Tulpa always reassuring?

[FurryBlueNaki]

Are tulpae always reassuring, or will they tell it to you straight when you need to hear something?

 

Is it normal to feel anxiety when tulpaforcing?

 

Is it normal to feel calmed by the tulpa when tulpaforcing?

 

Does a tulpa understand when I'm worn out and can't effectively tulpaforce or spend time with them?

 

How do I get to where I can mentally think about them almost all the time without becoming burned out?

 

Does staring at a picture of them count as tulpaforcing, or does it have to originate from our own mind (thinking of them without a reference)?

[ZSchaller]

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Edited October 10, 2020 by RailOfFire

[Leaf]

Are tulpae always reassuring, or will they tell it to you straight when you need to hear something?

From experience, mine tend to be reassuring, but I certainly will not be spared from what they have to say if they think I need to hear it.

 

Is it normal to feel anxiety when tulpaforcing?

Anxiety could be due to a lot of factors, but it is possible especially if you are worried about doing something wrong. It probably will go away eventually.

 

Is it normal to feel calmed by the tulpa when tulpaforcing?

Sure, although like for anxiety, I wouldn't be so concerned with if it normal as much as why it is occurring. In other words, what are you so worried about and what is your tulpa doing that may cause you to be calmed? Sometimes tulpae do effect your emotional state, but it if it is occurring every time it may be due to your preconceived notions of tulpaforcing in general. For example, I see a trend in this post. You are worried about something regarding your tulpa and/or tulpaforcing (second question) that causes your tulpa to try to reassure you (first question) that causes you to eventually calm down (third question). In that case, it is you coming into tulpaforcing with the anxiety expecting and hoping for your tulpa to reassure you that makes you wonder if it is normal because it happens every time.

 

Does a tulpa understand when I'm worn out and can't effectively tulpaforce or spend time with them?

Yes, just say so. Extending what I had going from the previous response, your anxiety may be due to fear of them not liking you for not spending time with them. Don't worry about it.

 

How do I get to where I can mentally think about them almost all the time without becoming burned out?

Never. I cannot think about my tulpa all the time because I have responsibilities that demand my attention. Besides, long periods of concentration give me a wicked headache. I would suggest you focus first on the world around you and share it with them instead of thinking about them 24/7.

 

Does staring at a picture of them count as tulpaforcing, or does it have to originate from our own mind (thinking of them without a reference)?

Tulpaforcing doesn't have to involve a form. In fact a lot of times it is a lot easier to simply hold a conversation without any visualization. Later it gets easier to do both, but I would recommend separating visualization from presence from vocality at first to simplify things and keep you focused on one goal.

[Guest amber5885]

1) bolth. Toby reassures me when I need it and gets honest with me when I need it. They are their own person so it does depend on the personality.

 

2) tese emotions could be you, they could be chance or they could be both. Tulpas tend to communicate by way of emotion before they become vocal. The best thing you can do is relax, don't worry too much about it because it wot harm him if you're anxious and it could be that your just nerovuse about him.

 

3)They do generally understand, you can always explain it to him if your not sure that he gets it.

 

4) this just comes with time. Once he is sentient and developed he won't take as much energy from you. It's like having a baby virsus a tobbler. Once he can do for himself it will become a lot easier on you. I passive force almost 100% of the time. Toby is always with me and it doesn't tire me out in the slightest.

 

5) forcing is anything that you do that involves your tulpa. Staring at a picture likely does nothing for them but talking to them, going into the wonderland or just inviting them to watch a movie with you are all forms of forcing.

 

If you are getting tired maybe try cutting your sessions down. Like five minutes here and there or you can try passive forcing. Toby became active with only passive forcing and he's not the only one. All that is is passively engaging them throughout the day.

 

Ask chance questions, even of he can't answer and tell him how you would answer.

 

Ask him what he wants to do? What he would like to eat? Just include him in your day to day. It might be easier on you an it does achieve the same result.

 

You could also mix the two. Active force when you can an passive when you can. I active force in the morning when I wake up and before I go to bed then durin the day Toby is just with me.

 

Play around with different methods but know that meditation and active forcing aren't the ink ways to create a tulpa and everyone is different. Exhausting your self doesn't do chance any good so change it up and see what happens.

