My tulpa wants romance?

[TheGianaJinx]

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[Sands]

Seeing how I got a tupper who likes me or uh, loves me I guess while I don't have the same feelings towards him but we can still live together nomally and comfortably, I guess I can say it's possible. What would I do? It's a relationship problem. It's a personal and unique case between you and him, just like it would be between you and some other person trying to court you while you don't want them to. I can't tell you what to do exactly, just like no one here can. Only you can make a difference. But talking about it is a really good start. Really pour those emotions and honest feelings in there, hell, you might even contradict yourself but show it all to your tupper. Feelings are complicated and it's difficult to understand them, but just letting them all out to a being who can fully understand them unlike no one else is a really good way to solve problems like these.

 

He can't force you into it, you don't have to do anything unless you want to. A friendship can have love in it and sometimes you can do things that might seem a bit too intimate to others if it makes your friend happy, but it's your call. You want to do something to make the other happy, sure. Just make sure they understand it's not going anywhere if you don't want it to, as it takes two people to have a relationship of some sort. Can't have only one willing you know, it'll end badly. Will it be disappointing to take you tupper and show them everything, especially when the answer in the end will be no? Well, most likely. But it will strengthen your friendship if you can come to an understanding. And again, you can show absolutely everything about yourself to the tupper, it's easy to understand each other even if you don't want to accept it. But we're here to be friends and shit, not to be rude assholes, right?

 

Tupper man, don't be a dick. Others don't like being touchy feely as much as you, I got a tupper who is really close to me - literally more often than not - and even annoying at times because of that. I don't hate him and I try my best to make him happy too, but it shouldn't be at my expense, just like it shouldn't be at you host's expense. It's easy to think that you will make them happy if they just gave you the chance, but that's not how it goes. They don't want to, they don't want to and they would be miserable. It's not true love to force someone to love you. It's true love if you let them be themselves and you can still love them. And hey, plenty of other fish in the sea if you ever fall out of love but want to find another love, eh?

[Nesq300]

No, don't fight it, nor let him treat you like a girlfriend. Talk about it.

 

Talk...

 

And actually, that's exactly what I did when I got in a very similar situation with my tulpa. She was in love with me, and I mean, love, not just love, but deep and true love. We sat down, and I asked her to tell me everything she felt. And oh boy she did. Now we know what to do with those feelings. But that's not important. The thing is, you should speak with him, tell him what you feel about his behavior, and ask him to tell you what he feels.

 

Be honest, put the cards on the table, and see what you can do.

[Nesq300]

I definitely can't hear him well enough yet to get him to actually discuss his feelings with me, but I'll certainly talk to him. He really doesn't say more than a few words strung together.

 

Oh... I should have taken that possibility into account, sorry about that.

 

I've said this before, Tulpas can talk with "intention". If you are receptive to it, you can understand a sentence that they are saying before it even materializes as a thought, so if he's having trouble communicating via thought you can always try listening for the intention of what he's saying.

 

And he's right.

 

Sometimes is better to just send the tulpa thoughts and intentions, to then see how the tulpa reacts and responds to those thoughts. Sue and I have also used that method and it is quite effective if you do it well enough. But still, the important part is to communicate. How exactly is up to you to decide.