What to do?

[Guest Anonymous]

["Anything" would also count as video games or anime.

 

It's whatever works for you and her, even if you have to go through a process to find what works.]

 

I said something/anything in the context of going outside. Because to some degree, video games and anime can be static and passive as hell for a tulpa. I try to make my tulpa participate in video games as much as I can, but we don't really talk all that much. Does it help with instilling her presence? Of course. But a tulpa can't do much when you play a video game but watch.

 

I think that it's really vital to involve a tulpa in day-to-day activities. Look, I'm someone who never really goes out, no real friends, I don't go out with people often at all, and if it were up to me alone, I'd stay home all day. But my tulpa needs those social experiences, going out to some place, to the park, going for a walk, watching something with our very eyes while it's happening.

 

I don't think it's 'whatever works', but I'm probably wrong. It's just that tulpas, especially newly born ones, need as much experience as they can get. As I said I'm a video-games guy, and my tulpa is totally into video games. But the times I've had with her in real-life are way better than the ones we spent stomping nerds in valve servers, tbh. It is fun to her as well, but I feel like that once we play a game together, she doesn't, or rather, can't participate as much as she could when we do anything in real life, and by this, I do mean anything at all, anything that's not just doing stuff on your PC, stuff you'd do by yourself usually. Make it stand out.

 

I know it's relative but this might be the best piece of advice I'd give to anyone.

[sushi]

I said something/anything in the context of going outside. Because to some degree, video games and anime can be static and passive as hell for a tulpa. I try to make my tulpa participate in video games as much as I can, but we don't really talk all that much. Does it help with instilling her presence? Of course. But a tulpa can't do much when you play a video game but watch.

 

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It is fun to her as well, but I feel like that once we play a game together, she doesn't, or rather, can't participate as much as she could when we do anything in real life

 

I agree, but I'll add that I've found one good tulpa game: Monsters' Den: Book of Dread. It's basically Diablo-lite (or Fast-Crawl-heavy). Because it's turn-based, cooperative, and each character has a different strategy in combat, equipment, and character advancement, I think it's an ideal game for playing with a tulpa (or up to three tulpas), either through proxy or through possession. You can actually play together, and it encourages discussion. ("No, give that sword to me. I need the quickness, and you can have the one with the strength bonus." or "Just take out the orc in the back. I've got the other three.")