How arrogant is your tulpa?

[Sadame]

Definitely agreed on the realism front. You don't do anybody any favours by keeping the realities of life out if your tulpa is supposed to be a sensible adult that lives in the real world (despite the obvious limits). And even with all possible loveydoveyness, there's a big difference between them being special to you in a subjective way and them being objectively the specialest most precious being in the world that should rightfully be away from all negativity forever because their specialness would be scratched or whatever. And it's good if they know that difference from the start.

 

That said, there's also a big difference between ego and arrogance. Ego is important, all the more to someone who has only that and their sense of self without recourse to a body (except for the host's). But to regular humans, too, a lack of ego is usually a problem. And if you go Freudian, your ego is what negotiates everything within yourself and makes decisions, and how can you be a person if you don't do that enough? That's just being a mass of potential being pulled in all directions. I'm glad my tulpa has a decently sized ego so he's able to live in the world and be content.

 

And being able to like that ego oneself is good and healthy. If you don't like something about your self, you try and fix it so you can start liking it again. None of that has anything to do with arrogance.