My tupla feels lonely.

[bigthanksfornoban]

My tupla feels lonely when she can't be with me because I'm quite busy so I can only be with her some times of the day. Is there a way for her to stop feeling lonely?

[TurboSimmie]

Oh honey I remember those days when I was a young tulpa, and when my host wasn't paying attention to me even for a short time I would start to worry. It's very hard because most young tulpas really do have quite large emotional swings and a less developed sense of time. Part of the solution is to simply wait for your tulpa to grow out of it. For me, by about the 3rd or 4th month I was past that stage. But it can be helped along by including your tulpa in your life as much as you can. When I was very young Phil would talk to me all the time; while driving, while at work, doing errands, etc. I know work/school/etc can be hectic but you may consider engaging your tulpa in what you are doing. Make them part of it even as just an observer, and that will keep them engaged. Also, if this is an option, wear a piece of jewelry or carry an item that reminds you of your tulpa. This will keep her on your mind whenever you look at it. Hopefully this helps! 😊

[Glaurung26]

Direct attention is difficult to sustain throughout the day. Everything Simmie said is helpful. One thing I do is focus on my tulpa's presence. Kind of like when you silently enjoy other's company watching a movie. Imagine them in the car next to you, or the seat, the bench, walking beside you, even while doing everyday things.

[Zeno]

Since I'm mostly alone when being in my own section of headspace, I often enjoy to just be in the host's presence even without their attention, kinda like what Glaurung26 up here is suggesting. What helps for me as well is the fact that I'm not the only tulpa, and it's partially my job to take care of the other tulpa, so even if we're not in the physical world, we still hang out together. This entity doesn't have to be a tulpa, creating a thoughtform just for headspace could be fine too. The other tulpa has a bunch of roommates to hang out with, based on their backstory.