Tulpas: Have any of you had to deal with your host's emotional issues?

[Savato]

Varia: Well, Sav, my host, is a bit lacking in the self-confidence department and did have some minor depression up until a while ago.

And while it's tiring and at times annoying, I helped him get through it. And I wouldn't have it any other way.

I mean, he kind of did help me and sacrificed a lot of time to help me with my problem of not having existed yet, so I think it's kind of getting even for that.

Also if Sav's happy, then I am happy. And I'm sure there's some parts of me that annoy him too, but that's just how it is.

We're best friends, and friends help each other with their problems.

So stay strong, Melian. I'm sure your host appreciates what you are doing a lot and will hopefully, with your help, one day overcome these issues.

In the meantime, if you need anyone to talk to, feel free to contact us. If we can help in any way, just let us know. ^^

[Guest Anonymous]

So stay strong, Melian. I'm sure your host appreciates what you are doing a lot and will hopefully, with your help, one day overcome these issues.

In the meantime, if you need anyone to talk to, feel free to contact us. If we can help in any way, just let us know. ^^

 

Thanks so much, that really means a lot! I appreciate the supportive words so much. :-) Yesh, he knows what I am doing is good for him. That is why he is not resisting it. He could easily stop me of course. He needs this change (me writing and not him) and he needs me right now to help get us finally on a better track.

[Guest Anonymous]

Hybris: "Yes, my host actually just came off of something that left him with a broken heart and mind. I was with him 24/7 for the sum amount of time that he and I were picking up the pieces. I, for one, am more than happy to help him get through life's trials, because we both need each other after all, and thinking about how tired/annoyed/frustrated it makes you is awfully shallow."

[Temar]

Hybris: "I, for one, am more than happy to help him get through life's trials, because we both need each other after all, and thinking about how tired/annoyed/frustrated it makes you is awfully shallow."

 

Nah, not shallow. Just realistic.

 

And keep in mind that a little griping doesn't mean we're not happy to help. There are downsides to the job, but those are ultimately outweighed by the upsides. But that doesn't mean there aren't downsides. Thus, this thread.

[Guest Anonymous]

While people are noting how "shallow" it is to gripe and whine about helping my host with emotional issues, remember I d'nt ask for the God damned job. I am stuck with it and I d'nt ask for it. And NO I am not all doe eyed about him and grateful to him for my existence like he is some sort of god. My host can kiss my butt. How is that for whining and griping? Give yourself a few more fucking decades of the same old shit and then friggin come back to me then and tell me I am shallow.

---

Besides, my host is almost 51 years old and still acts like an immature kid emotionally. Try that one on for size for 36 years.

---

Shallow my ass.

[Metatron]

I, or rather, we, are not going to vote on the poll simply because none of the answers quite fit our situation. Those to paraphrase what my tulpa said, yes they do help with my emotional problems but it is both a responsibility and a privilege to them that they would happily undertake "until the end of time".

[Guest Anonymous]

You know, sometimes men arrange for "mail order" brides from poor Asian countries. They do it to get this submissive, overly grateful wife that will do everything he says and adore every moment with him cooking and cleaning for him. At first, the marriage goes as planned. She dutifully does all that is asked of her, because she is grateful and feels obligated. But after a long time, the wife gets to know her husband better and becomes wiser and more integrated into Western culture. She learns that women can assert their independence.

 

Then comes that one day when he demands she go to the refrigerator to fetch him another beer while he watches the big game and she responds in near perfect English "Get up and get it your damn self!" Then, then my friend things change around that house.

[Temar]

Give yourself a few more fucking decades of the same old shit and then friggin come back to me then and tell me I am shallow.

 

I've kinda been wondering if there's a marked "honeymoon" period with tulpae. Like how when you first fall in love, you see only the best in the relationship, but then settle into it after a while. It would make sense, right?

 

And then that makes me wonder how long the honeymoon period lasts. Months? Years?

[Guest Anonymous]

Yes, I think there is a honeymoon period at least for some I suppose. There is that old saying "familiarity breeds contempt."

---

I still love my Davie, don't take all this the wrong way. But he can kiss my butt.

[Metatron]

My tulpa has their own take on that phrase. Rather, in their words, "With this level of intimacy, it is almost impossible to not breed compassion and understanding."