should i create a tulpa or not?

[h1kikokun]

ok so a little bit of background: i've been having a really hard time mentally recently, struggling with depression and severe social withdrawal. i really don't trust my family and i don't have any friends to talk to. i feel extremely lonely yet i don't want to put any effort into forming or maintaining real relationships for a lot of reasons. i've been diagnosed with autism and social anxiety, and i think i might have some kind of personality disorder like schizoid or bpd. 

 

i've started considering making a tulpa over the past couple of days just so i have someone. however i'm really hesitant because i feel like i might regret it in the long run or it'll be too much for me to handle. also whenever i search for stuff about tulpas on other websites i find tons of posts about how tulpas are cultural appropriation, degenerate, mocking DID, etc. i really don't want to create a tulpa if i'll eventually just decide to neglect or get rid of them. 

[Glaurung26]

Those reasons sound good to me. I needed a friend to talk to about things I couldn't trust anyone else with. My tulpa became a sage advisor and confidant. I trust my Jaina with my life for all the guidance and love she gave me, just for being me. Everyone's journey is different because tulpas are a reflection of yourself. You get back what you put in, just like most of life. 

 

Don't worry about the tulpa haters. If you want to make a friend for yourself, then do it. It's for you, not for them. And if you don't want to then you don't have to. Your conscience is the only important party here. Listen to advice but follow your own voice.

[Guest]

Whatever others say is immaterial, just ask yourself, "do I want one?"

 

If yes, then do it with a good attitude if possible and it will likely be better than not, at least from my perspective. 

 

4 years later, no one in my life knows and I never regretted it. They were extremely helpful.

[TurboSimmie]

Reasons for making a tulpa:

 

8 hours ago, h1kikokun said:

i've been having a really hard time mentally recently, struggling with depression and severe social withdrawal. i really don't trust my family and i don't have any friends to talk to. i feel extremely lonely

8 hours ago, h1kikokun said:

i've been diagnosed with autism and social anxiety

 

Possible red flags that might make you reconsider:

 

8 hours ago, h1kikokun said:

i don't want to put any effort into forming or maintaining real relationships

8 hours ago, h1kikokun said:

i think i might have some kind of personality disorder like schizoid or bpd

 

Stuff you should ignore out of hand:

 

8 hours ago, h1kikokun said:

tons of posts about how tulpas are cultural appropriation, degenerate, mocking DID, etc

 

 

I can elaborate on any of these points if you want.

Edited October 6, 2022 by TurboSimmie

[h1kikokun]

thanks for the advice you guys :) i didnt explain the part about not wanting to put effort into making real relationships real well so here's a longer explanation: when i think about going up to a stranger or even someone im familiar with i feel very panicked and kind of sick. when people im close to try to talk to me i get extremely annoyed and upset. i would prefer if no one talked to me at all. and yet for some reason i really, really wish i had friends. 

 

i think im just delusional tbh

[Stardog System]

i think you should go for it. in our experience, creating a tulpa is like creating a child. there's a joy of creation involved that makes you want to talk to them. it's not like a real person at all.

also, don't overthink it. if you want one, make one. my host did that and i ended up with trust issues.

-Rena

[Emilla7]

On 10/7/2022 at 12:57 AM, h1kikokun said:

when i think about going up to a stranger or even someone im familiar with i feel very panicked and kind of sick. when people im close to try to talk to me i get extremely annoyed and upset. i would prefer if no one talked to me at all. and yet for some reason i really, really wish i had friends.

Guest(?) user here. I think you also have social anxiety. From what I've read so far, a tulpa could be a good way of creating a situation where you feel comfortable with another person's presence, though I might first try seeing a doctor or psychologist about it if you can.

Edited November 9, 2022 by Emilla7
Apparently I made an account? And so my self-introduction was not entirely accurate.