I prefer cocreation instead of tulpamancy and cobud instead of tulpa
Edit (3/5/26): I forgot about instances involving schizophrenia or similar conditions. While this could still apply, I don't think it would be as useful of a resource.
Edit (3/9/26): I forgot about OCD, where intrusive thoughts also work differently
I think at this point, I should really emphasize on the may part here. I'm not a doctor or a therapist, just someone who wants to present the idea because it can be helpful advice for some.
In the past, we had some weird experiences with "intrusive thoughtforms". They acted like walk-ins/let-ins, but they were hostile. To deal with this in the past, we learned to recognize them as intrusive thoughts and then ignore them by having them sit in a "plush prison". And so we thought case closed, this is useful advice we could give later.
But more recently, we're starting to doubt this.
This is pretty rare, and suggesting intrusive thoughtforms are even possible to begin with isn't a great mindset for cocreators. Cocreation is a strongly controlled experience, in the beginning and even after once good communication is established. In the past, we were even "corrected" on them being "intrusive thoughts", not "intrusive thoughtforms".
I'm also thinking back on every story where someone cries out for help or gives up on cocreation because their cobud turned out to be "evil". Not all of them were trolling, I knew that. Not too long ago, we found another system's "evil cobuds" or "intrusive thoughtforms" turned out to be shadow work parts. We then self-reflected on our work with our unruly alter parts, compared them to our experiences with "intrusive thoughtforms", and realized... wait a minute. A plush prison? That's what we do for trauma parts so they can't hurt anyone or themselves. There was also something else that came up too, but I'd rather not get into it.
Thus, I want to leave you all with this- is your cobud or potential cobud-to-be lashing out, stressing you out deliberately, and/or saying they are evil and irredeemable? It's possible that's not a cobud, but an alter or an alter part. If it really is an intrusive thought... it will just disappear. I was wrong about "intrusive thoughts" that fight tooth and nail to stick around, that doesn't really make sense.
Then what? I don't recommend ignoring them. Instead, do a self-check. Is this too much for you to deal with right now? If it is, then you can simply tell the part they're not ready. Even if you have to walk away, that's still acknowledging them. If you can work on it, spending time with them will help build trust and you can go from there. They probably popped up because they were triggered by something recently. Regardless, I recommend seeing a mental health professional- trauma work is dangerous to do on your own.
I'm sorry for spreading dubious "advice" in the past. I can see how our old "advice" could be harmful to systems who do have trauma parts, and for cocreators who don't have trauma parts wondering if it could happen to them. And hopefully, maybe some of the systems lurking who are silently struggling with "evil tulpas" will finally get some answers and relief.
Edited by Ranger Added context update
Note: I'm hit-or-miss activity-wise on this account. I may not respond to PMs for awhile.
I'm Ranger, GrayTheCat's cobud (tulpa), and I love hippos! I also like cake and chatting about stuff. I go by Rosalin or Ronan sometimes. You can call me Roz but please don't call me Ron.
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I prefer cocreation instead of tulpamancy and cobud instead of tulpa
Edit (3/5/26): I forgot about instances involving schizophrenia or similar conditions. While this could still apply, I don't think it would be as useful of a resource.
Edit (3/9/26): I forgot about OCD, where intrusive thoughts also work differently
I think at this point, I should really emphasize on the may part here. I'm not a doctor or a therapist, just someone who wants to present the idea because it can be helpful advice for some.
In the past, we had some weird experiences with "intrusive thoughtforms". They acted like walk-ins/let-ins, but they were hostile. To deal with this in the past, we learned to recognize them as intrusive thoughts and then ignore them by having them sit in a "plush prison". And so we thought case closed, this is useful advice we could give later.
But more recently, we're starting to doubt this.
This is pretty rare, and suggesting intrusive thoughtforms are even possible to begin with isn't a great mindset for cocreators. Cocreation is a strongly controlled experience, in the beginning and even after once good communication is established. In the past, we were even "corrected" on them being "intrusive thoughts", not "intrusive thoughtforms".
I'm also thinking back on every story where someone cries out for help or gives up on cocreation because their cobud turned out to be "evil". Not all of them were trolling, I knew that. Not too long ago, we found another system's "evil cobuds" or "intrusive thoughtforms" turned out to be shadow work parts. We then self-reflected on our work with our unruly alter parts, compared them to our experiences with "intrusive thoughtforms", and realized... wait a minute. A plush prison? That's what we do for trauma parts so they can't hurt anyone or themselves. There was also something else that came up too, but I'd rather not get into it.
Edited by RangerThus, I want to leave you all with this- is your cobud or potential cobud-to-be lashing out, stressing you out deliberately, and/or saying they are evil and irredeemable? It's possible that's not a cobud, but an alter or an alter part. If it really is an intrusive thought... it will just disappear. I was wrong about "intrusive thoughts" that fight tooth and nail to stick around, that doesn't really make sense.
Then what? I don't recommend ignoring them. Instead, do a self-check. Is this too much for you to deal with right now? If it is, then you can simply tell the part they're not ready. Even if you have to walk away, that's still acknowledging them. If you can work on it, spending time with them will help build trust and you can go from there. They probably popped up because they were triggered by something recently. Regardless, I recommend seeing a mental health professional- trauma work is dangerous to do on your own.
I'm sorry for spreading dubious "advice" in the past. I can see how our old "advice" could be harmful to systems who do have trauma parts, and for cocreators who don't have trauma parts wondering if it could happen to them. And hopefully, maybe some of the systems lurking who are silently struggling with "evil tulpas" will finally get some answers and relief.
Added context update
Note: I'm hit-or-miss activity-wise on this account. I may not respond to PMs for awhile.
I'm Ranger, GrayTheCat's cobud (tulpa), and I love hippos! I also like cake and chatting about stuff. I go by Rosalin or Ronan sometimes. You can call me Roz but please don't call me Ron.
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