Communication not improving

[Guest onion]

Hey! My tulpa and I are both kind of lost. The problem is that we don't really know what to do to make any kind of progress. Netiher of us likes sitting down and concentrating on sessions and even though our communication works pretty well and he says he can fetch things from my mind, he can't tell me what they are. He might for example fetch a word I've forgotten and try to say it to me but all I get is some sort of mumble in my mind. I know I'm not parroting because he taught me out of it by possessing my hand and showing signals (which was in February). He also finds it frustrating that he can't speak out loud.

 

I haven't really had time for him but we do speak daily, he's with me wherever I go and I ask his opinions all the time. But talking and possession are more or less everything we've done in the past five months. Can you think of something more effective and something that might work for us? First and foremost we'd love to get our communication to a level where he could clearly say anything that comes to his mind. I've searched tulpa info over and over again to look for hints and I thought it was high time to ask you guys directly.

[Carmack]

You just continue to force, and wait patiently for the results of your work. I assume that you don't have a lot of pleasure to active forcing, then you interact with your tulpa in a passive manner, where the times usually increase significantly compared to the other methodology. Consider also that they can change from person to person, anyway.

[Linkzelda]

Hey! My tulpa and I are both kind of lost. The problem is that we don't really know what to do to make any kind of progress. Netiher of us likes sitting down and concentrating on sessions and even though our communication works pretty well and he says he can fetch things from my mind, he can't tell me what they are. He might for example fetch a word I've forgotten and try to say it to me but all I get is some sort of mumble in my mind. I know I'm not parroting because he taught me out of it by possessing my hand and showing signals (which was in February). He also finds it frustrating that he can't speak out loud.

 

I haven't really had time for him but we do speak daily, he's with me wherever I go and I ask his opinions all the time. But talking and possession are more or less everything we've done in the past five months. Can you think of something more effective and something that might work for us? First and foremost we'd love to get our communication to a level where he could clearly say anything that comes to his mind. I've searched tulpa info over and over again to look for hints and I thought it was high time to ask you guys directly.

The thing is, when I find people that state they crawled through the confines of tulpa.info for everything, that they went through in and out, left and right, through hell and back, to find an effective method, it's clear from the start that any method they find will only temporarily work until they get bored of it (or see little value or become impatient with it).

 

These are the type of people with a critical factor in their mind that immediately lacks understanding behind the rudiments with any method/technique. They all lead towards you and your tulpa being able to conceptualize things better, and you have to be able to have you and your tulpa be self-reflective of all your attempts. Things won't just be magically handed to you without you putting some effort and being able to persevere in analyzing each attempt.

 

I can empathize with having tulpa that feel they can just fetch the totality of our minds and everything will feel all fine and dandy. But that creates a limit with communication, it's about letting our tulpa acknowledge the despite of them accessing the confines of our mind easier, communication and just learning how to build a bond with each other involves actually having a conversation with each other.

 

And sometimes we need to find ways to get ourselves into the right mindset, or the suggestive state to do things more efficiently. But whatever method you're wanting to find to have better communication with your tulpa, they will all teach you how to actually treat them like any person you talk to in real life. Having better conversational skills means understanding the rudiments behind it.

 

- Find things to talk about, explore new things, anything, and just talk about it with your tulpa

- Feel engaged in your conversations with them, find ways to create topics naturally (see point #1 above)

- Talk about things that usually involves deeper levels of introspection (views on reality, morality, concepts etc.)

 

Whatever method you try to find, they are there to help you become better at naturally having a conversation with your tulpa, and that takes practice. That takes acknowledging the laconic responses you have with them and analyzing and questioning:

 

"What can I do to extend that?"

"How can I extend that?"

"Why will doing this allow me to extend our conversations and being able to go through a mental dance with them better and efficiently?"

 

And so much more, all of these things involves perseverance and acknowledging those slips of what seems as random thoughts as tools for learning how to expand them more.

 

Even if I give you hypnosis scripts to practice, or someone gives you a method that seems okay (but it's really you accepting that there's nothing new to what they're saying), if you can't find yourself building perseverance and knowing how to get into suggestive states that cater for specific tasks, then it will be difficult to get success with anything.

 

Take a good look at yourself and your tulpa should as well to acknowledge why certain methods don't work, make a list or write something down even (or type them), and learn from your mistakes. All methods can work, but it involves making structural planning to learn from them. If you can't do that, of course things will be lukewarm, stagnant, and feeling as if you reached a plateau effect with communication.