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Leaf is right maybe work on vocaliity and personality and when chance wakes up he can help you with form.

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But he is wrong in one aspect. Having your tulpa around without them exhausting you is entirely possible. Like I said Toby is with me nearly 100% of the time and it doesn't distract from my job or my friends. But I've also had over 20 years to practice this.

[FurryBlueNaki]

Thank you all. Very informative feedback. I'm glad I don't have to go to the point of exhaustion and that it will become easier when he is sentient. I think I've had pieces of sentience slip through, but nothing definitive.

[Upper Class Twit]

Are tulpae always reassuring, or will they tell it to you straight when you need to hear something?

 

 

No. It depends heavily on their personality.

 

 

Is it normal to feel anxiety when tulpaforcing?

 

 

Not unless you regularly get anxiety. Ideally it should be relaxing.

 

Is it normal to feel calmed by the tulpa when tulpaforcing?

 

I do, but again, it probably has to do with the tulpas specific presence and personality more than anything else.

 

Does a tulpa understand when I'm worn out and can't effectively tulpaforce or spend time with them?

 

I would imagine, unless the tulpa is generally unreasonable.

 

 

How do I get to where I can mentally think about them almost all the time without becoming burned out?

 

Practice.

 

 

Does staring at a picture of them count as tulpaforcing, or does it have to originate from our own mind (thinking of them without a reference)?

 

ehhh, maybe passive forcing, but not active forcing.

[Clementine]

Are tulpae always reassuring, or will they tell it to you straight when you need to hear something?

Since when is something always the same? Name one thing that has never changed, all your life. Sometimes they will be reassuring, and at other times, they won't. Just like anything else in life, it depends heavily on your situation - in this case, the personalities of both you and your tulpa, and your relationship together.

 

Is it normal to feel anxiety when tulpaforcing?

Is it normal to feel anxiety?

 

Is it normal to feel calmed by the tulpa when tulpaforcing?

I think you might want to look into what relativity is.

 

Does a tulpa understand when I'm worn out and can't effectively tulpaforce or spend time with them?

Just like anything else in life' date=' it depends heavily on your situation - in this case, the personalities of both you and your tulpa, and your relationship together.[/i']

 

How do I get to where I can mentally think about them almost all the time without becoming burned out?

Not. You don't have to think about them all the time. You need to get to where they think for themselves and you don't have to put any effort into feeling their presence at all. They'll just be there.

 

Does staring at a picture of them count as tulpaforcing, or does it have to originate from our own mind (thinking of them without a reference)?

It's not about what counts and doesn't count, it's about what works and doesn't work. Does staring at a picture work? Then it counts. Does it not work? Then it doesn't count.

[Nobillis]

Let me answer your questions indirectly. For most tulpas , their creator is the most important person in their life so they want to keep them happy and healthy. That may be reassuring you when you are unfairly criticizing yourself, or it might be chastising you and telling you off when you don't look after yourself. Each person is different, but generally your tulpa will do what is in your best interest, even if that may not be what you want to hear.

 

Almost everyone I've talked to feels some anxiety when making a tulpa. I guess it's all those childhood horror tales, fears of loss of control, and other things people are prone to. Similarly, with being calmed, that is something I hear of very often.

 

You are likely wondering, "How do I get time off?" Well, all a tulpa needs - bare minimum - is for you to say "Good morning!" each day. That will take you like 10 seconds tops! So, no excuses for procrastination, o.k? That said, yes, your tulpa will understand. If you are that tired you can't think chances are all your tulpa feels like doing is sleeping too. As you develop [as a tulpa] the effects on the body affect you too. Eventually you learn to feel pain and hunger, just like anyone else (this varies, from person to person, on how long it takes). Other then that, it's a good idea to think of your tulpa as standing behind you, just out of sight. That way they get to be with you during the day, but also won't be too taxing for you.

 

Having a picture of your tulpa can help you with visualizing them. Further to my point above, you can then know what they will look like as they stand dehind you. Yes, that is a very minimal [passive] forcing; but, it won't suffice if you want your tulpa to develop reasonably fast (which everyone seems to want these days, no idea why, slow development is firm development).

[FurryBlueNaki]

I don't continually stare at the picture of him. I glance at it to get back in memory, before I tulpaforce more with eyes closed.