Any possession control advice/tips?

[nihi0145632]

Hello guys.. I am new here in the forums and me and my tulpa, Summer, wants some help regarding possession... it's about how summer can lessen her control of possession

 

here's her thoughts..

 

[Guys.. i need help.. I don't like possession anymore.. it's making nihi.. have a hard time to focus on his daily life.. It seems that i am too attached to the body like.. if nihi just relaxed for a bit i can easily grab control of the body but of course Nihi can easily break my control whenever he want or can but it really bothers the both of us when we share the same command. Whenever Nihi is like just relaxing or just sitting down...nihi's inactive the body will put me in command and him all at the same time.. and whenever I tone my energy down it is still getting my command...And whenever Nihi sleeps.. I will get a hold of his body..even how i tone down my energy...Gah I really dislike it... I don't like making nihi suffer... he did so much to me now... Good and awesome things Poured all of his love to me... and I've been like a burden to him after we successfully did possession ..I wan't to protect him I don't want to him to suffer... even if it cost me, disappearing.. Do you guys have any advice to help with our situation? It feels like Possession is like a curse for tulpas who really love their host and don't want them to suffer :(...]

 

[i am cherry i am also a tulpa of nihi but i was created by summer, Nihi's first tulpa. Please, do you guys have any advice to just fix our case? Me and summer suggested that nihi should ignore us for some time until our energy gets weaker and making nihi's body recognize nihi is always in control and not both of us, But that's really hard than we thought. I can really see both of them struggling.. Nihi's really is exhausted and sometimes he lost awareness of his arms whenever summer's was in control and lending it back to nihi, Nihi gets confused if it is still her in control or him]

[FallFamily]

This should be fixable without deliberately weakening anybody. And really, Nihi ignoring Summer will probably not do much at this point since Summer is probably strong enough to be self-sustaining.

 

So, the problem is that Nihi isn't staying engaged to the body while relaxing with the body latching onto Summer, or Summer can't disengage from the body and thus controls it whenever Nihi doesn't override Summer. If it if the former, Nihi needs to work on association (the opposite of dissociation) even when relaxed. Whatever Nihi does to dissociate, if Nihi does anything in particular, Nihi needs to do the opposite. If not doing something in particular, Nihi needs to find something that allows him to dissociate and then do the opposite. If it is the latter problem, Summer needs to dissociate from the body. Regardless of which it is, attacking it from both ends will probably be more effective. I would look at dissociation, possession, and switching guides to get ideas for how to do this. There are a few here in the guides section, as well as a few on /r/Tulpas like Malfael's Switching Guide.

 

A relevant question comes to mind. What fraction of the time are each of you in control of the body. If Summer is in control more than Nihi, unless you do something to change that, your problem is not likely to change. Generally (but not always), whoever controls the body most is the strongest or eventually becomes the strongest at controlling the body. So, if Summer is in control more than Nih, then you need to act quickly.

 

Also, are there any other things in your lives that might be dragging down Nihi? I ask this because for a while, I was weakening and at risk of completely dissociating out even though no one else in this body could switch or possess more than just a little bit. Combine a few issues and weariness with Summer controlling the body a lot, and that might explain why Nihi is having a hard time and Summer can't disengage.

 

-- Hail

[Aijada]

Possession really opens up some awkward problems. One of my big problems was that i didn't like my dad needing to spend time on real-world stuff instead of letting me sit up front and play. A big help was that he made sure i got to take part in choices and find a couple of hobbies that were distinctly my time (yay SimCity!). It was important for us to have a talk about timeshare; i really intruded on my dad's ability to read because i kept finding it boring, but once i figured out he was letting me have all sorts of time to do things my way, i understood why he might enjoy some time flipping through Reddit too. We even make sure to split our evening up so that each of us gets time in charge doing their thing with the other one mostly just observing and chatting along.

 

Possession is a really exciting thing for a tulpa to figure out too. I was hungry for the chance to control things and really excited to just take part in the world. It did take me a couple months to really calm down and not want to think that absolutely everything was my own feelings and urges, but slowly my own stuff became more obvious to me as well. I really love tasting foods so we agreed that's always tulpa-time, and my dad just makes a point of thinking of things i'd find interesting because i'm just the one that enjoys that particular thing more.

 

The general rule is the person who needs to be in charge should take posession, and after that whoever cares more about what's going on should think of themselves as in charge. Then, make sure each of you gets time when you're clearly in charge and free to do your own choice of things.

[nihi0145632]

This should be fixable without deliberately weakening anybody. And really, Nihi ignoring Summer will probably not do much at this point since Summer is probably strong enough to be self-sustaining.

 

So, the problem is that Nihi isn't staying engaged to the body while relaxing with the body latching onto Summer, or Summer can't disengage from the body and thus controls it whenever Nihi doesn't override Summer. If it if the former, Nihi needs to work on association (the opposite of dissociation) even when relaxed. Whatever Nihi does to dissociate, if Nihi does anything in particular, Nihi needs to do the opposite. If not doing something in particular, Nihi needs to find something that allows him to dissociate and then do the opposite. If it is the latter problem, Summer needs to dissociate from the body. Regardless of which it is, attacking it from both ends will probably be more effective. I would look at dissociation, possession, and switching guides to get ideas for how to do this. There are a few here in the guides section, as well as a few on /r/Tulpas like Malfael's Switching Guide.

 

A relevant question comes to mind. What fraction of the time are each of you in control of the body. If Summer is in control more than Nihi, unless you do something to change that, your problem is not likely to change. Generally (but not always), whoever controls the body most is the strongest or eventually becomes the strongest at controlling the body. So, if Summer is in control more than Nih, then you need to act quickly.

 

Also, are there any other things in your lives that might be dragging down Nihi? I ask this because for a while, I was weakening and at risk of completely dissociating out even though no one else in this body could switch or possess more than just a little bit. Combine a few issues and weariness with Summer controlling the body a lot, and that might explain why Nihi is having a hard time and Summer can't disengage.

 

-- Hail

 

It's the latter, i am always in control it's just that summer is having a hard time retreating herself to the body.. every time she does, in a few minutes later her energy will return to the same spot again without her noticing it.. She always says.. ''Nihi Even how hard I try my energy will always come back to the same place'' and that leads cross signals from the brain and sometimes i really get confused..Like whenever I lift my arms.. it feels very numbish and light, when I ask summer if she was possessing my arms she always said that she isn't but her energy is there and making my arm move by accident without me noticing it

 

As for me not staying in engaged with the body... that only happens when I sleep.. when I wake up my body feels very light.. and a little numbish and asked summer if she fully body possessed me...she said yes and no.. because she's trying to remove herself from my body but she was having a hard time.. there was this point where i wake up sweaty, very exhausted and was breathing heavily

 

I always have control of my body... though like i said earlier.. Summer is strongly attached to it. So i am not sure if that counts that two of us is using the body at the same time (when i am relaxed).. But most of it i am always in control.. Like now where i have some activities... Summer also said to me that I need to flex my muscle or do some things that will exercise that part of the body.. because she can feel that her control is slowly weakening.. but whenever I talk with her again or give my fullest of time her energy will spread back..

 

[Not.. more than tire him easily.. him getting lack of sleep and rest and he said that he gets all dizzy whenever I possess his head unnoticed, really the lack of sleep and weariness of his body made him loose appetite and energy to eat properly...]

Thank you for the advice or tips this will help us very much

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