some questions from a newbie

[Kirito]

I first tulpaforced earlier this year and actually got to the point that I had an emotional response, which I still remember vividly.

I was in the IRC and my name was Eragon[Arya] because I lack creativity and just based my tulpa's appearance off of Arya from those books and tulpaforced by reading them to her, anyway, someone noticed and said it was cute, and I told Arya that and I remember feeling this warm pleased sensation in the back of my head.

Unfortunately after that I just didn't have much free time and when I did I was usually under a lot of stress and couldn't tulpaforce and I finally do have the time now.

 

Anyway on to the questions

 

1: Is it okay if I 'change' her name? When she is sentient I do plan on asking her if she'd like to be called something different, but for now I'd like to call her Flurry instead of Arya if I can.

 

2: Lets face it, I'm a male teen and I've read through a lot of the forum threads about tulpa sex. I have thought about it and I am open to it, BUT I don't want to focus on it, or anything sexual for that matter, I don't even plan on giving her genitals until later (I have another question on that too) I don't want a tulpa just for sex, is it okay to tulpaforce horny, or will that somehow affect her?

 

3: Can I, or can she, change her appearance later, or more specifically when she is sentient?

 

4: My final question for now, can I tulpaforce with her, simply by watching television or a movie and focusing on her, and talking to her about what were watching?

I did the same with a book which seemed to work, but I was reading that aloud to her, which has a personal touch that television doesn't.

[Evial]

Please dont take this in the wrong way

 

1 - A question you could ask her possibly? Im sure its fine to change her name when she is sentient but make sure she is okay with it.

 

2 - The way you make her is the way she will live, She can be horny but, when you talk to her it would be a bit akward if she brought up the word *** in later times when she is vocal.

 

3 - Yes

 

4 - Yes this would be called passive forcing, not as strong as forcing itself, but it works. You can talk about ANYTHING to your tulpa

[Chupi]

1. I see no reason not to, given that you're going to let her choose a real name when she's able to. Just don't change it often or you might confuse her.

 

2. It won't affect her directly much, but being horny probably makes you a bit less able to focus properly. It also makes you more likely to subconsciously project some of that onto her. You may want to do something about that a little bit before you force.

 

3. Yes. Either, though once she gets going, if you make a change she doesn't like she'll just undo it.

 

4. Idle chat and sharing an experience are passive forcing. Some people get results from just passive forcing with a LOT of talking to their tulpa. Still, I highly recommend active forcing, which involves sitting, relaxing and getting into a trance before working with your tulpa. A light to medium trance seems to help with just about everything mental you do during it.

[Maelstrom]

Unfortunately after that I just didn't have much free time and when I did I was usually under a lot of stress and couldn't tulpaforce and I finally do have the time now.

 

You may feel you have the time now, but what are you going to do in the future when you are under a lot of stress again (which will happen eventually)? Everyone has to find a solution to this at some point. Do you have one now?

 

1: Is it okay if I 'change' her name? When she is sentient I do plan on asking her if she'd like to be called something different, but for now I'd like to call her Flurry instead of Arya if I can.

 

As long as you are associating the idea of your tulpa with the name, you can change the name. If your mind keeps returning to a different name, it's a good indication of what she wants. So keep an open mind about it. It can happen earlier than you think.

 

2: Lets face it, I'm a male teen and I've read through a lot of the forum threads about tulpa sex. I have thought about it and I am open to it, BUT I don't want to focus on it, or anything sexual for that matter, I don't even plan on giving her genitals until later (I have another question on that too) I don't want a tulpa just for sex, is it okay to tulpaforce horny, or will that somehow affect her?

 

It won't affect her. Being horny isn't a sign of love, though she may mis-interpret it in her early months. She wouldn't be the first to do so. Make sure you discuss it with her if it is making you uncomfortable. That's half the point (imo) of having a tulpa.

 

3: Can I, or can she, change her appearance later, or more specifically when she is sentient?

 

She probably won't thank you for changing her appearance for her, but you can suggest stuff and hope she listens. Yes, she can change her own appearance. If this is related to question 2, you may find she will take care of that herself or she may not. Your mileage will vary with this one. You can't predict deviations for the most part.

 

4: My final question for now, can I tulpaforce with her, simply by watching television or a movie and focusing on her, and talking to her about what were watching?

I did the same with a book which seemed to work, but I was reading that aloud to her, which has a personal touch that television doesn't.

 

Hey look! An answer to the first thing I typed. Include your tulpa in your daily life. All they really want to have is attention, and you will be able to learn more about them (likes/dislikes, etc.). As Evial said, it's called passive forcing. You can form a tulpa entirely from passive forcing if you wish. Most tulpamancers here find a comfortable mix of passive and active though, including myself.