Getting stuck in front and/or blending together with host

[Luminesce]

1 hour ago, Joy said:

I think you're downplaying actual experience with this statement.

By "caught up in games" I don't mean they think things matter that actually don't, but that they make big puzzles out of things when the answers are very simple. Of course the experiences are meaningful, that's what tulpamancy is all about, but the right answer to a problem is usually the simplest one.

 

1 hour ago, Joy said:

Thanks again for reminding us that we don't have the hygiene so we shouldn't complain about the fluidity. 

 

Well, yeah, that about sums it up. I don't do "I told you so", but I will say that kind of shows why we teach things the way we do. Instant switching (and/or rapidly switching back and forth as well) for example is completely possible, but we don't recommend it & do recommend minor rituals because they promote good "switching hygiene". Meaning, they force people to be more mindful and aware which prevents many problems, whereas without a ritual/hygiene you rely entirely on your mental competence, but you might not even have had a chance to set up the rules in your mind with which to be competent in following. 

 

Anyways, you can still do whatever you want whenever you want however you want. But you always have to take charge of your mind and force things into being how you want them to be, especially when you're not having your expectations shaped ahead of time by others' recommendations/"teachings". Those aren't necessary, but they are guide rails that can help keep people from becoming lost, if they're not trailblazers on their own

Edited October 5, 2023 by Luminesce

[Joy]

It's beyond me how I can copy and paste quotes so I'll just link it.

 

Tl;dr I believe a mixture of poor discipline, poor hygiene, and intended behavior has caused unexpected switching for Ashley only since it has no indication of occurring for me whatsoever. She's not any more associated with the body than anyone, it's simply a personality preference if that makes sense. Bear finds her entertaining and wants to hear from her, well then he shouldn't complain or worry if she goes a little too far. If further evidence leads me to a different conclusion, I'll report back.