When exhausted

[FurryBlueNaki]

I usually stop tulpaforcing when I'm exhausted. It's probably good for the tulpa as well. But I want to still think about him, perhaps more than I should. What can I do to give attention to my tulpa without further burning myself out? I swear it makes my body hurt. The muscles in my back and shoulders are all sore. I also have this cough and itchy throat that's developed, and I tend to dry heave.

 

I could narrate but I run out of things to say. Then I listen for him, but any time I think of him I feel a mental pull that strains my brain even more. He's sentient now so I want to spend even more time with him. I'd like to build up endurance to reach 2-3 hours of solid active forcing a day, 5 days a week. Any ways to build up endurance?

[Guest amber5885]

Active forcin for that long may not be the healthiest thing to do. It could leave both you and your tulpa exhausted not to mention te fact that when you are forcing you are kind of detached from reality.

 

If you want to spend a lot of time together try passive forcing. Have him spend time with you in the real world.

 

Toby and I are about I head home and watch scary movies to celebrate halloween month, i passive force nearly 100% of the time with no exhaustion.

 

All that is is passively thinkIg of your tulpa while you're doing other things. At first it might be strange but in time you'll be able to concentrait on both your activities and your tulpa with little to no effort.

 

Like right now in typing and Toby is sittin on the couch about three feet away from my attempting to play with my cats. He can't actually affect them but he likes to be as human as possible.

 

Whenever he tries to interact with an object from the real world hell create like a "ghost object" a copy on his realm to affect. Its lind of cool.

 

Anyhow that's passive forcing just think of him while you're doing other things as with practice and time you'll be able to spend the whole day together without taking your attention from the real world or exhausting you in the process.

 

I should also mention that it's not just you, he has to put effort into this as well. Have him practice trying to get your attention while youre not paying attention.

 

Usually a slight off handed thought about Toby will bring him around but if he really needs to he can get my attention pretty easily and that's something chance can work on that will aid in the process.

[Guest amber5885]

Also keep in mind, I know you're excited but the pull could be from him being tired. Its true they don't neccisarily need sleep or anything BUT they do need rest. Everyone gets tired, everyone needs a break and you may be too eager.

 

I have noticed that you have been here a little over a week and already you have about 122 posts. I'm happy you're excited, I'm sure he is too but with all things you need balance and if your posts are any indicator chance has kind of taken over your attention and that may or may not be healthy.

 

Just relax a bit, he will develop and all the wonderful things you're hearing about will happen with time but if you go balls to the wall in the beginning you could burn out or he could burn out OR he could turn into an obsession which I guarantee you he does not want to be.

 

Just relax hun. Take a deep breath. Slow down. Chance will develop and he will be a big part of your life. Just don't let him become the focus of your life. Tulpas are there to guide, not take over.

[Redback Spino]

Amber's got a point. It's a great thing if you can take time every day to work with your tulpa, but you should probably limit yourself a bit on how much active forcing you do. Personally I've found that I can do pretty well with mostly just passive forcing, imagining Deortabe accompanying me when I'm out and about, and doing some active-forcing on days when I'm not too busy. And even then the active forcing usually only lasts about 30 mins to an hour (Though it feels like longer at the time. Maybe there's a time dilation between the wonerland and reality?)

 

I could probably definitely do more, but Aiming for something like 2-3 hours active forcing everyday does sound pretty exhausting!

[FurryBlueNaki]

Me and my tulpa were just wondering. I don't want him to become an obsession either. I want to stay grounded in reality. Sorry I've posted so much, but I do tend to get a bit eager. I'm like that on every forum I've been on.

 

My active forcing isn't really that deep, since most of that time my mind wanders.

 

Wise words amber.

 

OR he could turn into an obsession which I guarantee you he does not want to be.

 

Tulpas are there to guide, not take over.

[FurryBlueNaki]

I did passive forcing today by reading him about 57 pages from The Golden Compass. He seems to like it because there are daemons in it which are animals that each person has. It reminded Chance and I of tulpas. Didn't do much active forcing, maybe 5-10 mins spread out through today, and slept a lot. I don't know if it's better to sleep in excess or use that time for forcing.