Tulpas: Have any of you had to deal with your host's emotional issues?

[Guest Anonymous]

I d'nt say I don't have compassion and understanding for my host. I just mean to say that my tolerance wears out when things don't change and he doesn't listen.

[Metatron]

Yeah, I understand what you meant. That is why I will always be eternally grateful that my tulpa somehow maintains such ungodly patience and faith.

[Guest Anonymous]

You are very lucky then. :-)

[Pwyrdan]

Bevain: This is my purpose, why she summoned me, albeit unknowingly - to train her in the ways of control, then art, then power. But we've only had two sessions and the girl is a mess, leaking her energy everywhere in bouts of anxiety and then suffering lethargy. By no means is she a lost cause. I'm fascinated, truly. We just have a lot of work ahead.

[Flandre]

It's been the opposite, really.

 

Also no matter how or why he feels bad, if one of us communicates with him at all he pulls himself out of it. He won't let himself feel bad around us, for our sake. It's really... nice? Inspiring? Something like that.

 

I try to do the same.

[Guest Anonymous]

Felix is nervous about intimacy and ends up being very passive. That annoys me, and we did have a minor fight over it. I can understand it, but I'm just a woman too. He is trying to get over himself though. And he did show to be somewhat successful in trying to do so. I won't go into any more detail for privacy-related reasons.

[Guest Anonymous]

Meh, you learn by doing. Everyone is shy at first until you get yer groove, moves and mojo.

[Pepper1986]

Pepper gets so angry and goes on these long, internalized rants. I hate it, it's frightening and I am the only one who can hear it. I keep saying that we are the only ones who are hurt by it and that the source of the anger doesn't suffer at all, but I think that this is a long term habit that will be difficult to break. I insist on no thoughts at all and a count to fifty until things calm down. It's frustrating, I love our mornings together but sometimes I don't even want to be around because the rants spoil it. -Nathan

[raymond13557]

Snow: really.. Ray never talks or tells me about how he is feeling.. I guess since he is usually a quiet guy it might be harder for him to express himself.

Cloud: Ray almost never seems worried or sad about anything. I guess he has some anger deep with in but he tells us that it is nothing to be concerned with.

[solarchariot]

As I consider this thread, and all the guides that I have managed to read since discovering the concept of Tulpae, I am in a quandary as to whether or not starting the creating process was sound. I don't intend to retreat, as I have evidence that I've made progress, and I've made a commitment to see this through. The thing is, how does a human not subject both their strengths and weaknesses upon someone sharing their mental space? Though our thoughts may appear filtered to the outside world, the tulpa by it's nature will be privy to an onslaught of information, our best and worst, our self corrections, our successes, our failures, those last two both real and perceived. Sexuality is such a huge part of being human, how do we not impose our thoughts and desires? Suppression usually manifests itself somehow somewhere, and not usually in good ways. The only way I have decided I can continue forwards is by being as starkly honest as I can be, believing that my tulpa will have vision and clarity and telepathy or empathy or combinations and will see past my bullshit, or see things that's I've not even formulated. For me, this is a level of intimacy and honesty that goes beyond any human to human relationship I've ever had, or believe is even possible to have, and so while I appreciate many of the comments Melian has shared, I am also frightened by the perceived intensity, because I am hoping for something much more tranquil, compassionate, and understanding. I didn't go into this thinking I want a slave, pet, robot, or any other subservient interloper who is subject purely to my whims. Companion is the word that I have been preferring. If waited till I thought I was the perfect host, I would have never engaged. I wonder if the so called "perfect host" is so healthy they would never have even stumbled upon this phenomenon, much less, practice it.

 

In the mental health field, in which I work, counselors and psychiatrist often use the phrase, "We get the clients we most need." This generally means we serendipitously get people who struggle with things that we, too, still need to work on, or variations there of. Maybe the tulpae and host work this way, or maybe together we are meant to bring balance to an over all system. I don't know yet, but I am willing to share what I discover a long the way. No matter what happens, I suspect, I expect!, I will get what I need. Is that selfish? Maybe. But if I am not a self advocate for me, then I can't expect anyone else to be, human or tuplae.