An objective assesment-

[sushi]

1. It's not hard to have a social life and a tulpa. Just remember to spend some time with your tulpa as well. I live with my girlfriend, work in sales, have friends, and spend a lot of time with my family. I often forget Fench when I'm with other people, which annoys her a bit -- but it annoys her that I forget her, not that I spend time with other people.

 

2. From what I've seen, tulpas are almost never jealous. Even the ones created to be some lonely guy's waifu usually encourage their hosts to be with real women. There was never anything romantic between Fench and myself, and she's always encouraged me to stick with my girlfriend, even when I'm not feeling it.

 

3. You have nothing to fear but fear itself. Tulpas rely on their hosts for existence, so they always have a vested interest in keeping their hosts healthy and happy. They will never deliberately try to scare you unless you encourage them to in some way.

 

4. Lucid dreams can be connected to sleep paralysis, but most people have one without the other. I think the biggest contributing factor to sleep paralysis is the position you sleep in. Sleeping on your back makes sleep paralysis much more likely. Always sleep on your side, and you shouldn't have a problem.

[Dutchy]

Ohkay, that's appeased a few of my doubts. I also just tried what I guess is called Narration? I know it's beaten to death that there is no right way to do it. But I just found myself trying to find stuff to talk about. I did a list of like three traits and talked about each of them for a little bit, then I just kinda talked about my day, my favourite movie, stuff like that. I don't know, it just felt a bit bizarre. Anyway, thankyou Sushi!

[Guest amber5885]

Please keep us posted, I'm curious to see how this turns out for you :)

 

If you are not sure what to talk about you could always narrate what you're doing or even read a book to your tulpa. I've done that. And even if you're tulpa isn't vocal yet you could always ask random questions. You may not get an answer, or your tulpa may surprise you but in a way it will force it to think on some level and maybe help speed up the process.

 

Make it personal questions too like likes and dislikes, favorite songs, food, books or even deeper questions if you want. Try to get it thinking about itself and give yourself a chance to think about how you would want it to answer those questions, if yoi want to have control of its personality that is.

 

I hope I'm not rambling too much :)

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Toby says that if you find yourself with any free moment during the day just send a wild thought to your tulpa. Like picture yourself out and doing things together or you can do it verbally by saying things like "we should go swimming." or "do you like amusement parks?"

 

Or you can reverse told and simply ask your tulpa things like "if we could do anything right now what would it be?" he says at first nothing might happen and that's okay but one day you'll ask and your tulpa WILL respond and catch you totally off guard.

 

He also says that if you have nothing spacifically to talk about then just thinking of your tulpa can be enough at times.

 

He says to always remember that just because they don't respond doesn't mean they're not listening and they apriciate any and every bit of attention they get no matter how small.

 

Hope this helps :)

[Dutchy]

Thankyou. :) That's pretty much what i've been doing. Glad to know i'm on the right track. I will keep you posted.