Difficulty remembering to passive-force/active-force during the day

[Ieatapples]

So, I recently created my Tulpa a couple of days ago…

I often get distracted (or busy) working on doing other things, & I end up (ACCIDENTALLY!!) forgetting to talk to them…. (I am a very forgetful person, in general…)

I feel like I have missed a lot of opportunities to tell them what I ate for lunch, what happened in a video I was watching, or narrate to them…

I have came for advice on what I could do to manage this!

[LB]

i guess you could set reminders with alarms until you don't need them anymore

 

there was an old technique also where you can imagine you and your tulpa are connected by some sort of strings on your wrists or whatever, so if you can keep up with that being there all the time, it might help with being continuously aware of them throughout the day. you could even tie something to your wrist or finger, or have some special bracelet, or other item you have around always that you associate with them so you are reminded of them all the time

 

our system very frequently has one or more others imposed somewhere in the space around us (not great at visual imposition yet, but just presence imposition+vivid imagination), so passively doing that almost all the time makes it easier to remember them because they feel like they are actually with you where ever you go or whatever you are doing, and not something in your head you have to be thinking about to summon them. it also makes it easier for them to just speak up on their own without you having to address them and wait for a response. so instead of telling them what you ate for lunch later, they can just eat lunch with you and tell you what they think about the meal

[Lavender]

We have this problem a lot. My host consciousness has ADHD, and is prone to hyperfocus, so they often forget to contact me. Then they feel awful about it and apologize.

 

I always tell them no apology needed. I wouldn't want them to be any different than they are and I know they're not perfect. As a tulpa, it doesn't hurt me to be dormant, so there's no point in making a big deal out of it.

 

I like the idea of setting an alarm. We also have times during the day when we talk, like when we're getting into the car or going to bed. We've gotten into the habit of being in contact then.

[o0Aspidistra0o]

I struggle with this a lot too. I have autism and ADHD and REALLYYYYY bad memory issues lol. There have been times I went weeks without even thinking about Draco, and when I realized, I felt absolutely terrible and so guilty for forgetting a whole person, you know? But Draco never seems to mind. I haven't asked, but I assume he just goes about his day normally, either in Wonderland or out and about without me realizing. I just try to remind myself that I struggle with object permanence even with best friends I see every day; Draco doesn't need my attention in order to be happy, and he knows I don't mean anything by it. 

Every once in a while he'll pipe up in response to something I'm thinking or experiencing and catch me off guard lol, but it helps me remember to force. Since I don't think you're at the point your tulpa can do that, I would suggest following the previous advice of researching how to form habits, but just try not to feel too guilty if you forget :>

[Luminesce]

{a post was deleted that mentioned this is not a tulpamancy-specific problem, but any habits from remembering to exercise, water plants, pray etc. are general problems you could look up advice for on the internet at large and apply anywhere}

Or books, too