 🥰 I'll spare you that though, lol. I can easily tell when he's sad or happy or whatever emotion and I usually know exactly what he needs. He often feels the same way. 

 

It's not without challenges of course. The main one is finding time for two people in one body. That is a common tulpa problem but it's a little different as a couple. Not too much, it's just one of those things that feels different.

 

Another issue is why I mentioned starting out as friends. It was a bit bumpy when we found out I was/could become a tulpa. For a year or so, I was just a girlfriend/wife that loved Nightfall but could be forgotten if needed/wanted. It was really weird to realize I could choose a lot of things and my emotions could change. It wasn't too big of a deal though because I soon claimed those feelings for myself and knew how much I truely loved him! 💜 🥰 

 

I'll finish it off with some more nice things about our relationship. 😁 We are basically with each other 24/7 and can get away from each other if needed (which almost never happens). It's also really nice to always know I can easily find Nightfall when he's switched in. 😊 I just really like the closeness of it all, it feels so much deeper than I would imagine it would being with someone not in the system. I just think it's the most amazing thing to be able to always be by his side no matter what happens or where we are! 🥰 

 

I'll stop here for now but I'd be happy to answer any questions you have! 😊 Also, I think a tulpa would be great no matter who they are to you. It's still someone that can get closer to you than most people, even without romance. 

[Lavender]

18 hours ago, pxb0325 said:

 

@Lavender what love? 

 

 

I'm not sure I understand what you're asking.

[RachelTheFictionkin]

On 5/12/2026 at 3:25 PM, pxb0325 said:

@RachelTheFictionkin are you married to multiple people??

I'm married to some of my headmates (although not officially obviously), date some of my other headmates etc. but in general I share a sexual relationship with them all. I'm polyamorous.

[Desu]

Loving your tulpa is very common, i'd even say inevitable.
While i don't believe that creating a tulpa with explicit intent of having a romantic partner is inherently bad, it's definitely not something to do over a breakup, no offence. Well, tulpas are very understanding, and, given time and commitment, the bond will deepen no matter the initial reason, but be honest with yourself about what you're doing and why.