My tulpa can't get my attention

[Jess]

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[Gatcha Gatcha]

Hey guys.

 

I've looked on the search and I can't quite find anything relevant, I don't know if I'm being blind, sorry if so...

 

Anyway, Kye is pretty vocal but only when I first initiate contact. It has been this way for around a month now but he is getting really frustrated that he can't talk to me when I'm not thinking about him.

 

[i keep trying and trying but if she isn't listening I just can't get through. I'm at a loss for what to do and it makes me want to not even bother].

 

Is there anything that I could be doing that could somehow help?

 

Do you get thoughts that might be in the form of her trying to communicate with you?

 

Tell him to address you by saying your first name first, then what he has to say.

[Quilten]

I find that whenever I think about tulpae or any related subject, it is usually my tuppers trying to get my attention, so just initiate conversation every time the thought of anything tulpa-related pops into your head. Eventually it will become natural.

[Linkzelda]

Logic follows that if your tulpa is trying to get your attention, you’re actually in a better position than most that try to establish some interaction during their initial stages with pre-sentience and all.

 

When it comes to the host having to pay attention to a fluently vocal tulpa, it’s the mere fact that the host has to take the initiative first (at least before things become natural like Quilten stated) to listen that may cause concerns.

 

However, try to take this from a different perspective. Just like any other conversation with a friend, family member, and other peers and individuals, it’s all a matter of actually paying attention to them rather than trying to predict what they’re saying. Though I’m not declaring you’re predicting what he’s saying since he’s probably at the point where your attachment towards gauging his potential responses would be slower than him speaking.

 

What I’m trying to get at here is that you’re probably worried that you (the tulpa) won’t get the attention that you want. But just note that your host is obviously trying to communicate to you more, and you shouldn’t expect them to always be aware of your silence, it’s practically improbable unless your host just has some kind of cognitive ability to detect nonverbal emotions before they even happen.

 

Take this experience as a reminder that you should continue developing your conversational skills a bit more. Just like Gatcha Gatcha mentioned, state your host’s name while you’re in the process of making an icebreaker in the conversation. Then just do what you’re naturally inclined to do when talking to him.

 

Don’t take your silence and turn it into a potential angst and pouting, talk to him like anyone would to get someone into a conversation. You may be sharing the same mind or whatever implications and symbolism you want to believe, but he can’t be aware of everything you’re in the process of thinking and saying in advance. Don't take for granted that you're even able to be aware of learning basic conversational patterns to utilize for interaction.

 

TL;DR:

 

101 on How to Become a Better Conversationalist

 

If push comes to shove in trying to get your host to pay attention to you, do this:

 

As a host:

 

1. Tell your tulpa that anytime they want to communicate with you, inform them that they'll have to state your name (i.e. Hey Jess...Jess? I have something to talk about) or anything like a normal human being would do.

 

As a tulpa:

 

Do #1 and mix up your options in getting their attention, you're more than capable of being able to learn and deduce which form of conversational patterns will get your host's attention more.