Soulbond is Afraid of the Mindscape

[Sake Loup]

I think this is the right section for this, if not, let me know, I'm sorry. ^^;

 

So, last night me and Alex were going to try working on a wonderland, but we ran into a problem.

 

You see Alex is different from most other sentient beings from what I've read so far. It seems most tulpas/soulbonds/headmates/ect seem to live mainly in the mindscape and most even prefer it. Alex does not, I mean very early on he used to be in the mindscape, but this was only for a very short time and he hasn't been back inside in years. He likes to stay outside of my mind if you will, imposing a visual form by my side in real life. Even though I have trouble focusing on his form sometimes, he still refuses to leave my side. He says he likes the outside world better anyway.

 

So the problem we ran into with the wonderland last night is that in order to try we would have to go into the mindscape. Now at first it was ok, Alex was able to channel a form back into the mindscape, but suddenly he felt as if he was getting stuck, so we decided to abort the mission and withdraw him back to the outside till he felt better. Unfortunately he really did get stuck in the mindscape for a little bit and it was hard for me to help him back out. Even when we finally did get him back to the outside, our connection was weak and I was having a slightly harder time than usual visualizing his form. It didn't last too long though and recovered by this morning. However now Alex is absolutely terrified of trying anything like that again for fear of getting stuck permanently. He says he'd rather not have a wonderland at all if it means getting stuck in there, he already deals with emotional pain of not having a body to hold and love me with, he doesn't think he could bare it if he didn't have a visual outside form to stay next to me either.

 

I don't want to force him to do something he's scared of. Has any other soulbond/tulpa/ect had this problem? Were you able to overcome it? If so, how?

[Madamned]

Well, since Tupas are created by you perhaps you need to be more in touch with your feelings, desires or fears. Could it be that you want your tulpa present or that if they go into dreamscape or wonderland ect that you fear you wont be able to conjure them in physical form again or perhaps you have low selfesteem and fear they will come to like it there more than being your companion during your day to day life?

[Guest]

I doubt there's anything to worry about.

[Ranger]

My host has this wonderland called the "Gray Dimension", and it's not my favorite place to visit. It gives me bad vibes sometimes. When she talks to me, I usually build my own room or scene instead of go there.

 

Usually when talking to my host I prefer to stand in a void or impose myself irl. I find the wonderland to be fairly distracting for my host when she's trying to force passively.

 

If Alex would like to focus on making his form more stable, then there's no need for an elaborate wonderland. A simple small void he can work with will do. If he is ready for something more elaborate, maybe he can make all of the scenery and such so he has control over the situation and doesn't have to worry about getting stuck.