How do you healthily cope with reality?

[horsetulpamancer]

I’ve kept vesting myself in fiction, to the point it’s hard to even have fun with it anymore. 
I don’t have much variety in books, unless you count children’s ones. 
Videogames aren’t relaxing, they’re stressful. (Fuck rimworld, won’t give me my 60 bucks back) 

Online school is shit and whatever the hell marks and grades mean, they’re dropping. 

 

how do you cope? it’s painful with fucking Corona and other bullshit happening to you.

[TurboSimmie]

For what it's worth, Phil coped by creating me! 😁

 

The last year has been so hard for many people. I wish I could give you an answer that was a magic bullet. But truthfully, you just have to find new healthy things to get into. For Phil and I that means going on a lot of walks, drawing, and just talking to each other a lot. He's had depression for more than a decade and there are times when he's just so sad and I don't know what to do 😕, so I feel your pain. But I remember seeing that you have a tulpa named Applejack, right? Go give her a hug right now! I mean it, do it the moment you read this! Then talk to her. Spill your guts about what's going on in your life and in your mind. Trust me, she's going to want to hear it, and she's not going to hate or judge you for anything you say. Then give her another big hug for me, and thank her for listening. Then think of fun things you can do together. Walking is a good one; being outside is good for you, getting fresh air and exercise, and having some space!

 

I hope this helps you. I believe in you, you're going to get through this. 🤗

[fennecfoxx]

Hobbies? Maybe find a productive hobby if unproductive ones are stressing you out. Could be writing, drawing, programming, whatever floats your boat.

 

Online school sucks. I endured four years of it. At least you can look forward to things being back to normal (hopefully) by next year? (All I had to look forward to was graduation.)

[horsetulpamancer]

8 hours ago, TurboSimmie said:

so I feel your pain. But I remember seeing that you have a tulpa named Applejack, right? Go give her a hug right now! I mean it, do it the moment you read this!

been hugging her since her creation (1-2 year old) , and i dunno. applejack is neutral on things, since she is myself after all.

[MrTriangular]

If you have to "cope" with reality, this might be a good time to look into professional help. I hear the rates are lower over the Zooms and the Skypes and whatnot now!

Failing that, there *is* always a new hobby you could try, as mentioned above. It should hold the tide, but really, look for help if it gets unbearable. No shame in that.

[horsetulpamancer]

5 hours ago, MrTriangular said:

If you have to "cope" with reality, this might be a good time to look into professional help. I hear the rates are lower over the Zooms and the Skypes and whatnot now!

Failing that, there *is* always a new hobby you could try, as mentioned above. It should hold the tide, but really, look for help if it gets unbearable. No shame in that.

>pay money for someone to spew words
the "professional" psychologist and therapist trade is a bunch of BS.

[fennecfoxx]

On 5/19/2021 at 11:11 PM, horsetulpamancer said:

>pay money for someone to spew words
the "professional" psychologist and therapist trade is a bunch of BS.

Most people who’ve been to therapy would disagree. Therapy isn’t about “spewing words” but rather helping you help yourself. Just having someone to talk to can be a huge help, plus said someone is trained and experienced and can walk you through coping techniques and other strategies to help you with your issues. (Not telling you what to do, but rather working with you to find what works best for you. Everyone’s different after all.) Plus, if you have insurance, it can cost you little to nothing.

 

But hey, if you prefer being miserable, that’s your prerogative. I’m not going to force you.

[Lucilyn]

therapists are incredibly hit or miss, sometimes they're basically mindless drones that just repeat what they were taught to say, but sometimes they can be life-changing advisors and way more helpful than randos on the internet

 

I'll say that we've seen a lot of people on the forum not like their therapists, but we've known other people who were helped immensely by therapy, and that our therapist is super cool and smart, not pushy and really great to work with/bounce thoughts off of

 

I think the biggest difference in a good friend and a good therapist is that a good therapist knows how to tailor advice for you that is based on studies and psychology proven to have good results, whereas a good friend can only give advice that seems right to them specifically

 

 

but having both helps a TON!!

[horsetulpamancer]

anyways gonna drop an update,
VRchat is pretty fun, been playing it. Planning to buy some VR too, found a good deal for a OG htc vive near me haha, just gotta get the money.
 

[Guest]

i cope by think to myself about what wrong with the world how to fix it what to do in if something happens and etc. and sort of meditating.  but in reality i didn't really do anything to cope. My mind is tough as like a tank but my brother sure knows how to penetrate through and make me go mad. so i kind of lost it. but i did get minecraft to help. and more recently also got a dog and my two tulpas to cope.

 

EDIT: my best advice is to find an enjoyable pastime. Especially if you can interact with other human though some sort of means and is safe. And do it with people (if you can) that don't anger you or give you stress.

Edited July 9, 2021 by Guest
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